Hello everyone! I got rings for my bridesmaids and the two mothers. They aren't sized yet and I want them to wear them on my wedding. The wedding is September 12, 2015. I know traditionally I am supposed to give them there gifts at the rehearsal dinner, but I can't because of the sizing issue. Does anybody have any suggestions on when to give them their rings?? Thanks!
Re: bridesmaids gifts question
What is it about these rings that you want them to wear 'em on your wedding day? Why does it matter if they don't start wearing it right away?
I agree that it might be a nice gift, but if you are expecting them to wear it in your wedding, it's really part of the uniform. If you want to still give the rings as a gift you should also give them something else on the side that they can have as a token of appreciation to keep/use do whatever with whenever they want. It doesn't have to be something big, maybe a framed picture of you and each of your bridesmaids with a personal letter thanking them...but something that they are NOT expected to wear or use in your ceremony.
As for the ring sizing...you either have to ask them, or "borrow" a ring of theirs and have a professional size that ring you bring them
I did the wedding jewelry as part of my gift, but not all the girls could make it to the rehearsal. To make sure they had things in time to plan hairstyles (part of my jewelry was hairpins) I gave them their gifts at the bridal shower instead. It worked out fine.
We recommend shopping for gifts like it's the girl's birthday because it lets them know that the gift is truly thoughtful. Giving jewelry can be selfish in that brides want their BP to wear it specifically to look nice in photos. People's taste in jewelry also highly varies, so a "one type for all" doesn't usually work out well.
The cowboy boots are killing me.
She's essentially asking, "Why does it have to be my responsibility to pay for the decorations at the wedding that I want?" She wants to decorate her BMs at their expense.
Matching jewelry is the same concept. If you can get different jewelry for your BMs in each of their individual styles, go for it. But if you're not sure that it is their individual style, then why on earth would you waste your money? Oh, right, because it's not really a gift for them. I've never seen one of my BMs wear necklaces, and my MOH doesn't have her ears pierced. My sister doesn't wear bracelets, but does wear a ton of rings. My SIL wears no rings except her wedding ring. If I got them jewelry, it would all have to be totally different in type as well as style.
BTW, OP, the cowboy boot trend ended a few years ago.
I know my bridesmaids well enough (And I hope you do too) to know that they would like jewelry as a gift, so if you think a ring is the way to go, excellent! I would maybe give it to them at your Bridal Shower, and then let them know you'll gladly get them sized to fit and they can wear it to the wedding or not. If you still want to get them something on your wedding day, you could always opt for something small, like a clutch. That was one of my favorite gifts I got as a bridesmaid, and it had jewelry in it as well. I was just grateful to be part of her big day. I've also gotten giftcards to my favorite coffee place. (She got each girl a giftcard to one of her favorite places.)