Gift for my Parents

Re: Gift for my Parents

• redoryx member

  

  February 2015

  Knottie15038657 said:

  I am very close with my parents and they are completely paying for the wedding. 

  
  

  I want to register for something nice and give it to them after the wedding, I would love some ideas! Something I could register for at Macy's Sears or Bed Bath and Beyond, I'm thinking Macy's. 

  
  

  Also, I want to give them something the day of the wedding, so I'd love some ideas for that too.

  
  

  My dad loves photography and is retired, my mom is a federal judge, they take dancing lessons once a week together and have for like a decade. Trying to think of other things they like... they both LOVE their golden retriever. 

  
  

  Thank you all in advance for the help!! 

  I'm confused: are you planning on adding this item to your registry and having one of your guests pay for it? If not, I don't know why you need to register and not just buy it outright yourself.

  

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  February 2015

  WHAT?! You don't register for a gift that someone else will pay for and then give it to your parents. If you want to give them something you save up the money and buy it yourself.

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• Knottie15038657 member

  

  March 2015

  I have no money so I was thinking of registering for something with the intent of giving it to them as a gift afterward

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• Lauderdale Pink member

  

  March 2015

  I really understand that you want to give your parents a gift, but your guests are not buying you a gift so that you can re-gift it.  A federal judge for a mother would definitely not like the deceptive nature of that "gift".  You know when your wedding is and you know how much time you have to save some money.  Put your big girl pants on and figure out what you can sacrifice over the next few months (say lunch once or twice a week) so you will have enough money for a thoughtful gift that is from you and hubby.  My most treasured gift from my daughter and her hubby from their wedding is a framed photograph from one of their vacations.  They gave it to me after the RD.  I am sure the frame came from Marshall's and did not cost much at all.  It may as well be the Hope Diamond though for its value in my life. 

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• kmmssg mod

  

  March 2015

  Knottie15038657 said:

  I have no money so I was thinking of registering for something with the intent of giving it to them as a gift afterward

  You don't need any money.  Trust me, I have had 4 girls get married and I paid for their weddings.  If you really want to blow their socks off, sit down and write a letter from your heart - how much you appreciate the way they raised you, how much you love them, and how appreciative you are that they are paying for your wedding.  Give that to them the night before your wedding (a box of Puffs might also be a nice addition). When your pictures come back give them one of the 3 of you in a nice frame.  You can't beat that.

  
  

  Do not have someone else purchase their gift from your registry.  Then it really isn't from  you AND you are kind of deceiving the gift giver into thinking they are giving you a gift when  you are really going to pass it on.  Trust me, grab a pen and you will be good to go.

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• redoryx member

  

  March 2015

  Knottie15038657 said:

  I have no money so I was thinking of registering for something with the intent of giving it to them as a gift afterward

  You don't have to spend money to give them a meaningful gift. Sit down, write a heartfelt letter. Trust me, that will mean more to them than any boxed gift.

  
  

  Either way, it is VERY VERY inappropriate to register for something and make one of your guests pay for it just so you can gift it to your parents because you don't have the money to pay for it yourself.

  

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• Knottie15038657 member

  

  March 2015

  Thanks for the input everyone! I saw this as an idea on a wedding planning community and was considering it. The more I think about it the worse of an idea it is. 

  
  

  I really love The Knot especially for its community, and it's sort of disappointing how harsh many of you have been on this thread. 

  
  

  Again, thank you for the input! Idea trashed.

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• redoryx member

  

  March 2015

  Knottie15038657 said:

  Thanks for the input everyone! I saw this as an idea on a wedding planning community and was considering it. The more I think about it the worse of an idea it is. 

  
  

  I really love The Knot especially for its community, and it's sort of disappointing how harsh many of you have been on this thread. 

  
  

  Again, thank you for the input! Idea trashed.

  Nobody has been harsh in this thread. 

  

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• OliveOilsMom member

  

  March 2015

  Knottie15038657 said:

  Thanks for the input everyone! I saw this as an idea on a wedding planning community and was considering it. The more I think about it the worse of an idea it is. 

  
  

  I really love The Knot especially for its community, and it's sort of disappointing how harsh many of you have been on this thread. 

  
  

  Again, thank you for the input! Idea trashed.

  Think of just how awkward it would have been if your parents purchased and gifted to you, the item that you really wanted to give them!  

  
  

  And you seriously can't think that anyone on this thread has been harsh, right?  That must have been a joke!  You are so funny OP!

  

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• Viczaesar member

  

  March 2015

  Knottie15038657 said:

  I have no money so I was thinking of registering for something with the intent of giving it to them as a gift afterward

  WTF?  No.  That is so incredibly not okay.
  

  
  
  
  

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• redoryx member

  

  March 2015

  OliveOilsMom said:

  Knottie15038657 said:

  Thanks for the input everyone! I saw this as an idea on a wedding planning community and was considering it. The more I think about it the worse of an idea it is. 

  
  

  I really love The Knot especially for its community, and it's sort of disappointing how harsh many of you have been on this thread. 

  
  

  Again, thank you for the input! Idea trashed.

  Think of just how awkward it would have been if your parents purchased and gifted to you, the item that you really wanted to give them!  

  
  

  And you seriously can't think that anyone on this thread has been harsh, right?  That must have been a joke!  You are so funny OP!

  Or what if the person who did buy it is at the parents' house and comments on how they bought the exact same thing for the OP for the wedding and the parents' go, "Oh, how funny, she gave this to us after the wedding. Hey, wait a minute...." 

  
  

  Or what if nobody buys it and the OP doesn't have a back up plan? Or what if somebody does buy it but something happens and it arrives damaged or doesn't arrive at all or arrives a couple weeks after the wedding? 
  

  
  

  Seriously, this is a HORRIBLE idea. Who the hell is suggesting this? 

  

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• blabla89 member

  

  March 2015

  A parent gift doesn't have to be expensive, but for the love of everything, it should NOT be re-gifted. Even if you intended it for them from the start. That is so. unbelievably. rude. to both the person who buys it from your registry and to your parents.
  
  Buy a nice picture frame (again, doesn't have to be expensive) with a print of one of your wedding pictures, and a nice, heartfelt card about how grateful you are.
  

  

  
  
  

  
  

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• slothiegal member

  

  March 2015

  You needed someone to TELL you that registering for a gift with every intention of regifting it, TO YOUR PARENTS NO LESS, and then have the gall to say that people were "harsh" with their answers when they said this was a bad idea?

  
  

  Honey, be glad PPs got to this thread before I did.

  

  
  

  
  

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• levioosa member

  

  March 2015

  PPs have it covered.  My first thoughts were something between "WTF" and "Oh, honey no."  Totally inappropriate.  A heartfelt letter would be way better than the horrible idea that you had. 
  
  Oh, and my mother would know in a heartbeat that she was getting a re-gift, because she would have been all over my registry analyzing it before the wedding.  And her feelings would be incredibly hurt to get something like that.  There are much better options out there that will cost you little to nothing, and still be meaningful. 
  

  
  

  
  

  

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• MobKaz member

  

  March 2015

  Knottie15038657 said:

  Thanks for the input everyone! I saw this as an idea on a wedding planning community and was considering it. The more I think about it the worse of an idea it is. 

  
  

  I really love The Knot especially for its community, and it's sort of disappointing how harsh many of you have been on this thread. 

  
  

  Again, thank you for the input! Idea trashed.

  You ask a question how to best gift your parents via fraud and deceit, but we're harsh?? 
  

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• Knottie45547263 member

  

  March 2015 edited March 2015

  Yikes - is this for real? It's nice that they are paying for your wedding, but if you are unable to purchase them a simple gift I feel something is amiss? Are you jobless? Why don't you have any money? Are they paying for your wedding more out of obligation or did you ask them to support your nupticals? Will you and your FI be able to support yourselves after the wedding? So many unanswered questions. 

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• bizzy592 member

  

  March 2015

  Wow. Just, wow. I have so many questions...
  
  How do you and you FI plan to support yourselves? Will he support you? Will your parents or his support you as a couple? Are you in school? Were you both victims of a freak gasoline fight accident? Were you featured on My Super Sweet Sixteen?
  
  
  
  
  

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