Ceremony and Reception on different days

Maggie0829 · March 2015

PrettyGirlLost said:

mobride2015 said:
I think it sounds weird, and far too much trouble. I have only gone to a wedding reception before and not the ceremony, however. My coworker got married and I wasn't really up for the really long Catholic Mass so we just went to the reception to celebrate with her and her new husband.
The "long Catholic mass" was their wedding.
You were invited to their wedding, but opted to not go to their wedding, but still eat their food and drink their drinks, at a party that's meant as a thank you for going to their wedding. Which you didn't.

For lurkers:
Unless the couple has a crazy rude gap (like the OP is suggesting) or you have a legitimate scheduling conflict or it's a private ceremony, it's not very considerate to skip the ceremony and go straight to the party. One would assume, if you decide to attend any part of the wedding, that you care about the couple and would actually want to see them get married.

Yep.

And cut me a break, a Catholic mass is 45mins to an hour max. Many non Catholic and secular ceremonies are 30mins. . . you couldn't sit through an extra 15mins? Oh the Humanity!

Many funerals are like an hour long. Do people skip the funerals and just go to the wakes afterwards too?

Uh, yeah. It is all about the free food dammit!

dcbride86 · March 2015

aurianna said:

mobride2015 said:
I think it sounds weird, and far too much trouble. I have only gone to a wedding reception before and not the ceremony, however. My coworker got married and I wasn't really up for the really long Catholic Mass so we just went to the reception to celebrate with her and her new husband.
The "long Catholic mass" was their wedding.
You were invited to their wedding, but opted to not go to their wedding, but still eat their food and drink their drinks, at a party that's meant as a thank you for going to their wedding. Which you didn't.

For lurkers:
Unless the couple has a crazy rude gap (like the OP is suggesting) or you have a legitimate scheduling conflict or it's a private ceremony, it's not very considerate to skip the ceremony and go straight to the party. One would assume, if you decide to attend any part of the wedding, that you care about the couple and would actually want to see them get married.

I agree. I find this to be so rude. If you can't be bothered to sit through the ceremony, then you shouldn't attend the thank you for doing so.

dcbride86 · March 2015

PrettyGirlLost said:

aurianna said:

mobride2015 said:
I think it sounds weird, and far too much trouble. I have only gone to a wedding reception before and not the ceremony, however. My coworker got married and I wasn't really up for the really long Catholic Mass so we just went to the reception to celebrate with her and her new husband.
The "long Catholic mass" was their wedding.
You were invited to their wedding, but opted to not go to their wedding, but still eat their food and drink their drinks, at a party that's meant as a thank you for going to their wedding. Which you didn't.

For lurkers:
Unless the couple has a crazy rude gap (like the OP is suggesting) or you have a legitimate scheduling conflict or it's a private ceremony, it's not very considerate to skip the ceremony and go straight to the party. One would assume, if you decide to attend any part of the wedding, that you care about the couple and would actually want to see them get married.
Yep.

And cut me a break, a Catholic mass is 45mins to an hour max. Many non Catholic and secular ceremonies are 30mins. . . you couldn't sit through an extra 15mins? Oh the Humanity!

Many funerals are like an hour long. Do people skip the funerals and just go to the wakes afterwards too?

This. When I was 12-years-old, I attended several bar and bat-mitzvahs. My family attended a conservative synogogue, where the services were about 3 hours (sometimes longer). At 12-years-old, my friends (Jewish and not) and I managed to sit there respectfully. You're a grown adult. If you want to attend the party, you, too, can sit respectfully through a ceremony shorter than the ones I sat through as a child.

redoryx · March 2015

mobride2015 said:
I think it sounds weird, and far too much trouble. I have only gone to a wedding reception before and not the ceremony, however. My coworker got married and I wasn't really up for the really long Catholic Mass so we just went to the reception to celebrate with her and her new husband.

Except the reception isn't there to celebrate the couple. It's there to thank the guests who attended the ceremony...which you skipped.

climbingsingle · March 2015

dcbride86 said:

aurianna said:

mobride2015 said:
I think it sounds weird, and far too much trouble. I have only gone to a wedding reception before and not the ceremony, however. My coworker got married and I wasn't really up for the really long Catholic Mass so we just went to the reception to celebrate with her and her new husband.
The "long Catholic mass" was their wedding.
You were invited to their wedding, but opted to not go to their wedding, but still eat their food and drink their drinks, at a party that's meant as a thank you for going to their wedding. Which you didn't.

For lurkers:
Unless the couple has a crazy rude gap (like the OP is suggesting) or you have a legitimate scheduling conflict or it's a private ceremony, it's not very considerate to skip the ceremony and go straight to the party. One would assume, if you decide to attend any part of the wedding, that you care about the couple and would actually want to see them get married.

I agree. I find this to be so rude. If you can't be bothered to sit through the ceremony, then you shouldn't attend the thank you for doing so.

Totally 100% agree. That's so freaking rude.

I grew up Catholic - not by choice. My parents forced it on me. As soon as I was old enough, I stopped going to church. I hate church and any kind of mass. But if someone is getting married in a Catholic church (or any church!), I go. You can suck it up for an hour. Seriously. Grow up.

banana468 · March 2015

climbingwife said:

dcbride86 said:

aurianna said:

mobride2015 said:
I think it sounds weird, and far too much trouble. I have only gone to a wedding reception before and not the ceremony, however. My coworker got married and I wasn't really up for the really long Catholic Mass so we just went to the reception to celebrate with her and her new husband.
The "long Catholic mass" was their wedding.
You were invited to their wedding, but opted to not go to their wedding, but still eat their food and drink their drinks, at a party that's meant as a thank you for going to their wedding. Which you didn't.

For lurkers:
Unless the couple has a crazy rude gap (like the OP is suggesting) or you have a legitimate scheduling conflict or it's a private ceremony, it's not very considerate to skip the ceremony and go straight to the party. One would assume, if you decide to attend any part of the wedding, that you care about the couple and would actually want to see them get married.

I agree. I find this to be so rude. If you can't be bothered to sit through the ceremony, then you shouldn't attend the thank you for doing so.
Totally 100% agree. That's so freaking rude.

I grew up Catholic - not by choice. My parents forced it on me. As soon as I was old enough, I stopped going to church. I hate church and any kind of mass. But if someone is getting married in a Catholic church (or any church!), I go. You can suck it up for an hour. Seriously. Grow up.

This.

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