So, I'm the MOH in my best friend's wedding. She has lived out of state for the past 10 years or so, but we've remained close taking girls weekends together and talking often.
She has a clique of local friends where she's gone to all of their bachelorette parties and inviting them to hers, of course. The norm in their circle is for one person to book EVERYONE'S hotel on their one CC and then the other girls mail them a check before the party of the amount they owe. Some girls are local, so not everyone will need a hotel - it's not a destination bachelorette (only for me & her other bridesmaid who needs to travel!!).
I am not comfortable footing the bill for everyone and them mailing the check to me when I don't even personally know them. I'm just not comfortable with it and honestly I don't understand why they do it that way when they're all adults and should be able to figure out their own accommodations if they plan to drink THAT much.
Is it appropriate to just let them know where the bride & I are staying and advise that if they want a room - here's the link to the hotel?
Interested to see how others' arrange these! I've never planned one before.
Re: Bachelorette Party Planning - Hotel Booking Advice Needed!
Yes, that's totally fine. That's probably what I would do.
Also, if you change your mind and decide to book for everyone- you must ask everyone's budgets privately before booking if you end up requiring that everyone stay in the same place. It's not appropriate to just make plans and then "invoice" everyone else after the fact without consulting them.
(I know you weren't saying this is what you're doing, but just in case you do this for other activities or whatnot).
Formerly martha1818
Thanks for the responses! Sometimes it's hard to say no when the feedback you get is "but this is what we always do!" Seriously?! No wonder every party she's told me about ends up with some sort of drama.
@lovegood90 - the bride chose the hotel and discussed it with me, so I'm happy to pay for our room. It's a very nice hotel and expensive, but I'm happy to spend it on her and she splurged for mine as well! I understand what you're saying and I wouldn't want to "require" anyone to spend that kind of money, so if they want to spend the night somewhere, but don't want to spend that much they can make other arrangements w/o feeling awkward about going someplace cheaper that's away from the "party".
Thanks for your 2 cents, ladies!