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IT IS FRIDAY!

Good morning and happy Friday!!!!

I'm at work until 3pm today and then I'm cautiously driving to @hummingbird125's in the stupid freaking snow. Seriously? First day of Spring and we're getting SNOW?! I am so sick of it! Anyway. We'll make our way up to @buddysmom80's house for the night. We're going to her local watering hole and handling some last minute things of which I cannot speak.

Tomorrow is the big day!!!! The three of us and @csousa1 are headed to @GoldenPenguin's bridal shower! I'm so excited, it's going to be lovely, and I hope she gets ALL the presents. After the shower, all I can say is there will be MANY penii involved.

Sunday, I'll be dropping the girls off and then heading home and I'll cry because I won't see them all for a whole week. EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!



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  • @Swazzle - Have fun at @hummingbird125's bridal shower!  Drive safe!!


    Tonight H is playing poker, so I'm going to catch up on classwork for my programming class.  Tomorrow H has his 1 year lasik checkup in the AM.  I think we're taking BIL out for his birthday in the evening.

    Sunday we're getting our taxes done - hoping for a BIG MONEY return, but probably it will be more like break even.


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  • I hope you girls have fun this weekend and take lots of pictures!

    I am at work until noon today.  I don't have much going on this weekend, except we're going to trim the bushes and clean up the yard and garden for spring.  Maybe I can plant some onions.  It's a little late, but I love garden onions so I'm going to at least try!
  • Have fun at the shower and take photos!

    Grawr. I am exhausted this morning. I empathize with FI - he caught a cold last week and he's on immunosuppressants, but I don't think either of us really realized that meant it would take him longer to shake even minor illnesses. He coughed all night long and meds didn't help. And since he coughed, I was up because I'm a light sleeper. I think I might have slept for an hour or so? It's coffee day now.

    Tonight we're meeting with the photographer to go over our shot list for the day of the wedding and hammer out details there. We'll also keep cleaning at the house - we're doing another purge on the contents because if we haven't used/missed it in a year maybe we don't need to have it. I almost got the library under control last night, and we're in real danger of having posters on the walls! (Hey, in frames, they're "art" and we can keep our geeky "art" collection.)

    Tomorrow we'll do a little more work at the house in the morning, then I will be heading to my parents' place. I have a bridal shower Sunday morning and I'm going to help my mom get ready. She's got a bad shoulder and it's easier if she doesn't have to do all the heavy lifting/scrubbing. DB's FI will be around to help as well.

    Sunday morning I have my second bridal shower (my side this time), then I'm heading home to write thank-yous and continue working on the house. Somewhere in all this I'm going to finish up a paper for my hazardous waste mitigation class that's due Monday ...
  • @swazzle - I am SO jealous that you get to see all those ladies!
    @goldenpenguin - Enjoy every second of this weekend and .... pics or it didn't happen!

    I'm leaving work right at 3:30 today. DH and I have a wine thing at his CWs house that starts at 4 (um, do they realize normal people have to work until 5'ish? What a strange time to plan something.) We bring two bottles of the same wine. They serve one, and then everyone taste-tests the wines. Whichever wine gets the most votes, takes home ALL the wine! We bought a yummy Sauvignon Blanc from New Zealand (Kim Crawford).

    Tomorrow my parents are driving up and we are going to a thing at the local Eagles (like a VFW). It's a fun raffle thing and one of my girlfriends is coming as well.

    Sunday will probably be laundry laundry laundry.

    PS - Eff snow.
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  • @Swazzle I hope you all have a fantastic weekend celebrataing with @Goldenpenguin ,I know it will be so much fun!

    Today I'm WFH and Maddux is going insane. I need to go pick up a baby shower gift for a friend of mine for her shower tomorrow...I kind of waited until last minute on this one. Tonight I'm going to Bonefish Grill with my family and another family friend of ours. We haven't seen them since @labro 's wedding so it will be nice to catch up.

    Tomorrow morning I plan to work out and then go to my friend's baby shower. DH has a tennis match tomorrow so I won't see him for most of the day until night. No plans for tomorrow night.

    Sunday I plan on getting out my Spring and Easter stuff and decorating and making my Easter wreath. I'm hoping for non rainy weather this weekend so we can play outside.
  • @Swazzle have fun with all the ladies at @GoldenPenguin shower!!

    @Dignity100 good luck w taxes. Fingers crossed for a big refund for you. I need to do mine at some point....

    @CocoBellaF enjoy working on your yard! Boston is still way too cold for that. Ugh!

    @KeptInStitches sounds like a fun weekend!!

    @cu97tiger that wine thing sounds awesome! Cool idea!

    BF is working today and sun (hopefully not tomorrow) and I'm off until I start a new job on Monday. Today I am going to try a Barry's bootcamp class. Has anyone here tried it?? I'm scared but excited! Tomorrow night is sisters BFs bday party, should be fun!
  • @Dignity100 - Silly goose, it's @GoldenPenguin's shower, not @hummingbird125's! Good luck with your taxes!

    @KeptInsStitches - Have a great time at your shower!

    @cu97tiger - That is such a cool idea, it sounds like a blast! Fingers crossed you guys win!

    @southernpeach89 - I can't wait to see your Easter wreath! They always come out so nice, you're so crafty!

    @jenjen047 - I've never done a bootcamp class. Is it a national/chain thing?







  • @lmcooper86- Yay for so many RSVPs! I remember that time, it made going home each day SO much more exciting!



  • HAPPY FRIDAY

    @swazzle and @hummingbird125 I can't wait to see you guys tonight!!!!!

    @goldenpenguin and @csousa1 I can't wait to see you guys tomorrow.

    @dignity100 good luck with taxes!

    @keptinstiches have fun at your shower!!!!

    @cu97tiger that wine tasting party sounds fun!

    @lmcoooper86 I LOVED getting RSVPs, it was the only time in years I was excited to check the mail, now all I get are ads :(

    @southernpeach89 please AW your wreath, you and @labro are awesome wreath makers.

    My weekend is busy,that's all I have right now. I can't wait for 4pm!!!!!!!

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  • @Swazzle - That's what happens when I post before I had gotten my coffee - LOL! Have fun at @GoldenPenguin's Shower!!! 


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  • @lmcooper86 -I'm thinking of making a garland wreath in the shape of a bunny and adding some floral features and maybe a ribbon to go around the neck. I'm scared that the garland won't look right but we shall see.
  • @Swazzle - YAY!! Sounds like fun, but please be careful the snow is supposed to start soon!

    @GoldenPenguin - Have an amazing shower!! Please post pics!!!

    We have a super exciting weekend coming up. FI's roommates from college are trekking down from Buffalo and Albany to the city (I just hope their bus doesn't get stuck in the snow). FI's roommate from Buffalo is the last of his VIP people that I haven't met yet, so I'm looking forward to meeting him tonight! We're going to our favorite restaurant (where we had our first date actually) for dinner tonight and then watching the tournament. 

    Tomorrow is our open house!! So far we have about 40+ people RSVPed that they are coming, so our tiny one-bedroom apartment is going to be a zoo! Especially because I feel like even though it's an open house for 5 hours, most of FI's family (his dad is one of 5) is coming between 5 and 6. It should be fun, but it's going to be chaos. We did a massive store run at Target last night to buy supplies. We bought guacamole in bulk from Whole Foods, and we're making hummus tomorrow. We're ordering like a gazillon pizzas and FI's sister is bringing us a sheet cake. 

    Yesterday my planning binder and book came in! FI looked through the binder this morning, he seemed really impressed. Last night we hung out with my FFIL and FSIL and we were showing them the sample menus of our top two places and they were getting really excited about things.
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  • UGH I AM SO BUMMED ABOUT THE SNOW!!! It hasn't started her on Long Island yet but it will by noon. By best friend lives in PA and they already have about two inches.

    I am actually also bummed because I scheduled time with my friend who is a mechanic to go look at a really great potential car, but then the car's owner said we couldn't come till after 6, and then the whole snow thing... so I am gonna cancel and hope to reschedule Tuesday or Wednesday because those are my days off next week. I feel like a flake. There is another car though so I'm gonna see if I can see that one around noon.
    Other plans for the day are just homework and cleaning as usual. Spring cleaning is soooo time consuming! Just sent off four bags of clothes for donation. It is nice to just get them out of my house and move on!
  • @Swazzle - Travel safe in the snow today! What a pain! But have all the fun at @goldenpenguin's shower :) Also, fun fact: my computer always auto-corrects your sn to swizzle.

    @KeptInStitches - Have fun at your shower!

    I'm so glad it's finally Friday! Originally, I was supposed to work at a different branch tomorrow morning but I just found out my boss changed the schedule so now I have Saturday off! Woo! I don't have any big plans for the weekend. I'm taking a class for some professional development in teaching so I have a couple of videos I need to watch and then take a quiz at some point this weekend.

    I'm going to try to convince BF to go on a hike on Saturday. If we stay lower, I think most of the snow will have melted. We're supposed to have really great weather this weekend so I want to take advantage of it because I'm sure we'll get at least one more snow storm before spring is really here. 



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    @Swazzle @csousa1 @hummingbird125 @buddysmom80 Have fun at @GoldenPenguin's shower and penis extravaganza this weekend! I hope there are penii lollipops, a penis funfetti cake, and penis straws involved! Oh, and a veil with penii attached to it like @southernpeach89 had.


    @GoldenPenguin I hope you LOVE all your gifts and have an AMAZING time this weekend!!!!

    @KeptInStitches Enjoy your second shower!

    @lmcooper86 I'm jealous. I think I never received more than 4 RSVPs at a time. They trickled in instead.

    No big plans for me. Now that our grass is installed we have to start a daily watering schedule for the next 8 weeks to get the roots properly established. Which means waking up at probably 5:30 in the mornings on work days going forward. Ugh.....

    Tonight we're meeting with my friend and her family and having dinner. I'm only sort of looking forward to it. At first I thought it was just a girl's night thing and now it's turned into a huge "everyone's coming to dinner!" thing and I just feel meh about it. I guess I'm just not feeling social today.

    Otherwise I think all we'll be doing yard work this weekend. Now that the yard is installed, we need to put in tons and tons of mulch to fill in our garden beds. We've been neglecting them while we waited to find out what the final yard borders were going to be.
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    Have fun at the shower everyone!!

    Tonight I may workout and make dinner or I may just be lazy. It's supposed to snow a little bit from this afternoon until tomorrow and I'm so over it. I just want it to be Spring so badly! 
    Hopefully FI will come right home after work tonight so I can make him try on the suit jacket and pants we had to reorder him.

    Tomorrow I'll try to get up early enough to get to the post office to return the suit stuff that doesn't fit and weigh one of our invites so I know how much postage will be needed. Fingers crossed it's not a lot!

    Sunday we have our second venue meeting so I'm excited to go over some more details :)


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    The other night FI told me about how his friend and his wife were encouraging him to do a honeymoon fund. I said "Gross, tacky, absolutely not". Even FI who doesn't know much about etiquette thought it sounded weird.
     




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    @southernpeach89 NO! I would want you there even if it was still a girls night! I'm just not happy that it's this massive party of 8 people now since my friend decided all the guys had to come too!



  • @labro - I feel you. Sometimes girls nights are exactly what's needed.

    There is a lot of wedding stuff on this board lately. Looks like people are ramping up? Or maybe just talking about it more often?

    I, on the other hand, have decided to completely shut up about marriage/getting engaged again. I was keeping myself busy and being patient, and then BF started bringing it up all the time. So I used the opportunities presented to try and have some good discussions about our future. We did have good talks, and we're on the same page about a lot of stuff, but then he all of a sudden switched gears and told me I was wanting to talk about marriage all the time and that I need to not expect anything because we haven't been together that long...

    Oooooooook. Whatever. I'll shut up again, even if he initiates it. I never told him about the ring I liked at the jewelry store, and I deleted the picture of it off of my phone. Back to waiting patiently (even though I'm pretty sure I never wasn't).

    Anyhoo, BF's guy friend is visiting this weekend. He's trying to convince me to come out with them and do all this stuff, but hey, maybe I don't WANT to hang out with you and your friend that ignore me once you get caught up in re-living the old days. I think I will read and shop for some upcoming birthdays.

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    YAY for all the showers this weekend!

    @keptinstitches I'm on immunosuppressants, and yeah, everything hits me twice as hard and lasts twice as long. When I get a cold, it's like I have the flu. I hope FI recovers quickly!!

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  • @Swazzle @GoldenPenguin @buddysmom80 @hummingbird125 HAVE SO MUCH FUN THIS WEEKEND!!!! I can't wait to see pics and hear all about it. I will be there in spirit!

    @Dignity100 Good luck with your taxes! I hope you get a huge return!

    @CocoBellaF Sounds like you're almost back to normal levels of energy :) 

    @lmcooper86 YAY FOR RSVPS! You know, FI and I have been planning to do online only RSVPs, but reading about how awesome it is to come home and find a mailbox full of stuff makes me reconsider that decision... 

    @labro I hope you and @southernpeach89 have fun tonight! Personally, I think you guys should have another wreath-making session this weekend. You guys always come up with such cute stuff.

    @bethsmiles Yay for having Saturday off! Enjoy your weekend!

    @KeptinStitches Have fun at your shower! Let us know what your favorite gift is!

    @TwoDimes I'm so glad your meeting with the florist went well! I love the flower pics you've posted in the past-- so bright and happy! Have fun registering this weekend!

    @nycgal85 Have fun at your party!

    @cu97tiger That sounds like a great party idea! I may steal that one day. Have fun at your oddly-early party! Drink ALL the wine!

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    FRIDAY! So happy! I'm also happy that I still have access to TK! Our IT team installed a new website-blocker program last night, and I was really worried I wouldn't be able to come on here anymore. Woohoo!

    Our plans for tonight were cancelled due to illness, so I don't know if FI and I are going to just be lazy and veg, or if we're going to try and be social. After work I need to run to the grocery store to get ingredients for a really yummy chocolate cake that I need to make for his mom's birthday, so I may bake the cake tonight if we don't go out... hmmmm...

    Tomorrow I'm hanging out with the lovely @audrewuh. She's going to teach me how to sew! Now I can be a right proper lady! We may go see Cinderella too. It should be a really fun day. 

    Sunday FI and I are meeting his family for lunch to celebrate his mom's birthday. Afterwards I really need to clean our filthy apartment... I was very lazy this week, so it looks awful. Other than that, no major plans this weekend. 

    Ann Taylor sent me a coupon for 50% off one full-priced item if anyone wants it. It expires on 3/26. I'm already at my budget for the month for discretionary purchases, so I won't be using it. It can be used online or in stores, so just let me know if any of you lovely ladies would like it. :) 


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  • AlPacina said:

    I, on the other hand, have decided to completely shut up about marriage/getting engaged again. I was keeping myself busy and being patient, and then BF started bringing it up all the time. So I used the opportunities presented to try and have some good discussions about our future. We did have good talks, and we're on the same page about a lot of stuff, but then he all of a sudden switched gears and told me I was wanting to talk about marriage all the time and that I need to not expect anything because we haven't been together that long...

    Oooooooook. Whatever. I'll shut up again, even if he initiates it. I never told him about the ring I liked at the jewelry store, and I deleted the picture of it off of my phone. Back to waiting patiently (even though I'm pretty sure I never wasn't).

    Whaaaaaaatttttt! That's.... weird. BF brings it up all the time and then tells YOU to stop bringing it up??  I'd shut down too. That is exactly what I am afraid of... he talks about the future a lot as well and it makes ME want to talk about it a lot and look at rings and think about it all the time, so I totally understand where you're coming from. The waiting game is the worst.
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    AlPacina said:

    I, on the other hand, have decided to completely shut up about marriage/getting engaged again. I was keeping myself busy and being patient, and then BF started bringing it up all the time. So I used the opportunities presented to try and have some good discussions about our future. We did have good talks, and we're on the same page about a lot of stuff, but then he all of a sudden switched gears and told me I was wanting to talk about marriage all the time and that I need to not expect anything because we haven't been together that long...

    Oooooooook. Whatever. I'll shut up again, even if he initiates it. I never told him about the ring I liked at the jewelry store, and I deleted the picture of it off of my phone. Back to waiting patiently (even though I'm pretty sure I never wasn't).

    This actually sounds like how my FI was for quite some time. I called it the yo-yo. What would happen with us was if he brought up marriage it was perfectly acceptable and we could talk openly about it, but if I were to bring it up for whatever reason he would get upset with me.  Honestly, he played this game with me up until a few weeks before he proposed (I think the ring being delivered was what stopped it). And I came to realize it wasn't that he was against getting married, or was even having second thoughts about it. His biggest thing was that I always spoke about "when" and he always spoke about "if", and it wasn't because he doubted us, but as he would point out, "I don't know, anything could happen, you could get hit by a bus tomorrow!". 

    I think it freaked him out to talk about it so openly. But I took advantage of when he would open up. For example around Thanksgiving last year I don't even remember how the topic came up but he started telling me how much he had saved and I realized that he had no idea about the costs at ALL and so we had a really emotional conversation about it and I got really distressed and then a few days later, I think it was Thanksgiving night, after hearing all the questions from his family, we actually looked at rings together online. But when I would suggest looking at rings in the past he would freak out.

    I had the benefit of knowing that he was going to do it. At first my best friend told me that he had told her he was going to do it and she knew when. And then when that initial date didn't work out financially, he promised me he would do it before his birthday (May). And he did. 

    Guys are weird, and they're especially weird about this. It's aggravating. I always told him how hard it was for me and how confused it made me. And he tried to be better about it. But for what it's worth, this is a huge deal for most guys and they're scared and screwing it up. 

    Maybe you can share these things with a friend who can pass the information along to him, such as what kind of ring you like. He may have a thing where he wants to totally surprise you.

    I was in your shoes for over a year. It sucks. But the best advice I can give you is to try and meet him halfway. Explain how it makes you feel and how confused and hurt it makes you. But give him some space too. You likely have no idea what's going on in his head. Most likely he's probably overwhelmed by the idea, the cost, etc and he's dipping his toes in before he takes the plunge.


    ETA: Can I ask how long you two have been together? FI and I had been together for about 2 years when these conversations started for us. We just got engaged, a month and a week shy of 3 years.
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  • AlPacina said:

    I, on the other hand, have decided to completely shut up about marriage/getting engaged again. I was keeping myself busy and being patient, and then BF started bringing it up all the time. So I used the opportunities presented to try and have some good discussions about our future. We did have good talks, and we're on the same page about a lot of stuff, but then he all of a sudden switched gears and told me I was wanting to talk about marriage all the time and that I need to not expect anything because we haven't been together that long...

    Oooooooook. Whatever. I'll shut up again, even if he initiates it. I never told him about the ring I liked at the jewelry store, and I deleted the picture of it off of my phone. Back to waiting patiently (even though I'm pretty sure I never wasn't).

    WTH? Did you at least point out that he has been bringing it up? It's fine if he wants to take a step back but I'd at least call him out on his shit.


  • @southernpeach89 - Sounds cute! I was imagining Easter eggs, and now I want mini eggs. Sigh.

    @nycgal85 - 40 people sounds like a ton for a one bedroom apartment! I hope it goes well!

    @KeptInStitches - I somehow missed that part of your post, have fun at your shower! Share what your favourite gift was on Monday!

    @speakeasy14 - Thanks! He's so excited lol Also re: boots: I was at my parents' last night and saw a very cool pair of boots at the front door. I assumed they were my sister's, but then my mom pipes up that they're hers! I was shocked. And even more shocked that I want to steal shoes from my mother.

    @ everyone about RSVPs - My mom was ADAMANT that the RSVPs go to their house. She made such a big deal about it that I let her have her way because it wasn't worth the fight. So I don't get happy mail every day :(

    @labro - I figure this will be the biggest bunch all at once; invitations went last week so the prompt people have already sent them back and after this it will probably be more of a trickle.

    @eilis1228 - I would say do an RSVP card by mail. I know online can work well, but I've heard from a lot of people who have issues with it. There are pros and cons both ways for sure, but wedding mail is SO MUCH more fun than bills and flyers!

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  • @eilis1228 - If you do online RSVPs make sure you put an option for people to decline! You would think that would be a no-brainer. But SO's sister was invited to two different weddings that did online RSVPs and there was only one option (yes).


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