Her wedding is Sunday. She just sprung this on us today. Isnt venue staff supposed to help with this? I'm extremely pissed! I'm a bridesmaid, not a slave and I have a 2.5 hour ride back home after the wedding. This is rude. I am putting my foot down & flat out refusing! Has anyone ever heard of this? I wouldnt have been so mad if we knew about this months ago but to request that 2 days before? No way Jose! I should also mention the B&G are not helping with the cleaning. They are "promptly leaving to go enjoy their lives together" leaving the measly lil bridesmaids to clean up the place!!!!!
Re: Bride Requiring Bridal Party & Family To Help Clean Up After Wedding
Formerly martha1818
Please let us know how she reacts when you give her a firm no!
wait, what?
Thanks! I'm not
Well everyone HAS to have a different hairstyle, which we are paying for. She sent a list of the choices and had everyone put their name next to what they want. By the time it got to me nothing was left, so I got the dopey hairstyle, rock on.
The make-up she is paying for but wants everyone to have the same but since she is paying for it, I can't complain except we all have different skin tones so I don't see how this would work.
Also sent a nasty email to us getting angry that no one stepped up the plate to offer to help help plan her wedding. ::::eye roll:::
And you people thought *I* was crazy?
It's the bride and groom's responsibility to clean up or pay someone to do so, but I'm sympathetic if the wedding is a budget wedding that was otherwise hosted properly. I have pitched in to clean up after weddings that were held in the kind of places where you rent the hall and hire outside caterers. No one asked me to help, but when the bride, groom, MOB and family members are clearing tables, I'm willing to clear a few tables, fold table cloths, carry some light items to their car etc.. nothing heavy duty. If the bride and groom aren't willing to do some of the dirty work, then I'm not, either.
If anyone assigned me to clean up, I'd say, 'sorry, I'm leaving early.'
I just don't understand "Here's all of this stuff, thank you so much! Eat, drink and be merry, bitches! But make sure not to get super smashed because you're cleaning up afterwards."
Hair and makeup is such a personal thing, where do brides get the idea that they get to dictate those, even if they are paying? Don't get the dopey hairstyle, you'll be uncomfortable all day.
Formerly martha1818