5 Reasons We Can't Handle Marriage Anymore

KatieinBkln · April 2015

First of all: GAG.

Second of all: WTF do difficult finances have to do with marriage? If anything, isn't having 2 working members in a household better than being on your own? What am I missing here?

Third of all: I have zero time for anyone who describes themselves as "an extremely sexual person." Compared to whom, you asshole? Your friends who are apparently posting photos of themselves mid-coitus? I think sometimes the "I'm so super sexual" thing is a way for people (often men, because our society equates "all the sex" with virility/masculinity) to brag about how amazingly virile they are. It's transparent as fuck. It's right up there with "Oh man, I wish I could wear tight pants but my dick is too big and it's uncomfortable."

Finally: Surely there is a way to talk about technology overload without blaming it for every single one of our failings and shortcomings. Shit like this brings out the Personal Responsibility Monster in me. You're obsessed with your phone? That is a YOU problem, bro. Solve it. Don't act like it's an inevitable cultural force that is slowly eroding the notion of marriage and partnership.

princessgracekelly · April 2015

TK is being a butt and won't let me post the link, but Jezebel literally just posted everything everyone just wrote here as an article called "Marriage is Over, Explains Divorced Millennial Awash in Self-Pity."

charcoalandblush · April 2015

One of my "friends" posted it (I use that term loosely... she's an acquaintance from middle school) and one of her friends commented: "Main one: they've left God out of their marriage. A covenant marriage is held together by the Lord. A 3 strand cord us not easily broken. Thankful for my husband who loves the Lord and his family. 25 years next month"

So FYI, if you're not Christian, your marriage is doomed.

princessofgenovia · April 2015

charcoalandblush said:
One of my "friends" posted it (I use that term loosely... she's an acquaintance from middle school) and one of her friends commented: "Main one: they've left God out of their marriage. A covenant marriage is held together by the Lord. A 3 strand cord us not easily broken. Thankful for my husband who loves the Lord and his family. 25 years next month"

So FYI, if you're not Christian, your marriage is doomed.

Well fuck me, we're getting divorced as soon as we get married. I'll call my parents tonight and tell them to divorce (18 years) and of course FI's moms better start working on their divorce papers (almost 30 years). Cause without Jesus, we're just about to be divorced.

bethsmiles · April 2015

I hate all of the articles like this that make the rounds on FB. This guy especially sounds like an ass. These problems are pretty damn specific and clearly more of a personal problem than something that can be generalized.

I'm really not a fan of people blaming their relationship (any relationship) problems on technology. If you see a problem with how much you use it, then make a change. But if you make the change and choose to be a sanctimonious asshole about it who continually posts articles/videos/whatever on FB about how technology is ruining everything I'm going to be judging you.

Cookie Pusher · April 2015

charcoalandblush said:
One of my "friends" posted it (I use that term loosely... she's an acquaintance from middle school) and one of her friends commented: "Main one: they've left God out of their marriage. A covenant marriage is held together by the Lord. A 3 strand cord us not easily broken. Thankful for my husband who loves the Lord and his family. 25 years next month"

So FYI, if you're not Christian, your marriage is doomed.

Well, we tied four cords together during the handfasting at my wedding. Is that better or worse than a 3 strand cord?

princessofgenovia · April 2015

Cookie Pusher said:

charcoalandblush said:
One of my "friends" posted it (I use that term loosely... she's an acquaintance from middle school) and one of her friends commented: "Main one: they've left God out of their marriage. A covenant marriage is held together by the Lord. A 3 strand cord us not easily broken. Thankful for my husband who loves the Lord and his family. 25 years next month"

So FYI, if you're not Christian, your marriage is doomed.

Well, we tied four cords together during the handfasting at my wedding. Is that better or worse than a 3 strand cord?

Sounds pretty stable to me. Four should be stronger than three...right?

levioosa · April 2015

The reason behind his divorce also couldn't possibly be the fact that he cheated on her. Of course not. IT WAS FACEBOOK!!@1!!!!

bethsmiles · April 2015

Cookie Pusher said:

charcoalandblush said:
One of my "friends" posted it (I use that term loosely... she's an acquaintance from middle school) and one of her friends commented: "Main one: they've left God out of their marriage. A covenant marriage is held together by the Lord. A 3 strand cord us not easily broken. Thankful for my husband who loves the Lord and his family. 25 years next month"

So FYI, if you're not Christian, your marriage is doomed.

Well, we tied four cords together during the handfasting at my wedding. Is that better or worse than a 3 strand cord?

Clearly that fourth cord was the marriage killing cord. Your marriage might not even be valid - DO OVER!

Cookie Pusher · April 2015

princessofgenovia said:

Cookie Pusher said:

charcoalandblush said:
One of my "friends" posted it (I use that term loosely... she's an acquaintance from middle school) and one of her friends commented: "Main one: they've left God out of their marriage. A covenant marriage is held together by the Lord. A 3 strand cord us not easily broken. Thankful for my husband who loves the Lord and his family. 25 years next month"

So FYI, if you're not Christian, your marriage is doomed.

Well, we tied four cords together during the handfasting at my wedding. Is that better or worse than a 3 strand cord?
Sounds pretty stable to me. Four should be stronger than three...right?

I would think so, but handfastings are pagan - not Christian.

bethsmiles said:

Cookie Pusher said:

charcoalandblush said:
One of my "friends" posted it (I use that term loosely... she's an acquaintance from middle school) and one of her friends commented: "Main one: they've left God out of their marriage. A covenant marriage is held together by the Lord. A 3 strand cord us not easily broken. Thankful for my husband who loves the Lord and his family. 25 years next month"

So FYI, if you're not Christian, your marriage is doomed.

Well, we tied four cords together during the handfasting at my wedding. Is that better or worse than a 3 strand cord?
Clearly that fourth cord was the marriage killing cord. Your marriage might not even be valid - DO OVER!

Oh shit, better get going on my PPD!

It's totally okay to have a potluck and cash bar this time since I fully hosted my apparently invalid wedding, right??

flutteringinfl · April 2015

levioosa said:
The reason behind his divorce also couldn't possibly be the fact that he cheated on her. Of course not. IT WAS FACEBOOK!!@1!!!!

Did he really? I re-read the article and didn't see it, but admittedly it disgusted me so much that I had a hard time getting through it. It's only more condescending the second time around.

MyNameIsNot · April 2015

flutteringinfl said:

levioosa said:
The reason behind his divorce also couldn't possibly be the fact that he cheated on her. Of course not. IT WAS FACEBOOK!!@1!!!!
Did he really? I re-read the article and didn't see it, but admittedly it disgusted me so much that I had a hard time getting through it. It's only more condescending the second time around.

All the bits about being a "sexual person," constantly seeing half naked hotties all over social media, and general refusal to take responsibility for his own actions screams cheater to me.

ETA: Thoughts

bethsmiles · April 2015

MyNameIsNot said:

flutteringinfl said:

levioosa said:
The reason behind his divorce also couldn't possibly be the fact that he cheated on her. Of course not. IT WAS FACEBOOK!!@1!!!!
Did he really? I re-read the article and didn't see it, but admittedly it disgusted me so much that I had a hard time getting through it. It's only more condescending the second time around.
All the bits about being a "sexual person," constantly seeing half naked hotties all over social media, and general refusal to take responsibility for his own actions screams cheater to me.

ETA: Thoughts

I got a similar vibe while reading that article. Some parts of it just screamed "But there's too much temptation to cheat!" plus the whole he's such a sexual person and can't get any at home stuff. I wouldn't be surprised if he cheated and this article was a way of justifying it.

littlepep · April 2015

charcoalandblush said:
One of my "friends" posted it (I use that term loosely... she's an acquaintance from middle school) and one of her friends commented: "Main one: they've left God out of their marriage. A covenant marriage is held together by the Lord. A 3 strand cord us not easily broken. Thankful for my husband who loves the Lord and his family. 25 years next month"

So FYI, if you're not Christian, your marriage is doomed.

princessofgenovia · April 2015

MyNameIsNot said:

levioosa said:
The reason behind his divorce also couldn't possibly be the fact that he cheated on her. Of course not. IT WAS FACEBOOK!!@1!!!!
Did he really? I re-read the article and didn't see it, but admittedly it disgusted me so much that I had a hard time getting through it. It's only more condescending the second time around.

All the bits about being a "sexual person," constantly seeing half naked hotties all over social media, and general refusal to take responsibility for his own actions screams cheater to me.

ETA: Thoughts

I've heard this reasoning for cheating before. I fucking hate it.

I had a now former friend actually message me and ask me to take down some selfies I had up of me in a bikini. Just a normal bikini. Not like naked and giving some dude a BJ. Just chilling by the pool, red cup in hand, rocking a bikini. She asked me to please remove the images because I was friends with her and her husband on FB and he didn't need the "temptation" of seeing me like that. Her husband had cheated on her twice before with girls he met on line and she was afraid he'd be tempted to cheat with me.

I may have kind of flown off the handle with her. 1) I know he's married, I don't fuck married dudes. Especially not dudes married to my friends, 2) if he's on-line trying to bang other girls it's not the other girls fault, it's his fucking fault he's the one who is fucking married, 3) why you still with a dude who stuck his willy in another girls fun palace not once but twice. You need therapy for your apparently shockingly low self esteem.

She told me I needed to reevaluate my relationship with God and that it was a woman's duty to help keep men's minds pure. So I unfriended her and her husband and stopped talking to them IRL too. Don't fucking slut shame me and play the men can't control themselves card.

JaniV123 · April 2015

I had the same thoughts as many of you. I agreed with certain things and disagreed with many too. But I think his point about technology is important. Lately FI and I don't text as much as we used to and I like that it gives us more time to talk and spend together together in person. But I hate that sometimes FI spends a lot of time stuck on his phone, and I take it away or joke for him to put it down and for us to spend quality time.

But marriage and relationships are hard work and it requires many attributes that are being obtained further on in life along with certain degree of maturity.

MyNameIsNot · April 2015

princessofgenovia said:

levioosa said:
The reason behind his divorce also couldn't possibly be the fact that he cheated on her. Of course not. IT WAS FACEBOOK!!@1!!!!
Did he really? I re-read the article and didn't see it, but admittedly it disgusted me so much that I had a hard time getting through it. It's only more condescending the second time around.

All the bits about being a "sexual person," constantly seeing half naked hotties all over social media, and general refusal to take responsibility for his own actions screams cheater to me.

ETA: Thoughts

I've heard this reasoning for cheating before. I fucking hate it.

I had a now former friend actually message me and ask me to take down some selfies I had up of me in a bikini. Just a normal bikini. Not like naked and giving some dude a BJ. Just chilling by the pool, red cup in hand, rocking a bikini. She asked me to please remove the images because I was friends with her and her husband on FB and he didn't need the "temptation" of seeing me like that. Her husband had cheated on her twice before with girls he met on line and she was afraid he'd be tempted to cheat with me.

I may have kind of flown off the handle with her. 1) I know he's married, I don't fuck married dudes. Especially not dudes married to my friends, 2) if he's on-line trying to bang other girls it's not the other girls fault, it's his fucking fault he's the one who is fucking married, 3) why you still with a dude who stuck his willy in another girls fun palace not once but twice. You need therapy for your apparently shockingly low self esteem.

She told me I needed to reevaluate my relationship with God and that it was a woman's duty to help keep men's minds pure. So I unfriended her and her husband and stopped talking to them IRL too. Don't fucking slut shame me and play the men can't control themselves card.

__________________________

WTF? Does she cover her entire body on the daily?

badbnagdway · April 2015

princessofgenovia said:

MyNameIsNot said:

levioosa said:
The reason behind his divorce also couldn't possibly be the fact that he cheated on her. Of course not. IT WAS FACEBOOK!!@1!!!!
Did he really? I re-read the article and didn't see it, but admittedly it disgusted me so much that I had a hard time getting through it. It's only more condescending the second time around.
All the bits about being a "sexual person," constantly seeing half naked hotties all over social media, and general refusal to take responsibility for his own actions screams cheater to me.

ETA: Thoughts

I've heard this reasoning for cheating before. I fucking hate it.

I had a now former friend actually message me and ask me to take down some selfies I had up of me in a bikini. Just a normal bikini. Not like naked and giving some dude a BJ. Just chilling by the pool, red cup in hand, rocking a bikini. She asked me to please remove the images because I was friends with her and her husband on FB and he didn't need the "temptation" of seeing me like that. Her husband had cheated on her twice before with girls he met on line and she was afraid he'd be tempted to cheat with me.

I may have kind of flown off the handle with her. 1) I know he's married, I don't fuck married dudes. Especially not dudes married to my friends, 2) if he's on-line trying to bang other girls it's not the other girls fault, it's his fucking fault he's the one who is fucking married, 3) why you still with a dude who stuck his willy in another girls fun palace not once but twice. You need therapy for your apparently shockingly low self esteem.

She told me I needed to reevaluate my relationship with God and that it was a woman's duty to help keep men's minds pure. So I unfriended her and her husband and stopped talking to them IRL too. Don't fucking slut shame me and play the men can't control themselves card.

Wow. The fact that she was that paranoid about him cheating should have told her enough about her relationship. It sucks she tried to pin her and her husband's hang-ups on you.

princessgracekelly · April 2015

badbnagdway said:

princessofgenovia said:

MyNameIsNot said:

levioosa said:
The reason behind his divorce also couldn't possibly be the fact that he cheated on her. Of course not. IT WAS FACEBOOK!!@1!!!!
Did he really? I re-read the article and didn't see it, but admittedly it disgusted me so much that I had a hard time getting through it. It's only more condescending the second time around.
All the bits about being a "sexual person," constantly seeing half naked hotties all over social media, and general refusal to take responsibility for his own actions screams cheater to me.

ETA: Thoughts
I've heard this reasoning for cheating before. I fucking hate it.

I had a now former friend actually message me and ask me to take down some selfies I had up of me in a bikini. Just a normal bikini. Not like naked and giving some dude a BJ. Just chilling by the pool, red cup in hand, rocking a bikini. She asked me to please remove the images because I was friends with her and her husband on FB and he didn't need the "temptation" of seeing me like that. Her husband had cheated on her twice before with girls he met on line and she was afraid he'd be tempted to cheat with me.

I may have kind of flown off the handle with her. 1) I know he's married, I don't fuck married dudes. Especially not dudes married to my friends, 2) if he's on-line trying to bang other girls it's not the other girls fault, it's his fucking fault he's the one who is fucking married, 3) why you still with a dude who stuck his willy in another girls fun palace not once but twice. You need therapy for your apparently shockingly low self esteem.

She told me I needed to reevaluate my relationship with God and that it was a woman's duty to help keep men's minds pure. So I unfriended her and her husband and stopped talking to them IRL too. Don't fucking slut shame me and play the men can't control themselves card.

Wow. The fact that she was that paranoid about him cheating should have told her enough about her relationship. It sucks she tried to pin her and her husband's hang-ups on you.

________box box box________________

Did she, by chance, share that inane "I don't wear leggings or yoga pants so as to not tempt men" article on social media?

princessofgenovia · April 2015

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princessgracekelly said:

badbnagdway said:

princessofgenovia said:

MyNameIsNot said:

levioosa said:
The reason behind his divorce also couldn't possibly be the fact that he cheated on her. Of course not. IT WAS FACEBOOK!!@1!!!!
Did he really? I re-read the article and didn't see it, but admittedly it disgusted me so much that I had a hard time getting through it. It's only more condescending the second time around.
All the bits about being a "sexual person," constantly seeing half naked hotties all over social media, and general refusal to take responsibility for his own actions screams cheater to me.

ETA: Thoughts
I've heard this reasoning for cheating before. I fucking hate it.

I had a now former friend actually message me and ask me to take down some selfies I had up of me in a bikini. Just a normal bikini. Not like naked and giving some dude a BJ. Just chilling by the pool, red cup in hand, rocking a bikini. She asked me to please remove the images because I was friends with her and her husband on FB and he didn't need the "temptation" of seeing me like that. Her husband had cheated on her twice before with girls he met on line and she was afraid he'd be tempted to cheat with me.

I may have kind of flown off the handle with her. 1) I know he's married, I don't fuck married dudes. Especially not dudes married to my friends, 2) if he's on-line trying to bang other girls it's not the other girls fault, it's his fucking fault he's the one who is fucking married, 3) why you still with a dude who stuck his willy in another girls fun palace not once but twice. You need therapy for your apparently shockingly low self esteem.

She told me I needed to reevaluate my relationship with God and that it was a woman's duty to help keep men's minds pure. So I unfriended her and her husband and stopped talking to them IRL too. Don't fucking slut shame me and play the men can't control themselves card.
Wow. The fact that she was that paranoid about him cheating should have told her enough about her relationship. It sucks she tried to pin her and her husband's hang-ups on you.

________box box box________________

Did she, by chance, share that inane "I don't wear leggings or yoga pants so as to not tempt men" article on social media?

**Clearly the update did nothing about the box problem**

She might have. I remember our mutual friend sharing it and saying "this is such bullshit" and her trying to defend it. Naw baby girl. If he can't keep his penis in check that's really a him problem. Not a me problem.

Hell my FI goes to strip clubs and manages not to bang anyone else. Lord only knows how he controls that penis of his.

littlepep · April 2015

princessofgenovia said:
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princessgracekelly said:

badbnagdway said:

princessofgenovia said:

MyNameIsNot said:

levioosa said:
The reason behind his divorce also couldn't possibly be the fact that he cheated on her. Of course not. IT WAS FACEBOOK!!@1!!!!
Did he really? I re-read the article and didn't see it, but admittedly it disgusted me so much that I had a hard time getting through it. It's only more condescending the second time around.
All the bits about being a "sexual person," constantly seeing half naked hotties all over social media, and general refusal to take responsibility for his own actions screams cheater to me.

ETA: Thoughts
I've heard this reasoning for cheating before. I fucking hate it.

I had a now former friend actually message me and ask me to take down some selfies I had up of me in a bikini. Just a normal bikini. Not like naked and giving some dude a BJ. Just chilling by the pool, red cup in hand, rocking a bikini. She asked me to please remove the images because I was friends with her and her husband on FB and he didn't need the "temptation" of seeing me like that. Her husband had cheated on her twice before with girls he met on line and she was afraid he'd be tempted to cheat with me.

I may have kind of flown off the handle with her. 1) I know he's married, I don't fuck married dudes. Especially not dudes married to my friends, 2) if he's on-line trying to bang other girls it's not the other girls fault, it's his fucking fault he's the one who is fucking married, 3) why you still with a dude who stuck his willy in another girls fun palace not once but twice. You need therapy for your apparently shockingly low self esteem.

She told me I needed to reevaluate my relationship with God and that it was a woman's duty to help keep men's minds pure. So I unfriended her and her husband and stopped talking to them IRL too. Don't fucking slut shame me and play the men can't control themselves card.
Wow. The fact that she was that paranoid about him cheating should have told her enough about her relationship. It sucks she tried to pin her and her husband's hang-ups on you.

________box box box________________
Did she, by chance, share that inane "I don't wear leggings or yoga pants so as to not tempt men" article on social media?

**Clearly the update did nothing about the box problem**

She might have. I remember our mutual friend sharing it and saying "this is such bullshit" and her trying to defend it. Naw baby girl. If he can't keep his penis in check that's really a him problem. Not a me problem.

Hell my FI goes to strip clubs and manages not to bang anyone else. Lord only knows how he controls that penis of his.

BOX________________

Honestly. If you don't trust your SO to not cheat on you, WTF are yall doing together?

ashley8918 · April 2015

princessofgenovia said:
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princessgracekelly said:

badbnagdway said:

princessofgenovia said:

MyNameIsNot said:

levioosa said:
The reason behind his divorce also couldn't possibly be the fact that he cheated on her. Of course not. IT WAS FACEBOOK!!@1!!!!
Did he really? I re-read the article and didn't see it, but admittedly it disgusted me so much that I had a hard time getting through it. It's only more condescending the second time around.
All the bits about being a "sexual person," constantly seeing half naked hotties all over social media, and general refusal to take responsibility for his own actions screams cheater to me.
ETA: Thoughts
I've heard this reasoning for cheating before. I fucking hate it.

I had a now former friend actually message me and ask me to take down some selfies I had up of me in a bikini. Just a normal bikini. Not like naked and giving some dude a BJ. Just chilling by the pool, red cup in hand, rocking a bikini. She asked me to please remove the images because I was friends with her and her husband on FB and he didn't need the "temptation" of seeing me like that. Her husband had cheated on her twice before with girls he met on line and she was afraid he'd be tempted to cheat with me.

I may have kind of flown off the handle with her. 1) I know he's married, I don't fuck married dudes. Especially not dudes married to my friends, 2) if he's on-line trying to bang other girls it's not the other girls fault, it's his fucking fault he's the one who is fucking married, 3) why you still with a dude who stuck his willy in another girls fun palace not once but twice. You need therapy for your apparently shockingly low self esteem.

She told me I needed to reevaluate my relationship with God and that it was a woman's duty to help keep men's minds pure. So I unfriended her and her husband and stopped talking to them IRL too. Don't fucking slut shame me and play the men can't control themselves card.
Wow. The fact that she was that paranoid about him cheating should have told her enough about her relationship. It sucks she tried to pin her and her husband's hang-ups on you.

________box box box________________
Did she, by chance, share that inane "I don't wear leggings or yoga pants so as to not tempt men" article on social media?

**Clearly the update did nothing about the box problem**

She might have. I remember our mutual friend sharing it and saying "this is such bullshit" and her trying to defend it. Naw baby girl. If he can't keep his penis in check that's really a him problem. Not a me problem.

Hell my FI goes to strip clubs and manages not to bang anyone else. Lord only knows how he controls that penis of his.

______FUCK THESE FUCKING BOXES__________

Mine watches PORNZ and goes to dance clubs without me (because I hate them). I'm obviously asking for trouble.

levioosa · April 2015

flutteringinfl said:

levioosa said:
The reason behind his divorce also couldn't possibly be the fact that he cheated on her. Of course not. IT WAS FACEBOOK!!@1!!!!
Did he really? I re-read the article and didn't see it, but admittedly it disgusted me so much that I had a hard time getting through it. It's only more condescending the second time around.

There is another article which is an open letter to his wife from when they got divorced.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2890859/I-lost-piece-never-Writer-s-emotional-open-letter-ex-wife-seeking-closure-painful-divorce-met-criticism-readers-accusing-selfish.html

He says he isn't proud of what he did and he regrets that he "can't undo" it. The way it's stated kind of makes it sound like cheating.

princessofgenovia · April 2015

@ashley8918 at any second his penis is going to wander off and crawl into some slutty yoga pant wearing girl's vagina.

Hell it might crawl into my vagina with all my bikini pictures roaming around.

ashley8918 · April 2015

princessofgenovia said:
@ashley8918 at any second his penis is going to wander off and crawl into some slutty yoga pant wearing girl's vagina.

Hell it might crawl into my vagina with all my bikini pictures roaming around.

HOMEWRECKER!

princessofgenovia · April 2015

ashley8918 said:

princessofgenovia said:
@ashley8918 at any second his penis is going to wander off and crawl into some slutty yoga pant wearing girl's vagina.

Hell it might crawl into my vagina with all my bikini pictures roaming around.
HOMEWRECKER!

littlepep · April 2015

princessofgenovia said:
@ashley8918 at any second his penis is going to wander off and crawl into some slutty yoga pant wearing girl's vagina.

Hell it might crawl into my vagina with all my bikini pictures roaming around.

I can't get the image of a penis with legs running around chasing someone out of my head so thanks for that.

hellosweetie1015 · April 2015

princessofgenovia said:

ashley8918 said:

princessofgenovia said:
@ashley8918 at any second his penis is going to wander off and crawl into some slutty yoga pant wearing girl's vagina.

Hell it might crawl into my vagina with all my bikini pictures roaming around.
HOMEWRECKER!

I lol'd.

princessgracekelly · April 2015

littlepep said:

princessofgenovia said:
@ashley8918 at any second his penis is going to wander off and crawl into some slutty yoga pant wearing girl's vagina.

Hell it might crawl into my vagina with all my bikini pictures roaming around.
I can't get the image of a penis with legs running around chasing someone out of my head so thanks for that.

Swiggity swooty, coming for dat booty!

littlepep · April 2015

princessgracekelly said:

littlepep said:

princessofgenovia said:
@ashley8918 at any second his penis is going to wander off and crawl into some slutty yoga pant wearing girl's vagina.

Hell it might crawl into my vagina with all my bikini pictures roaming around.
I can't get the image of a penis with legs running around chasing someone out of my head so thanks for that.
Swiggity swooty, coming for dat booty!

/DEAD

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