Offbeat Bride strikes again!

HeatherKat · March 2015

My favorite comment from the OP: " So, the day is kind of designed like a gift for our friends and family… for all their support. I'm not going to lie, I'm super excited about it"

**Stuck in weird formatting hell**

A gift... that they have to pay for? huh?

porkchops926 · March 2015

I can't say I'm really surprised from someone that lists one of their occupations as a "dream dreamer"

[Deleted User] · March 2015

I once looked at OBB because I think I'm going to be an offbeat bride. I don't want an aisle or a bouquet or a bridal party. I'll probably wear a pink dress. I want a Cheese cake, as in a "cake" made by stacking rounds of cheese on top of each other. I don't want an evening dance reception, but more a backyard BBQ-type reception even if it has to be indoors for weather reasons. But I got the feeling that the only way to be offbeat is to have a non-white dress, over-the-top theme, and etiquette blunders galore. Guess I'm not offbeat.

[Deleted User] · March 2015

adk19 said:
I once looked at OBB because I think I'm going to be an offbeat bride. I don't want an aisle or a bouquet or a bridal party. I'll probably wear a pink dress. I want a Cheese cake, as in a "cake" made by stacking rounds of cheese on top of each other. I don't want an evening dance reception, but more a backyard BBQ-type reception even if it has to be indoors for weather reasons. But I got the feeling that the only way to be offbeat is to have a non-white dress, over-the-top theme, and etiquette blunders galore. Guess I'm not offbeat.

I think if you stick to the "Real Weddings" part of the site and away from the articles, you'll be okay and find things that relate to what you're looking for! I also feel like their Pinterest has specific themed boards (LGBT weddings, backyard weddings, elopements, etc.) that would be more curated to what you're looking for.

allispain · March 2015

adk19 said:
I once looked at OBB because I think I'm going to be an offbeat bride. I don't want an aisle or a bouquet or a bridal party. I'll probably wear a pink dress. I want a Cheese cake, as in a "cake" made by stacking rounds of cheese on top of each other. I don't want an evening dance reception, but more a backyard BBQ-type reception even if it has to be indoors for weather reasons. But I got the feeling that the only way to be offbeat is to have a non-white dress, over-the-top theme, and etiquette blunders galore. Guess I'm not offbeat.

That sounds awesome! I love all things cheese, and would totally get a kick out of that.

princessgracekelly · March 2015

I'm a proud OBB, and, real talk, y'all will probably snark on my offbeat wedding if you catch wind of it. (For taste reasons--my FI and I are insufferably nerdy--not etiquette reasons.) It's the circle of life, and it moves us all.

However, one thing that has always irked me about the community is that sometimes I don't need "yes-people" when I have an issue, and that's when I go to TK. I have written some pieces for the website, including a *gasp* snarky piece akin to the "worst wedding trends on Pinterest" thread here, with a "How silly is that mainstream wedding industry, am I right?" kind of tone. I got comments on that article that were so butthurt. Yes, I wrote that snark with YOU in mind, just to offend YOU. Even the main editor told me that people leave comments like that because they come to OBB for someone to "validate" their feelings. Ding ding ding ding! Shine on, you crazy diamonds.

redoryx · March 2015

princessgracekelly said:
I'm a proud OBB, and, real talk, y'all will probably snark on my offbeat wedding if you catch wind of it. (For taste reasons--my FI and I are insufferably nerdy--not etiquette reasons.) It's the circle of life, and it moves us all.
However, one thing that has always irked me about the community is that sometimes I don't need "yes-people" when I have an issue, and that's when I go to TK. I have written some pieces for the website, including a *gasp* snarky piece akin to the "worst wedding trends on Pinterest" thread here, with a "How silly is that mainstream wedding industry, am I right?" kind of tone. I got comments on that article that were so butthurt. Yes, I wrote that snark with YOU in mind, just to offend YOU. Even the main editor told me that people leave comments like that because they come to OBB for someone to "validate" their feelings. Ding ding ding ding! Shine on, you crazy diamonds.

I'm okay with OBB when it comes to taste. It's the etiquette that bothers me. Like, a week or so ago there was this gorgeous wedding porn and I was looking through all the pictures and everything was lovely and I was all "Oh man, I LOVE everything about this" --- until the couple mentioned they'd eloped like a year prior which meant this whole thing was a PPD. And, honestly, prior to coming to TK I don't think I would have noticed or cared about that but now I realize how stupid a PPD is for so many reasons.

damnthetorpedoes · April 2015

Man, the "only constructive feedback" rule on OBB is the king of all mixed blessings. There's never a thing where someone says "OMG you're so wrong idiot" and then 25 more people dogpile on posting "x2 lololololol idiot" in the next 10 seconds -- which is actually a nice break from the rest of the internet sometimes. ... But it also means people get away with saying some really stupid, entitled, and even borderline offensive shit because it violates board policy to call them out on it.

There's a post on there now that's basically "can I dress my fat bridesmaids in one dress and my thin bridesmaids in another? tell me it's OK to do that because it's what I want to do." I posted as constructively as I could, but am now regretting it, because I really should have known better -- the kind of person who would ask that question doesn't have the sense to understand the answer.

(Anyone on either site wanna call me out, I'm real easy to find -- same user name and av on both OBB and TK. Come at me, bro.)

princessgracekelly · April 2015

damnthetorpedoes said:
Man, the "only constructive feedback" rule on OBB is the king of all mixed blessings. There's never a thing where someone says "OMG you're so wrong idiot" and then 25 more people dogpile on posting "x2 lololololol idiot" in the next 10 seconds -- which is actually a nice break from the rest of the internet sometimes. ... But it also means people get away with saying some really stupid, entitled, and even borderline offensive shit because it violates board policy to call them out on it.

There's a post on there now that's basically "can I dress my fat bridesmaids in one dress and my thin bridesmaids in another? tell me it's OK to do that because it's what I want to do." I posted as constructively as I could, but am now regretting it, because I really should have known better -- the kind of person who would ask that question doesn't have the sense to understand the answer.

(Anyone on either site wanna call me out, I'm real easy to find -- same user name and av on both OBB and TK. Come at me, bro.)

To the bolded: I hate to be gossip-y, but I know which poster you're talking about and I struggled to be diplomatic on that thread, too. (Your post was excellent, BTW.) She chose her bridesmaids because they might look good in a certain dress and then asked if that was "shallow."

She also said that she didn't choose any bridesmaids taller than her because she hates the way that looks. Frankly, speaking as a person who's 5'2", that was the silliest thing I've read on either OBB or TK in a while, and I tried to tell her as much without violating community guidelines. And I'm saying that coming hot off the heels of that "my MOH might wear red lipstick and it will ruin everything!!!!1!!!" thread here.

ETA: I've had both TK and OBB people talk me off ledges. OBB tells me what I want to hear. TK tells me what I need to hear.

damnthetorpedoes · April 2015

princessgracekelly said:

damnthetorpedoes said:
ETA: I've had both TK and OBB people talk me off ledges. OBB tells me what I want to hear. TK tells me what I need to hear.

QFT. And you post awesome things on both forums, including great gifs (love dat Ron).

AuroraRose41 · April 2015

I'm a proud OBB, and, real talk, y'all will probably snark on my offbeat wedding if you catch wind of it. (For taste reasons--my FI and I are insufferably nerdy--not etiquette reasons.) It's the circle of life, and it moves us all.
However, one thing that has always irked me about the community is that sometimes I don't need "yes-people" when I have an issue, and that's when I go to TK. I have written some pieces for the website, including a *gasp* snarky piece akin to the "worst wedding trends on Pinterest" thread here, with a "How silly is that mainstream wedding industry, am I right?" kind of tone. I got comments on that article that were so butthurt. Yes, I wrote that snark with YOU in mind, just to offend YOU. Even the main editor told me that people leave comments like that because they come to OBB for someone to "validate" their feelings. Ding ding ding ding! Shine on, you crazy diamonds.

I'm okay with OBB when it comes to taste. It's the etiquette that bothers me. Like, a week or so ago there was this gorgeous wedding porn and I was looking through all the pictures and everything was lovely and I was all "Oh man, I LOVE everything about this" --- until the couple mentioned they'd eloped like a year prior which meant this whole thing was a PPD. And, honestly, prior to coming to TK I don't think I would have noticed or cared about that but now I realize how stupid a PPD is for so many reasons.

QFT. @princessgracekelly, my FI and I are also nerdy. We are having a fairly traditional wedding but will be incorporating some small nerdy touches, and I love getting inspiration on sites like OBB. But I hate that non-traditional/offbeat seems to mean "against etiquette" on those sites. While a Renaissance/Doctor Who/Star Wars mash up themed wedding might not be my personal preference, as long as it is properly hosted, I think it's awesome if that's what the couple loves.

I would actually love to hear about the details of your offbeat wedding

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hellohkb · April 2015

AuroraRose41 said:
I'm a proud OBB, and, real talk, y'all will probably snark on my offbeat wedding if you catch wind of it. (For taste reasons--my FI and I are insufferably nerdy--not etiquette reasons.) It's the circle of life, and it moves us all.
However, one thing that has always irked me about the community is that sometimes I don't need "yes-people" when I have an issue, and that's when I go to TK. I have written some pieces for the website, including a *gasp* snarky piece akin to the "worst wedding trends on Pinterest" thread here, with a "How silly is that mainstream wedding industry, am I right?" kind of tone. I got comments on that article that were so butthurt. Yes, I wrote that snark with YOU in mind, just to offend YOU. Even the main editor told me that people leave comments like that because they come to OBB for someone to "validate" their feelings. Ding ding ding ding! Shine on, you crazy diamonds.

I'm okay with OBB when it comes to taste. It's the etiquette that bothers me. Like, a week or so ago there was this gorgeous wedding porn and I was looking through all the pictures and everything was lovely and I was all "Oh man, I LOVE everything about this" --- until the couple mentioned they'd eloped like a year prior which meant this whole thing was a PPD. And, honestly, prior to coming to TK I don't think I would have noticed or cared about that but now I realize how stupid a PPD is for so many reasons.

QFT. @princessgracekelly, my FI and I are also nerdy. We are having a fairly traditional wedding but will be incorporating some small nerdy touches, and I love getting inspiration on sites like OBB. But I hate that non-traditional/offbeat seems to mean "against etiquette" on those sites. While a Renaissance/Doctor Who/Star Wars mash up themed wedding might not be my personal preference, as long as it is properly hosted, I think it's awesome if that's what the couple loves.

I would actually love to hear about the details of your offbeat wedding

.

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I completely agree. I don't care what your wedding theme looks like or how offbeat and nontraditional it is. I just don't want to have to pay for food or drinks or get a letter in the mail requesting money for your wedding/honeymoon/house fund.

princessgracekelly · April 2015

hellohkb said:

AuroraRose41 said:
I'm a proud OBB, and, real talk, y'all will probably snark on my offbeat wedding if you catch wind of it. (For taste reasons--my FI and I are insufferably nerdy--not etiquette reasons.) It's the circle of life, and it moves us all.
However, one thing that has always irked me about the community is that sometimes I don't need "yes-people" when I have an issue, and that's when I go to TK. I have written some pieces for the website, including a *gasp* snarky piece akin to the "worst wedding trends on Pinterest" thread here, with a "How silly is that mainstream wedding industry, am I right?" kind of tone. I got comments on that article that were so butthurt. Yes, I wrote that snark with YOU in mind, just to offend YOU. Even the main editor told me that people leave comments like that because they come to OBB for someone to "validate" their feelings. Ding ding ding ding! Shine on, you crazy diamonds.

I'm okay with OBB when it comes to taste. It's the etiquette that bothers me. Like, a week or so ago there was this gorgeous wedding porn and I was looking through all the pictures and everything was lovely and I was all "Oh man, I LOVE everything about this" --- until the couple mentioned they'd eloped like a year prior which meant this whole thing was a PPD. And, honestly, prior to coming to TK I don't think I would have noticed or cared about that but now I realize how stupid a PPD is for so many reasons.

QFT. @princessgracekelly, my FI and I are also nerdy. We are having a fairly traditional wedding but will be incorporating some small nerdy touches, and I love getting inspiration on sites like OBB. But I hate that non-traditional/offbeat seems to mean "against etiquette" on those sites. While a Renaissance/Doctor Who/Star Wars mash up themed wedding might not be my personal preference, as long as it is properly hosted, I think it's awesome if that's what the couple loves.

I would actually love to hear about the details of your offbeat wedding

.

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I completely agree. I don't care what your wedding theme looks like or how offbeat and nontraditional it is. I just don't want to have to pay for food or drinks or get a letter in the mail requesting money for your wedding/honeymoon/house fund.

______Boxes_______

The "worst wedding trends on Pinterest" and other threads that snark on peoples' tastes here is what led me to write that people may snark on my offbeat wedding. It's totally okay, I can take what I dish out.

But in addition to planning around a fantasy-book theme, FI and I have planned for a chair for every butt and food for every mouth. Essentially, we have it so people could ONLY snark on the fact that there will be mutha-fuckin' dragons!!! everywhere.

swiftsticks · April 2015

princessgracekelly said:

AuroraRose41 said:
I'm a proud OBB, and, real talk, y'all will probably snark on my offbeat wedding if you catch wind of it. (For taste reasons--my FI and I are insufferably nerdy--not etiquette reasons.) It's the circle of life, and it moves us all.
However, one thing that has always irked me about the community is that sometimes I don't need "yes-people" when I have an issue, and that's when I go to TK. I have written some pieces for the website, including a *gasp* snarky piece akin to the "worst wedding trends on Pinterest" thread here, with a "How silly is that mainstream wedding industry, am I right?" kind of tone. I got comments on that article that were so butthurt. Yes, I wrote that snark with YOU in mind, just to offend YOU. Even the main editor told me that people leave comments like that because they come to OBB for someone to "validate" their feelings. Ding ding ding ding! Shine on, you crazy diamonds.

I'm okay with OBB when it comes to taste. It's the etiquette that bothers me. Like, a week or so ago there was this gorgeous wedding porn and I was looking through all the pictures and everything was lovely and I was all "Oh man, I LOVE everything about this" --- until the couple mentioned they'd eloped like a year prior which meant this whole thing was a PPD. And, honestly, prior to coming to TK I don't think I would have noticed or cared about that but now I realize how stupid a PPD is for so many reasons.

QFT. @princessgracekelly, my FI and I are also nerdy. We are having a fairly traditional wedding but will be incorporating some small nerdy touches, and I love getting inspiration on sites like OBB. But I hate that non-traditional/offbeat seems to mean "against etiquette" on those sites. While a Renaissance/Doctor Who/Star Wars mash up themed wedding might not be my personal preference, as long as it is properly hosted, I think it's awesome if that's what the couple loves.

I would actually love to hear about the details of your offbeat wedding

.

ETF: Boxes that disappeared and reappeared

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I completely agree. I don't care what your wedding theme looks like or how offbeat and nontraditional it is. I just don't want to have to pay for food or drinks or get a letter in the mail requesting money for your wedding/honeymoon/house fund.

______Boxes_______

The "worst wedding trends on Pinterest" and other threads that snark on peoples' tastes here is what led me to write that people may snark on my offbeat wedding. It's totally okay, I can take what I dish out.

But in addition to planning around a fantasy-book theme, FI and I have planned for a chair for every butt and food for every mouth. Essentially, we have it so people could ONLY snark on the fact that there will be mutha-fuckin' dragons!!! everywhere.

ETA: Your wedding sounds amazing. Can I come? I'll wear a dragon costume if necessary.

princessgracekelly · April 2015

damnthetorpedoes said:

princessgracekelly said:

damnthetorpedoes said:
ETA: I've had both TK and OBB people talk me off ledges. OBB tells me what I want to hear. TK tells me what I need to hear.
QFT. And you post awesome things on both forums, including great gifs (love dat Ron).

AuroraRose41 · April 2015

swiftsticks said:

AuroraRose41 said:
I'm a proud OBB, and, real talk, y'all will probably snark on my offbeat wedding if you catch wind of it. (For taste reasons--my FI and I are insufferably nerdy--not etiquette reasons.) It's the circle of life, and it moves us all.
However, one thing that has always irked me about the community is that sometimes I don't need "yes-people" when I have an issue, and that's when I go to TK. I have written some pieces for the website, including a *gasp* snarky piece akin to the "worst wedding trends on Pinterest" thread here, with a "How silly is that mainstream wedding industry, am I right?" kind of tone. I got comments on that article that were so butthurt. Yes, I wrote that snark with YOU in mind, just to offend YOU. Even the main editor told me that people leave comments like that because they come to OBB for someone to "validate" their feelings. Ding ding ding ding! Shine on, you crazy diamonds.

I'm okay with OBB when it comes to taste. It's the etiquette that bothers me. Like, a week or so ago there was this gorgeous wedding porn and I was looking through all the pictures and everything was lovely and I was all "Oh man, I LOVE everything about this" --- until the couple mentioned they'd eloped like a year prior which meant this whole thing was a PPD. And, honestly, prior to coming to TK I don't think I would have noticed or cared about that but now I realize how stupid a PPD is for so many reasons.

QFT. @princessgracekelly, my FI and I are also nerdy. We are having a fairly traditional wedding but will be incorporating some small nerdy touches, and I love getting inspiration on sites like OBB. But I hate that non-traditional/offbeat seems to mean "against etiquette" on those sites. While a Renaissance/Doctor Who/Star Wars mash up themed wedding might not be my personal preference, as long as it is properly hosted, I think it's awesome if that's what the couple loves.

I would actually love to hear about the details of your offbeat wedding

.

ETF: Boxes that disappeared and reappeared

_________________________________

I completely agree. I don't care what your wedding theme looks like or how offbeat and nontraditional it is. I just don't want to have to pay for food or drinks or get a letter in the mail requesting money for your wedding/honeymoon/house fund.

______Boxes_______

The "worst wedding trends on Pinterest" and other threads that snark on peoples' tastes here is what led me to write that people may snark on my offbeat wedding. It's totally okay, I can take what I dish out.

But in addition to planning around a fantasy-book theme, FI and I have planned for a chair for every butt and food for every mouth. Essentially, we have it so people could ONLY snark on the fact that there will be mutha-fuckin' dragons!!! everywhere.

ETA: Your wedding sounds amazing. Can I come? I'll wear a dragon costume if necessary.

I'm going to second this. I commented earlier in this thread that FI and I aren't even having a completely cookie cutter traditional wedding, and we are both huge nerds too. We would love to attend a wedding like this!

awindowlark · April 2015

Ugh OBB whhyyy do you go there?! The whole asking for money issue is terrible and that goes without saying. I find the wording of attire painfully rude. Wear what you love (unless it's too fancy for our wedding)...umm. What if what I love is a fabulous pair of heels? I have just started reading bridal forums and posting. I appreciate TK community because people are going to come to my wedding with strong opinions. They may not say them out loud, but they might, and at least I have avoided some major mistakes. No one has sugar coated anything and I have received helpful advice here. I posted similar topics on another site and got too much support...it felt like a support group. When my friend got married 3 years ago we looked at OBB often. I swear I can't stand the site anymore. I am not sure what changed, but it I super skeptical after reading this post!

hellohkb · April 2015

@awindowlark I've become the same way! I dislike even going on there anymore.

They just posted a facebook link about serving your guests food on thrift store plates, bowls, flatware, etc. and one woman said she's telling people to BRING THEIR OWN PLATES AND CUPS. WTF.

ohannabelle · April 2015

hellohkb said:
@awindowlark I've become the same way! I dislike even going on there anymore.

They just posted a facebook link about serving your guests food on thrift store plates, bowls, flatware, etc. and one woman said she's telling people to BRING THEIR OWN PLATES AND CUPS. WTF.

I have nothing against preowned china, but what the ever loving fuck with the bring your own dishes? Ohmygod, do you sit through the ceremony clutching your empty plate and glass like an orphan? Who cleans up after dinner?

For god's sake, they need to spring for a package of paper plates, if rental's not an option.

[Deleted User] · April 2015

ohannabelle said:

hellohkb said:
@awindowlark I've become the same way! I dislike even going on there anymore.

They just posted a facebook link about serving your guests food on thrift store plates, bowls, flatware, etc. and one woman said she's telling people to BRING THEIR OWN PLATES AND CUPS. WTF.

I have nothing against preowned china, but what the ever loving fuck with the bring your own dishes? Ohmygod, do you sit through the ceremony clutching your empty plate and glass like an orphan? Who cleans up after dinner?
For god's sake, they need to spring for a package of paper plates, if rental's not an option.

But paper plates aren't "offbeat". Making everyone supply their own china however...

hellohkb · April 2015

ohannabelle said:

hellohkb said:
@awindowlark I've become the same way! I dislike even going on there anymore.

They just posted a facebook link about serving your guests food on thrift store plates, bowls, flatware, etc. and one woman said she's telling people to BRING THEIR OWN PLATES AND CUPS. WTF.

I have nothing against preowned china, but what the ever loving fuck with the bring your own dishes? Ohmygod, do you sit through the ceremony clutching your empty plate and glass like an orphan? Who cleans up after dinner?
For god's sake, they need to spring for a package of paper plates, if rental's not an option.

A lot of my things are from thrift stores so I have no problem with that aspect but I agree with the logistics of asking guests to bring them to the wedding. Do you drop them off at first? Knowing my dad he would bring his plates in a Walmart plastic bag.

Or maybe they're asking people to bring paper plates? Still tacky to ask, but at least no one has to wash them?

ShesSoCold · April 2015

princessgracekelly said:

hellohkb said:

AuroraRose41 said:
I'm a proud OBB, and, real talk, y'all will probably snark on my offbeat wedding if you catch wind of it. (For taste reasons--my FI and I are insufferably nerdy--not etiquette reasons.) It's the circle of life, and it moves us all.
However, one thing that has always irked me about the community is that sometimes I don't need "yes-people" when I have an issue, and that's when I go to TK. I have written some pieces for the website, including a *gasp* snarky piece akin to the "worst wedding trends on Pinterest" thread here, with a "How silly is that mainstream wedding industry, am I right?" kind of tone. I got comments on that article that were so butthurt. Yes, I wrote that snark with YOU in mind, just to offend YOU. Even the main editor told me that people leave comments like that because they come to OBB for someone to "validate" their feelings. Ding ding ding ding! Shine on, you crazy diamonds.

I'm okay with OBB when it comes to taste. It's the etiquette that bothers me. Like, a week or so ago there was this gorgeous wedding porn and I was looking through all the pictures and everything was lovely and I was all "Oh man, I LOVE everything about this" --- until the couple mentioned they'd eloped like a year prior which meant this whole thing was a PPD. And, honestly, prior to coming to TK I don't think I would have noticed or cared about that but now I realize how stupid a PPD is for so many reasons.

QFT. @princessgracekelly, my FI and I are also nerdy. We are having a fairly traditional wedding but will be incorporating some small nerdy touches, and I love getting inspiration on sites like OBB. But I hate that non-traditional/offbeat seems to mean "against etiquette" on those sites. While a Renaissance/Doctor Who/Star Wars mash up themed wedding might not be my personal preference, as long as it is properly hosted, I think it's awesome if that's what the couple loves.

I would actually love to hear about the details of your offbeat wedding .

ETF: Boxes that disappeared and reappeared

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I completely agree. I don't care what your wedding theme looks like or how offbeat and nontraditional it is. I just don't want to have to pay for food or drinks or get a letter in the mail requesting money for your wedding/honeymoon/house fund.

______Boxes_______

The "worst wedding trends on Pinterest" and other threads that snark on peoples' tastes here is what led me to write that people may snark on my offbeat wedding. It's totally okay, I can take what I dish out.

But in addition to planning around a fantasy-book theme, FI and I have planned for a chair for every butt and food for every mouth. Essentially, we have it so people could ONLY snark on the fact that there will be mutha-fuckin' dragons!!! everywhere.

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I think, at least for me, when I snark on the decor of a wedding, it's because it's trendy and has absolutely nothing to do with the couple. Barns and lace and burlap are so popular but only like 1% of burlap brides even know what burlap is even used for, other than cutesy table runners. If you have to go out and buy cowboy boots (and rhinestoney pink ones) for you "rustic chic country modern elegance backwoods bonanza cowboy princess cinderella " wedding theme, I'mma laugh at you.

hellohkb · April 2015

ShesSoCold said:

princessgracekelly said:

hellohkb said:

AuroraRose41 said:
I'm a proud OBB, and, real talk, y'all will probably snark on my offbeat wedding if you catch wind of it. (For taste reasons--my FI and I are insufferably nerdy--not etiquette reasons.) It's the circle of life, and it moves us all.
However, one thing that has always irked me about the community is that sometimes I don't need "yes-people" when I have an issue, and that's when I go to TK. I have written some pieces for the website, including a *gasp* snarky piece akin to the "worst wedding trends on Pinterest" thread here, with a "How silly is that mainstream wedding industry, am I right?" kind of tone. I got comments on that article that were so butthurt. Yes, I wrote that snark with YOU in mind, just to offend YOU. Even the main editor told me that people leave comments like that because they come to OBB for someone to "validate" their feelings. Ding ding ding ding! Shine on, you crazy diamonds.

I'm okay with OBB when it comes to taste. It's the etiquette that bothers me. Like, a week or so ago there was this gorgeous wedding porn and I was looking through all the pictures and everything was lovely and I was all "Oh man, I LOVE everything about this" --- until the couple mentioned they'd eloped like a year prior which meant this whole thing was a PPD. And, honestly, prior to coming to TK I don't think I would have noticed or cared about that but now I realize how stupid a PPD is for so many reasons.

QFT. @princessgracekelly, my FI and I are also nerdy. We are having a fairly traditional wedding but will be incorporating some small nerdy touches, and I love getting inspiration on sites like OBB. But I hate that non-traditional/offbeat seems to mean "against etiquette" on those sites. While a Renaissance/Doctor Who/Star Wars mash up themed wedding might not be my personal preference, as long as it is properly hosted, I think it's awesome if that's what the couple loves.

I would actually love to hear about the details of your offbeat wedding .

ETF: Boxes that disappeared and reappeared

_________________________________

I completely agree. I don't care what your wedding theme looks like or how offbeat and nontraditional it is. I just don't want to have to pay for food or drinks or get a letter in the mail requesting money for your wedding/honeymoon/house fund.

______Boxes_______

The "worst wedding trends on Pinterest" and other threads that snark on peoples' tastes here is what led me to write that people may snark on my offbeat wedding. It's totally okay, I can take what I dish out.

But in addition to planning around a fantasy-book theme, FI and I have planned for a chair for every butt and food for every mouth. Essentially, we have it so people could ONLY snark on the fact that there will be mutha-fuckin' dragons!!! everywhere.

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I think, at least for me, when I snark on the decor of a wedding, it's because it's trendy and has absolutely nothing to do with the couple. Barns and lace and burlap are so popular but only like 1% of burlap brides even know what burlap is even used for, other than cutesy table runners. If you have to go out and buy cowboy boots (and rhinestoney pink ones) for you "rustic chic country modern elegance backwoods bonanza cowboy princess cinderella " wedding theme, I'mma laugh at you.

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Knottie1428501415 · April 2015

wow

Offbeat Bride strikes again!

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