Getting over that hump

princessgracekelly · April 2015

We were out of milk, so I couldn't eat breakfast at home like normal. I "had to" get Chick-fil-A for breakfast from the building at work. WOE IS ME.

For those of you who would like a food pick-me-up, USA Today has published an article on free goodies for Tax Day:

ETA: Ugh, it's not posting the link. But it's there. It's there.

jenna8984 · April 2015

@luckya23 Are you actually looking to buy a timeshare or are you just going for free shit? We did that 2 years ago and it was the biggest waste of time ever. First of all, they try to sell you timeshares for like $8,000-15,000 when you can go online and literally buy them off people for $1. People are that desperate to get out of them because of the $500-1,000 annual maintenance fees.

Secondly, the "prizes" can't be used for shit. Like they said free trip to Jamaica. Yea ok, until we went to use it and they said the flights are free IF you stay at our overpriced property for a minimum of 7 nights. Even the local ones we couldn't use, like we were supposed to get 2 nights on the Cape....again pay this $100 service fee, and you can only stay Mondays and Tuesday between January and March when it's fucking snowing.

luckya23 · April 2015

jenna8984 said:
@luckya23 Are you actually looking to buy a timeshare or are you just going for free shit? We did that 2 years ago and it was the biggest waste of time ever. First of all, they try to sell you timeshares for like $8,000-15,000 when you can go online and literally buy them off people for $1. People are that desperate to get out of them because of the $500-1,000 annual maintenance fees.
Secondly, the "prizes" can't be used for shit. Like they said free trip to Jamaica. Yea ok, until we went to use it and they said the flights are free IF you stay at our overpriced property for a minimum of 7 nights. Even the local ones we couldn't use, like we were supposed to get 2 nights on the Cape....again pay this $100 service fee, and you can only stay Mondays and Tuesday between January and March when it's fucking snowing.

Aww, yeah, it was just to get the gifts! Well luckily I got a project up there so I'll only be out the time. Mostly I want to go in the hot tub!!! lol

At this one we don't even get a night at the resort, what kind of crap is that?? Not that we could stay with the dogs anyway, but ah well at least I get to spend the day with FI.

falsara · April 2015

I need a pick me up! Wednesdays are already long for me I have four classes, they span all day, starting at 9:30 am and going to 8:30 pm, and today the schedule is all thrown off. My 6:00 internship is moving to one hour earlier because the author of the book we've been helping publish is doing a reading at my university.

On top of that FI has a major gig tonight. He's opening for a really big hotshot Comedian, and its right after the internship that got moved an hour earlier.

I put a To-Do list together yesterday of all the things that have to be done during the next few weeks, since finals are now a week and a half away. It's a scary list.

I still don't know if my work- study job is keeping me on for the summer.

Last night FI and I had a stupid mini-fight about him changing plans on me at the last second. It was incredibly stupid and luckily we caught ourselves once the Parrot chimed in.

levioosa · April 2015

I thought I hit the snooze button this morning, but it turns out I actually turned off my alarm. Oops. Good thing my body woke me up around the same time I'd normally be leaving for work. Of course there was laundry to switch around before I left this morning. I've also had pre-period cramps, and it's making me really apprehensive of what's coming in three days.

Other than that, all is good.

NowIamMrsKlein · April 2015

I could definitely use a pick me up. I've been having bad anxiety this week. There was a plane crash in our province on Monday. The plane was for a company similar to my FI's, a plane similar to the one he flies and on a route that he often flies. Both pilots on the plane were around FI's age too.

So it's hitting really really close to home, and I am having a hard time dealing with it this week:(

FI went and got me icecream last night and we drank wine so that helped a bit.

lyndausvi · April 2015

I had a horrible night sleep. It's like 30-something degrees outside and it was so damn hot in our place I had the window open. Our heater is turned off. So all I can't think is we share walls on either side and the neighbor's heat was on or something. IDK, it was just weird. It didn't help that the bulldog was all over my side of the bed either.

What is getting me over the hump is we are taking an RV to Moab this weekend. I can't wait to hike, bike and sort-of camp out. I say sort-of because it's an RV. With cable, shower, fridge, freezer and a queen size bed. Not really camping.

levieenrose · April 2015

Emma, sorry to hear about your husband's work.

Mikenberger, congratulations--two weeks away is so exciting!

SoontobeMrsKlein, I am so sorry to hear about that sad news. I know I would be worried about my partner, too.

Fluttering, thanks for this post. I have some things to get off my chest and I'm glad I can do it without making an AW thread:

Yesterday, MIL told us she bought a new car, yay!

Then MIL had a FILING CABINET FALL ON HER at work. She almost got caught between the desk and the cabinet, but she was able to fall to the floor and the desk caught the cabinet from crushing her. She has bruised muscles, but nothing worse, thank goodness. There's pain in her arm, shoulder, and neck, and she won't go in to work for a few days because she can't protect herself--she works in a prison. I wouldn't go in to work even if it only required me to sit at a desk. Just get better, MIL.

My friend who is suffering from chronic pain made improvements in leaps and bounds last month, but had a major relapse on Monday. We're working through things there.

After recieving four rejections and nearly giving up hope the last few months, on Monday I finally got accepted to a PhD program at Oxford, yay! But I haven't heard about funding yet, so it still might not happen. Oh, also, the start date is 5 days before SIL's wedding. I'm not going to say anything until I hear back about funding, but that means I have to keep this to myself for a couple weeks. Worst case scenario is that DH goes to wedding without me. Actually, maybe I have that wrong? Worst case scenario is that the funding doesn't come through?

Tomorrow DH and I are going to a second viewing at two houses we like and will most likely make an offer on one of them. I have spreadsheets up the galore and have read all the homeowner books in the public library, but the idea of being a homeowner is a little scary. (I have a toolbox and can assemble furniture and do minor repairs, I actually enjoy cleaning out gutters, but have no experience doing anything else) New adventures!

I am starting to get my confidence back about things after so long. I realized this yesterday when I ran in to one of the most snobby academics I know (he's nice, but undeniably, definitely snobby and takes almost every opportunity to make jabs at my discipline). I hadn't seen anyone from the art institute or college for months and when he condescendingly asked about my situation, I internally relished at the opportunity to casually say I worked for myself: freelance work to start in a couple months for a major university press and that my current project is a paper to present at a conference in Belgium. I guess that makes me the ultimate snob, though, because I just for fought snobbery with snobbery.

My dad put in his papers. He's worked hard for the state, but he's leaving early and taking a cut to his retirement. Why? Because he's fighting for the little guy and to protect the union on principles and rights which do not actually affect him at all. Go Dad!!!

ETA: sorry for the novel. And Sarawifenow, I am sorry about your news as well. I hope things work out for you soon.

minttobemrsb · April 2015

jenna8984 said:
@luckya23 Are you actually looking to buy a timeshare or are you just going for free shit? We did that 2 years ago and it was the biggest waste of time ever. First of all, they try to sell you timeshares for like $8,000-15,000 when you can go online and literally buy them off people for $1. People are that desperate to get out of them because of the $500-1,000 annual maintenance fees.
Secondly, the "prizes" can't be used for shit. Like they said free trip to Jamaica. Yea ok, until we went to use it and they said the flights are free IF you stay at our overpriced property for a minimum of 7 nights. Even the local ones we couldn't use, like we were supposed to get 2 nights on the Cape....again pay this $100 service fee, and you can only stay Mondays and Tuesday between January and March when it's fucking snowing.

This is what my parents do. We actually do own a timeshare but did not purchase through the company. They bought directly from a seller- wayyyy cheaper.

But when we travel, we always sit through the 2 hour sales pitch nonsense for the gift cards and free night at the hotel. Last time we ended up with about $300 spending money and another $200 in restaurant gift cards. The trips they try to get you to go on are ridiculously overpriced. My dad always laughs at the "deals" they make it sound like you're getting.

ElcaB · April 2015

Hells yeah I need a pick-me-up! I've felt so tired & grouchy this week. Make it stop!

Yesterday I started Jillian Michaels 30-Day Shred. I've been doing 30DS for years, but I've never done it 30 consecutive days in a row. I really need to work on my body for self love purposes. Today, my BFF is coming over and we are going to do her T-25 program + my 30DS. Lord help me!

Here's a Kimmying GIF to get everyone through the day! Let's Kimmy until we make it!

jenna8984 · April 2015

@levieenrose omg I am so sorry about your MIL- that is crazy. I assume worker's comp is paying for her leave and any medical bills? I hope she recovers soon and glad to hear that the desk at least saved her a little.

My biggest piece of advice to you with the house hunt is making sure the big, expensive systems are new/ updated. That's not a factor if you're looking at brand new homes, but on older homes. I bought mine and the home inspector said "I can't tell how old the roof and furnace are but they look fine". Um cut to 3 months later, when my entire savings was depleted on the down payment and my roof and furnace both failed- in the middle of winter. I had to get loans for $10,000 to have them repaired because I had no other choice. I felt like such a fool for not using that in negotiations or having them inspected by someone else. If they can't tell you when the last time it was updated- then assume you will need to update it, and know exactly how much that will cost you.

LadyMillil · April 2015

I'm vent-y today.

Vent 1

DH invited friends to come on a mini trip with us (without asking me). They are very cheap and their budget for everything is not at all realistic based on current hotel rates. We needed to book the hotel ASAP because it is a popular weekend. I found a great deal. They procrastinated on getting back to me if the price was okay. Now that hotel is sold out. So is my second option, and my third option. I spent last night researching hotels and found a decent one, but it is quite far away from the attractions. I booked it without consulting them because there aren't any affordable, clean, good reviews, accessible hotel options left.

Vent 2

We are TTC now. The two week wait is annoying. Spotting is annoying. Not knowing for sure when my next period will be is annoying. Having my next fertile window while I'm out of town by myself is annoying.

Vent 3

I have to wear business attire when I am out of town in 2 weeks. I don't have any suit bottoms and jackets that work together, so now I need to buy a new suit.

wandajune6 · April 2015

Rough week. I've worked an average of 15 hours/day since last Friday, including the weekend. DH is hammered with final projects and papers so we only see each other from our desks and never go to bed at the same time. Or talk. Or at real food.

Also, MIL is still terminal and getting worse fast. DH's family is a mess over the whole thing- lots of fighting and bitchiness. Plus a newly-created Go Fund Me that his sister started last night without consulting with anyone that we can't understand. It lists all of these expenses that are either non-existent or that DH and I are already paying for. She wants to take a leave from her job to come back for the summer and I'm pretty sure that she's planning on using the funds for that. I'm hoping I'm wrong.

And bad cramps today. Blah.

Everything will be ok once we make it to May 16 (DH graduation).

levieenrose · April 2015

Thank you for the kind thoughts and advice, Jenna! MIL's HR was on it, and I am just so thankful she wasn't more seriously injured.

Re: the houses, I do know about the age of each roof, but I'm going to be breaking out the camera for sure tomorrow for appliances, circutbreaker, and any weird bubbling, mildew, water stains, cracks, evidence of infestations, etc. Both places also have septic. DH's sniffer is better than mine, so he's responsible for that. While I realize that you can't know everything and an inspector can't know everything, at least we know enough to identify and ask about issues before we make an offer and pay for a more complete inspection.

sassyfrass2014 · April 2015

Getting through the aftermath of a drug bust with my students. I had three students involved and I'm really upset about it. They're the class that the veteran teachers will actively say, "...are going to jail." They say this to my students! I love them, though. We've made such great progress together. Me as a 1st-year teacher and them as people! The class and I are trying to make it through this together. I'm in contact with the students involved and I'm telling them not to let this be the thing that breaks them. They can come out of this stronger and wiser...

In other, less heavy and depressing news, I had a dream last night that the government declared that quarters will now have smooth edges like nickels, and everyone was really mad about it.

FiancB · April 2015

We're both home sick. I have Wednesdays off from school anyway, but I usually run a bunch of errands and ride my horse and stuff. Trying to motivate myself to at least get some studying done but ehhhh.

JCbride2015 · April 2015

Yeah, I'm feeling vent-y too. I just can't get over my anger at FPILs FMIL for her behavior this weekend. I'm hurt about them backing out of the welcome dinner although I understand why, but more angry that FMIL was such a bitch to me and my sister for two straight days. Probably because she was anxious about having to tell us they are backing out. I get it. But your reaction to that can't be passive aggressive nastiness to everyone around you. FMIL also said some hurtful things regarding hypothetical plans for her own daughter's hypothetical shower vs. what she is (not) doing for mine. I am just really pissed, like literally to the point that I wake myself up at night feeling angry.

Fi and I got in a fight about this last night after our dance lesson (which was stressful because I'm having anxiety about doing the dance itself). Fi wasn't aware of a lot of the things FMIL said over the weekend because he wasn't around, so I think he understood more where I was coming from when I told him. But his mindset is basically, "That's the way she is. She's just a mean person. You can't change her." I know I can't change her, but just because that's the way she is doesn't mean I have to be okay with her treating me that way.

Work on Monday was one of my most stressful days here yet. It's been calmer the past couple of days. I have been to barre class the past two days and I'm going tomorrow. My physical therapist is a complete fan of the program and says it's probably the best exercise I could be doing, so now that I have her blessing I feel even better about it. It's helping me work out some of my anxiety and extra energy, that I can no longer work out by running.

And we got our first RSVPs in the mail! There will be at least 19 people at our wedding.

lurkergirl · April 2015

We started standardized testing today. I need good vibes for patience for the next 4 school days. Fellow teacher knotties, I know y'all feel me!

plainjane0415 · April 2015

Last week and this week are going by SO SLOW.

I want Saturday to get here so I can go pick up my dress from being altered and go shopping with my mom.

I have been extremely tired this week due to it almost being my time of the month, and that's my main PMS symptom, and it's been raining all week so that doesn't help my tiredness.

wandajune6 · April 2015

lurkergirl said:
We started standardized testing today. I need good vibes for patience for the next 4 school days. Fellow teacher knotties, I know y'all feel me!

I keep hearing about all of those Atlanta teachers going to jail for messing with the standardized tests. Is that impacting your school at all?

lurkergirl · April 2015

wandajune6 said:

lurkergirl said:
We started standardized testing today. I need good vibes for patience for the next 4 school days. Fellow teacher knotties, I know y'all feel me!
I keep hearing about all of those Atlanta teachers going to jail for messing with the standardized tests. Is that impacting your school at all?

Only in the sense that everyone in Georgia makes damn sure to follow all the rules to a T. And there are lots and lots and lots of rules. Everyone is a little tense and uncomfortable and really scared of even accidentally doing anything wrong.

I don't work in Atlanta Public Schools, but I can imagine they are being sure to do everything right. Those former educators received some very stiff sentences yesterday. It's actually a really interesting case from a legal standpoint--the trial lasted for 6 months, and I feel like it took years to even get to trial.

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