Ok. Remember my husband's friend's wife who shamed me on fb for getting her son a duplicate gift for his first birthday, tagged me and two others in the post, and told us we should have consulted the other guests to make sure we didn't get her son the same gift? A while back, I unfriended her, but I did not block her (as Knotties suggested). I also kept her husband from seeing my posts so she wouldn't be made aware that I had unfriended her. She must have realized both myself and my sister have unfriended her and asked me if I was upset with her. This is my response"
"Yes. You did something to upset me, to put it mildly. I suffer from back problems, and even if I didn't, I would still be upset. The week of your son's first birthday party, my back was out really bad. The day of the party, H and I went to Target to find your son a birthday gift. We spent 2 hours in the store, debating the right gift to get him. (Normally, I go shopping a week in advance for a party, but I could not drive because of my back issues. So, I had to get Jacob a gift the day of the party). We, then, saw the Batman Little People figurines and thought that would have been the perfect gift along with the play tunnel.
Then, we go to the party excited to see your DS on his first birthday. We had a good time, but my back was terrible from the sitting. It's fine, it happens. When I get home, I saw your facebook post and gasped . Your poor etiquette to scold me on giving your son a gift because it was a duplicate, really pissed me off. Then, you had to tag me in it, as if to shame me, for not getting the right gift. You, also, said that your guests should have contacted other gift givers to make sure our gifts were different.
I was taught that anything someone gets you is something they didn't have to do. It's the thought that counts, and that thought should be appreciated. Now, I know getting duplicates is frustrating, but I did enclose a gift receipt. The polite form of action would be to grumble about it with your H, and let it go. You should never have insulted me... and on a public forum for everyone to see. I had friends asking me what was your deal. They saw what you had said (because you tagged me), and told me it was way out of line. I, also, asked several other people and was given the same response, so I know it wasn't just me, making a bigger deal out of nothing. Facebook is not a diary. There are somethings that shouldn't be uttered in public. If you wouldn't take a megaphone to say things about people, then it shouldn't be on facebook. People can see that shit, especially when you go out of your way to bring it to their attention... it is not only rude, but it is hurtful."
This is what I was planning to send her. Now, I don't know if my words are too harsh... please let me know if they are. I got all pissed off all over again, and am not sure this is proper etiquette. She did ask what upset me though, and I don't want H dealing with my beef with her. He is still friends with her H.