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themosthappy91
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People Feel So Entitled
The thing that the most blew me away about the wedding planning process was how entitled people feel to be invited, without a second thought.
Between my FI and I we are now up to FIVE "friendships" apparently ended over not being invited to our wedding. All five people in question were casual friends (in all but one case, people that one or the other of us would have considered a "best friend" at a previous point in our lives- mostly high school- but who we now see only 2-3 times a year and rarely keep up with) who indicated that they were expecting to be invited and who, despite many attempts to reach out to them, have not spoken to us since finding out they weren't.
It just BLOWS MY MIND that people take this kind of thing so personally- especially considering that we only invited 50 people to our wedding so it's not like we included everyone in the world but them. Anyone else have a major fall-out over failing to invite someone?
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Re: People Feel So Entitled
My cousin got drunk and my uncle didn't like that. Give him a damn break!
My uncle has no real way to contact me but he told my dad that I'm disowned. My dAd was all "ok asshole".
I told her we were going small and family only and then was like, wow, it's getting dark better get on the road!
I lied on both counts. We have 110 people on the guest list and while almost every one is family, we technically each invited 3 friends and their SOs/spouses.
God it was awkward. When I mailed the STD to my relative I called her and asked her not to mention it to neighbor in hopes she'd forget the whole thing and not ask again or put my relative in an awkward situation.
EFC.
It baffles me too. There have been plenty of people in my circle of friends who didn't invite me to their weddings. Know what I said to them? "Congratulations on your engagement!". That's it.
I have never been whiny and butt hurt over getting left off a wedding invite list, it would never dawn on me to be butt hurt and whiny. You simply can't invite everyone you know and have ever met, the line has to be drawn somewhere. In all the situations where I was not invited they were people I knew, people I was friendly with, but not friends.
Although, if my BFF I have known for almost 30 years (we met in 7th grade) got married and didn't invite me, I would probably call and say "Bitch?! WTF?!". Because 1) 30 year friendship and we still talk at least once a week 2) I can totally call her a bitch. 3) Okay yeah, I would feel entitled to be invited to her wedding, but that's about it.
I tried avoiding telling too many people about it except close family. My cousin demanded to be a brides maid although I rarely see her and I already had my 5 reliable bridemaids. I had to put my foot down and tell her no because she is not reliable and rarely talks to me. She is not longer talking to me. However,my mother has a big mouth and decided to begin asking distant cousins to be IN MY WEDDING and now I have a 9 year old flower girl who has been practicing walking down the isle since she was asked and an 8 year old ring barer who is asking when he gets to get to carry the pillow.
Btw, its easy to say its not hard when you still have over 11 months left.
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My entire engagement was less than five months. It's not hard.
If you are this upset over planning a wedding I can't imagine how you handle real problems. Buck up buttercup.