Have y'all experienced this? Now that we've announced the sex, we already have the peanut gallery weighing in on names.
DH is a "IV" (kind of because it's his middle name, not his first name). His dad is obviously pushing for his name. Its not going to happen. His dad has done several super dickhead things over the years (just one example: trying to get DH to move home and leave me after we moved in together). So yea, there's no way that's happening.
But in the other thread, it sounds like family names are a big deal. So would you use a family name? Have you/did you get pressured to use one?
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Re: Spinoff: Families pushing for baby names
However, listen to other people's opinions that generally have good advice. A name is a huge deal and honestly shouldn't be taken lightly!
My mom's name is Shelley, and I like the idea of naming a future daughter Michelle kind of after her (I like the name anyway though), DH's mom's name is Carol so maybe Caroline Michelle Lastname? I dunno, DH doesn't feel like it's important to name any future children after anyone, and I have to admit I don't really either.
DH would want any some to have the middle name John, since that's a family name, so that is important to him.
I'm sure when I'm pregnant or stressed out with the adoption process, I'll have no problem telling anyone who gives an opinion to step off.
I don't have names I like in my family, and FI's family is worse, IMO.
He realllllllly wants to pass on the name Thorwaldsen!!
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I'm starting to warm up to the idea of a repeat name, only because I would seriously consider naming a girl after my grandmother (now that she's dead and can't yell at me for it), but she's the only one I would name my child after. I'm also not a fan of the sr/jr/III thing. It always struck me as finding yourself just a little too self-important. Plus, it tends to get left off and I worry that maybe my kid will grow up to be an @sshole or a criminal orsomethingand then people get him or her confused with my SO OR myself.
there won't be any pressure from family members, although I can see having a disagreement if we were to have a boy. FI wants his name to be a boy's middle name since his middle name is his dad's. To me I think that since the boy already gets his last name it would be nice to incorporate something from my family as a middle name. So really we will just have to have a name that doesn't incorporate any family to make it work best!
My grandma pushed hard for a family name. We blew off that request and names our son Alexander.
Luckily she was able to find an Alexander way way way up in our family tree, she has accepted the name.
As someone who did all of the on-boarding, new hire orientation, and new hire paperwork...hyphenated names are SO annoying. Half the time just one of the names is put into the system (and I never know which name it will be until my forms bounce back as "incorrect name"), the other have they only have a portion of the name. Not only does this mess with my paperwork, but also with ID badges, emails, and business cards. UGH.
It's been a thing in my dad's family to make the middle name of the oldest girl be my great grandmother's first name. It's my grandma's middle name, my aunt's, mine, and 2 of my cousins'. H likes the name - almost too much. He likes it as a first name, and doesn't want to "waste" it as a middle name for the other girls' name we like in case we have another girl.
I could push "this is our tradition and what I've been planning forever, so we're doing it," especially since he's kind of for it (likes that name combo) but I don't want to issue any ultimatums on names. It's his kid too. We may still end up doing it "my" way, but we have to decide that mutually.
ETA: As for other's input, no, we don't have any pressure there. My dad is a "III" but they already made the decision not to do it to my brother and make him "IV." H's side of the family already has a boy who is the "V" of FIL and previous' names. Even if there were pressure, "Thank you, we'll consider, bean dip" is all we'd do.
ETA: We told people the names we were considering and got no push back whatsoever from family. Maybe because we had already made the decision?
Neither of my parents are particularly fond of their own names so they wouldn't want me to name kids after them. The Kid was named after DH's father so that's taken. He will not name a child after MIL.