The "I Do" BBQ - Day After Wedding - Appropriate to invite other guests?

Re: The "I Do" BBQ - Day After Wedding - Appropriate to invite other guests?

• SP29 member

  

  May 2015 edited May 2015

  There's nothing wrong itself with the BBQ party you want to host- it has its own invitation, it's not a wedding re-enactment, you are fully hosting your guests.

  
  

  Parties are never wrong.

  
  

  BUT I wouldn't do it the day after. And I wouldn't have any ties to your wedding (i.e. skip the dress). I don't think there is anything wrong with saying that you and your FI want to host your first party as husband and wife, but linking it to your wedding in any way does come off as a consolation prize and questions why you didn't invite them all in the first place (which is perfectly fine that you didn't- you're an adult, you can own your decisions without needing to make explanations.

  
  

  DH and I had our wedding in our hometown, so most of our friends would be OOT. A bunch couldn't make the trip. About a month later we hosted a dinner at our place and invited all of our friends (these were all people who were invited to the wedding- some came, some didn't). We wanted to host a "Welcome to the SP29's home!". Nothing wedding related about it (regular clothes, had it in our apartment's "party room" for space reasons), just a time where we could get all of our friends together. 

  
  

  If you do want to do this still, I would wait to plan it and send out invitations until after your honeymoon. 

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• Fairyjen1 member

  

  May 2015

      We did a very small destination wedding. Only 16 people including us. No AHRs or later celebrations. We got asked constantly if we were doing another party for all our friends and extended family when we got back. We bean dipped a lot. Some people seemed dissapointed, most understood. 

  
  

     At the time my mom offered my parents house for us to host a BBQ this summer. Not wedding related, it would be more like our first time hosting a gathering as a couple (we can only fit about 8 people in our apartment so no family gatherings there unless people want to eat in shifts, LOL). I think she feels it will make those we didn't invite feel better. 

  
  

      Fortunately she seems to have forgotten about it. Not that's there's anything wrong with my husband and I hosting a non-wedding related BBQ for friends 9 months after the wedding, we can host a party anytime, but mostly because I don't feel like planning one. I had a very small wedding for the same reason! I paid Disney some money and showed up in the dress. 

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