Now that the Math Final Debacle of 2015 has been settled, I have some room in my brain to tackle wedding stuff again (which is fabulous, because it's much more fun to talk about).
The condensed version of this is that my mom and I have somewhat of an estranged relationship, and she's been using the wedding as a way to reconnect, which would be really nice aside from the fact that she has absolutely zero idea what's going on in my life aside from my wedding colors and the menu, basically. She offered to throw me a shower as soon as we told her we were engaged, and when I said that I hadn't really planned on having one because I think they're awkward, she insisted.
I asked that it be a couples shower so that FI could be there to keep me from getting jittery.
I got a text yesterday asking how many guests were invited to the wedding, and I told her it's currently 125, but we're hoping to get it closer to 100 before STDs. She replied, "K, just budgeting for the shower." I said, "Oh! Well, I would think it would be way less for the shower - maybe 50?" and she was really confused as to why it wasn't 100.
And now I have questions. Just … just so many questions.
- Is it normal to invite the entire guest list to the shower? I know the rule about not inviting anybody that will not ultimately be invited to the wedding, but who am I "supposed" to invite? I always thought the shower was more of an intimate party than the wedding itself, but maybe I'm wrong.
- She's also insisting we register - do we do that, or is that just as tacky as registering for a wedding? I didn't even want a shower in the first place, so I'm not looking for this to be gift-central.
- Should I anticipate there being awkward games at a couples shower the same way there is at a bridal shower? I don't want people to have to sit through those, but I know I'm not allowed to give input on my own shower. Just trying to mentally prepare myself (and maybe warn some friends).
TEACH ME YOUR SHOWER WAYS, KNOTTIES. What am I in for?