My cousin graduates from college in two weeks (yay!) It is also my birthday that day (double yay). The graduation is about 3-3.5 hours from where we live. Cousin and her family live 5 minutes from us. We were all invited about 2 months ago (all being myself, my sisters, niece, nephews, and parents). When invited we were told that the graduation was at 11 and then they were planning a little lunch celebration at a nearby park. Ok, great. . . . we all said we'd go. Apparently my aunt, cousin's mom texted my mom last night to update her on the plans. The graduation is now at 10:30. She is going early with someone from her husband's side of the family to try to save enough seats for everyone. The graduation is estimated to be 3 hours long (!!). The new plan for after is to have a deli catered lunch at cousin's on campus apartment with her roommates and all of their family members as well. I would say there are easily 10-15 invited just with my cousin, so I don't know a total number of people. My aunt said she needed to know how many of us would stay for lunch so she can place an order, and the cost is per person, not per family (which makes me think we are supposed to pay for our own lunch).
additional info-
this is Memorial Day weekend, which could make travel extra hairy
I have awful back issues and one of my sisters is pregnant, so if they run out of seats, it will be quite difficult, if not impossible, for either of us to stand for 3 hours.
An aunt from out of state is planning to come with her son, who cousin sees much less often than us
What would you do?
1. Drive up for the graduation, hope there is a seat, and then cram into the apartment for the lunch, paying for your ration of sandwich/wrap before driving home
2. Drive up for the graduation then drive home
3. Politely decline based on the change of circumstances and make plans to take cousin out for lunch/drinks/whatever in the next week or two to celebrate.
4. Something else