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redoryx · May 2015

Speaking of parents and sex....

Years ago I got the Sex & the City DVD for Christmas and that morning my sister and I were watching it (we'd both seen it before). Our dad is in the living room with us not really watching but apparently kind of listening because the scene where the girls are talking about how long it's been since they've had sex and Miranda says "six months," my dad said "Did she say six months? That's bad even at my age!"

My sister got completely grossed out but I laughed.

Kahlyla · May 2015

Heffalump said:

dolewhipper said:
OH! Forgot to mention. My friend is 6 months pregnant. I taught her, maybe last month, what and where her labia is. She went to public school. She is 27.
Not that your friend did this, but it reminded me: it is a pet peeve of mine when people say "vagina" when they actually mean "labia." We were in the locker room before DD's swim practice last week when one of the moms said "Sophie, cover your vagina." It took all I had not to say "Chances are, it's already pretty well covered."

(Also, that's a weird way to tell someone to put on their underwear or swimsuit bottom or whatever, but I'm assuming that's what she meant, given the context and the fact that the kid was wearing a shirt and nothing else.)

"Boys have a penis, girls have a vagina" kills me, because a) they both have a lot more than that, and b) even if you want to focus on the most visible exterior body part for simplicity, the vagina ain't it.

OMG, me too! I remember reading like a Cosmo once with some sex stories from men. This one dude said something like, "and then she rubbed her vagina on my face..." and I'm like, "OH, THAT'S A NEAT TRICK!"

WinstonsGirl · May 2015

Teaching sex-ed is one of my favourite things. I think we've got it pretty good here in Alberta, though we could use some updating. Basically, it's body party and puberty from 4-7, Pregnancy and STI's grade 8/9 and then something in grade 11, but I don't know what cos I've never taught it. Our curriculum states that abstinence is the bet way to avoid pregnancy and STI's, but if you're going to have sex, here's info on BC and prevention of STI's. So, technically, I have to push abstinence, but I can still talk pretty openly about everything else.

My favourite class is the Question Box. I get everything and I will answer everything. I get a little worried that parents will be upset I've taught their 11 year old what masturbation is and that it's ok, for example, and some parents just aren't ready for that (even though they need to be). But I also know that if kids have heard these words, I'd rather they get an educated and informed version of what it is instead of trying to find out online or from their friends.

My biggest issue is with parents who pull their kids. And 99% of the time, it's more religious or culturally conservative groups. I'd understand if they were going to teach their kids at home, but I know they're not. Also, these kids just go to their friends at recess and lunch and ask them what they talked about and then end up getting a half correct mixed message that it's worse off for them.

huskypuppy14 · May 2015

I grew up in CT, and we had pretty good comprehensive sex ed classes in my district. 4-5 grade girls and boys separated and talk about puberty. 6th grade it's more of the same but it's together with the boys, and I don't know what else because I missed half of that class because I had a music lesson at the same time.

7-8th grade you take health for a quarter of the year and we talked about pregnancy, diseases, etc. We watched the birthing video in 8th grade but it was censored so you didn't see the baby crowning or anything.

Also in 8th grade (separate from health) we talked about relationships, and talked about abusive relationships, and watched that old lifetime movie with Candace Cameron and Fred Savage, No One Would Tell.

Health was a required class to graduate in hs, and it was in the curriculum for 9th grade. I feel our health class was pretty good, we talked about contraception but they always emphasized that the only 100% way to not get pregnant is to not have sex. They also spent a lot of time on condoms (which makes sense), because if you are going to have sex, use a condom. We talked about other BC as well, but mostly condoms. We also talked about relationships, peer pressure, etc.

I saw the birthing video in biology class in 9th grade, uncensored, but we needed our parents to sign a permission slip. I remember saying, Mom can you sign this permission slip, we are watching a birthing video in class. She was like "are you sure you want to watch it."

In college during freshman orientation there was a required seminar on date rape and consent and some other things.

Overall, I've had pretty good education in those things. My parents were not as approachable, but my mom did to the talk when I was trapped with her in the car. She also bought me a bunch of books about those topics, and I think that was more comfortable for both of us.

I'm definitely going to be really open about sex to my kids. Talk to them all the time in an age appropriate manner. I would think it's easier to do it when they are young and always have it be a continuing converstation than to one day have an awkward conversation when they are 10 or something, like I had.

kvruns · May 2015

I'm 32 and my wedding is in 10 days. I keep waiting for my mom to try to give me the sex talk. The puberty thing was covered in school/Girl Scouts but mom has never ever mentioned sex. I assume she's waiting for me to get married and then the time will be right. God I hope she realizes that ship sailed bc I can't picture the convo!

JaniV123 · May 2015

I will come back friday and read all of this because I just cant afford to at the moment BUT I promise to PM you for help and ideas when I am planning the conferences the Ob/Gyn interest group will be hosting next year at middle schools, high schools, college and medical school.

I agree 100000000% with you pink!!

redheadbride15 · May 2015

I think I may a poster child for effective public school sex-ed. I lived in a politically liberal community and although I don't really remember the specifics of when and what I learned I can't imagine that any of it came from my parents. My mother moved out when I was 11 and we've never been close. My father has been a loving and supportive parent but we have never once had a conversation about sex.

I lived alone with my dad when I got my first period. I didn't tell anyone, but instead rode my bike to the store, bought a box of tampons and just started using them (to this day I've never once used a pad). I recall an awkward moment with my mother many years later when she asked "You did eventually get your period, didn't you?" Um, duh...

I didn't have sex until I was in my twenties, and when I did I felt very comfortable with all of my options for birth control and STD prevention and I knew where to get them. I have never felt coerced into having sex or regretted it after the fact. I knew about masturbation and did it without ever feeling ashamed. I know the correct names and functions of the pieces of my anatomy and I can't remember NOT knowing them. I have had the time to learn about myself, build a successful career, and become happy and confident as a woman despite the fact that I grew up without a female role model.

So, yeah, teach kids about EVERYTHING. Teach them in school. Don't assume parents will take on that responsibility.

Teddy917 · May 2015

I knew nothing about sex until I met my husband as embarrassing as that is. My parents told me nothing. We had health class in junior high that skipped sex end. In high school we were given a test on sexual anatomy but without being taught anything. I was lucky I got anything right. As for my period, I thought I had sat on a nail or something and got a cut before I realized what it really was.

Chipmunk415 · May 2015

Not sex ed, but related to the fun convos with parents...

When I was 16, I had a really, really bad period. Bad enough I was turning down mom's homemade meatballs and garlic bread for dinner, and that stuff makes you want to eat the plate.

I asked mom for aspirin and gatorade (my go to stomach calming drink), and mentioned I felt poorly. Dad (the doctor) is around the corner, unbeknownst to me, and hears this. He immediately comes in and starts interrogating me as to what's wrong, what are my symptoms, etc. I tried, I really did, to bean dip. But he finally got rude and asked where I got my fucking medical degree to know what the fuck was wrong.

I lost it.

I blew up that I didn't need a fucking medical degree to know that when Im on my fucking period, I feel like shit and need to take something to help myself feel better, but by all means, if he had a better explanation, then step up to the damn plate and state it.

Dad turned an even paler shade than normal, then red, and left the room. My mother was laughing so hard she had to grab onto the counter to keep upright. I heard him talking to her later when I laid down about how "Chipmunk shouldn't talk to me like that".....Mom told him to STFU he deserved that one, and now he knew better.

beachyone15 · May 2015

Representing Texas here. I watched "the video" in 5th grade and do you know what message I took away from it? Sex=Aids. It was terrifying.
I remember little else. I think there was a short class about anatomy in 7th grade but it was very vague re: sex. We were also encouraged to make a promise to God to abstain until marriage. I made that promise...then broke it. But I waited until I was 21 so at least I knew more about sex by then.
I wholeheartedly agree that we need an overhaul of sex ed, especially in my state.

levioosa · May 2015

I was very much a proactive learner. I was confused about some things, so I either waded through information on the internet, or I went to the library and looked it up. My mom also had a ton of anatomy and physiology books, so I looked at those too. My mom got me the American Girl book "Getting to Know Your Body," which actually wasn't as bad/lame as it sounds. Getting my period was still embarrassing though and I tried to hide it. Eventually I couldn't, and my periods were so bad my mom took me to the gyno to get the pill, which I am eternally grateful for. Being in pain for weeks out of the month also accelerated my knowledge. I wanted to know why, physiologically, I was experiencing so much pain. I still don't have an answer on that one. =(

My parents were of the "abstinent" school of thought, and most conversations were geared towards a combo of abstinence and "boys just want one thing," which always made me roll my eyes. I knew I personally was too young for sex in high school. I had a lot of friends who had a really rough time, because they had no idea of the emotional implications that having sex entailed. Seeing them struggle convinced me to wait as well. I really wish that was included in sex ed, along with everything else PPs have mentioned.

The final death knell was the STD/abortion class I had to take. I went to a Catholic school, so obviously scare tactics were where they took sex ed. I was way more of a germaphobe in high school, so looking at pictures of STDs was horrifying. I was also terrified of becoming pregnant. Like, not even because I didn't know how it worked. I knew about hormonal and physical forms of BC. When my friends told me their harebrained BC protocol (girls on top can't get pregnant! Pulling out totally works!) I made sure to educate them. I also seriously doubt the ability of the average high schooler to correctly perform NFP, so the fact that they taught that for "the future" always seemed dubious to me. I logically knew that if I followed a good BC protocol, I wouldn't get pregnant. I just didn't even want the possibility. I stress out now every month and I am religious with my BC. No babies for me (at least not for the next 3-4 years).

kns1988 · May 2015

loveislouder said:

kns1988 said:
My family is so female-centric and feminist that we got cakes to celebrate getting periods. As in, you got your period for the first time? Here's an icecream cake and balloons! It's a funny memory.

But yeah, sex ed at our school was lackluster. I got it mostly from home. I wish consent would have been talked about more at school because not knowing about the gray areas and then having those gray areas happen to me led to some very fucked up emotions.
My ex's neice got a weekend long party - everything was red (food, decorations, etc.) and we played pin the period on the pad. Awks.

Wowww that's taking it to a new level

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loveislouder · May 2015

kns1988 said:

loveislouder said:

kns1988 said:
My family is so female-centric and feminist that we got cakes to celebrate getting periods. As in, you got your period for the first time? Here's an icecream cake and balloons! It's a funny memory.

But yeah, sex ed at our school was lackluster. I got it mostly from home. I wish consent would have been talked about more at school because not knowing about the gray areas and then having those gray areas happen to me led to some very fucked up emotions.
My ex's neice got a weekend long party - everything was red (food, decorations, etc.) and we played pin the period on the pad. Awks.
Wowww that's taking it to a new level

It was so awkward because like... my ex, his dad and brother were there and they were just so uncomfortable.

MyNameIsNot · May 2015

I learned about periods from Judy Blume and sex from Cosmo and my peers. My catholic school taught basically nothing in our one hour "family life" class.

I wish the internet had existed back then. Learning about your own anatomy in your late 20's is sad.

VulgarGirl · May 2015

pinkrevenge said:

beachyone15 said:
Representing Texas here. I watched "the video" in 5th grade and do you know what message I took away from it? Sex=Aids. It was terrifying.
I remember little else. I think there was a short class about anatomy in 7th grade but it was very vague re: sex. We were also encouraged to make a promise to God to abstain until marriage. I made that promise...then broke it. But I waited until I was 21 so at least I knew more about sex by then.
I wholeheartedly agree that we need an overhaul of sex ed, especially in my state.
This is something I worry about and really gets to me. No one should be signing contracts about their body, children should not be signing contracts, especially for things that can't consent for, and God need to gets the fuck up out of public schools.

If I had a kid and they were asked to sign one of these, I would encourage them to tear it up, and then I would tear the principal up.

We used to have to sign all kinds of stupid pledges in school. I signed one that said I would not drink until I was 21, one that said I would not use tobacco products, and lastly one that said I would not ever use drugs.

Broke each and every pledge. But if I signed them they gave me a Popsicle. The abstinence pledge got to me after I had started having sex. And I mean...sex was awesome. I was not gonna give up the sex for a Popsicle. And they were much more agressive about their pledge.

TrixieJess · May 2015

MagicInk said:

pinkrevenge said:

beachyone15 said:
Representing Texas here. I watched "the video" in 5th grade and do you know what message I took away from it? Sex=Aids. It was terrifying.
I remember little else. I think there was a short class about anatomy in 7th grade but it was very vague re: sex. We were also encouraged to make a promise to God to abstain until marriage. I made that promise...then broke it. But I waited until I was 21 so at least I knew more about sex by then.
I wholeheartedly agree that we need an overhaul of sex ed, especially in my state.
This is something I worry about and really gets to me. No one should be signing contracts about their body, children should not be signing contracts, especially for things that can't consent for, and God need to gets the fuck up out of public schools.

If I had a kid and they were asked to sign one of these, I would encourage them to tear it up, and then I would tear the principal up.
We used to have to sign all kinds of stupid pledges in school. I signed one that said I would not drink until I was 21, one that said I would not use tobacco products, and lastly one that said I would not ever use drugs.

Broke each and every pledge. But if I signed them they gave me a Popsicle. The abstinence pledge got to me after I had started having sex. And I mean...sex was awesome. I was not gonna give up the sex for a Popsicle. And they were much more agressive about their pledge.

Are these pledges an American thing? Any Canadians help me out? I went to Catholic school and have never heard of pledging for anything? I never got offered a popsicle to be good, not that I would have for a popsicle, maybe a fudgesicle...I just got asked (often) to please be good, and stop preaching my heathen ways to the "good" Catholics. Yep, those "good" Catholics were the ones I was supplying with booze and condoms...can't understand where I got the "Heathen" title...

Bubblegum5586 · May 2015

kns1988 said:
My family is so female-centric and feminist that we got cakes to celebrate getting periods. As in, you got your period for the first time? Here's an icecream cake and balloons! It's a funny memory.

But yeah, sex ed at our school was lackluster. I got it mostly from home. I wish consent would have been talked about more at school because not knowing about the gray areas and then having those gray areas happen to me led to some very fucked up emotions.

This reminded me of when I got my period the first time (13 I think) my mom took me out of school for the day and we had a girls day celebrating. It was so much fun, we went shopping, to the movies and got ice cream. It was the first time I remember feeling like 2 women being friends. She did it again for my sister.

I don't remember much about sex ed in school.. I remember the period talk in elementary school (5th grade maybe) and then 1 class in middle school with the STD pictures and birth video. And I don't think I got anything in highschool!!! I went to trade school so with half our time in a trade, we only had half the time for academic classes... meaning there wasn't much time for electives. Luckily my Hebrew school did an indepth semester long class with our Rabbi in 7th grade. It was a great class because we learned a lot from a religion and a modern view. We learned about abortion (and how they are not against the Jewish religion), how to use condoms (with bananas lol) and more.

And my mom has always been very open with me. At a young age she would start talking about my body and changes that would come. She would do it in car rides together where I had no where to go! lol. She told me how her mom gave her a book and she has mis pronounced the word "vagina" until college because she had never heard it said out loud before!

Chipmunk415 · May 2015

Bubblegum, your fun day out with your mom makes me jealous, mine did nothing.

Then again, mine first started on a 4th of July in Miami. I am not kidding. I guess I get to pretend all those fireworks were to celebrate my ability to puke and bleed from opposite ends simultaneously?

FiancB · May 2015

Recently I learned that the TX school comes out of some legislation from Bush that basically threatened states that if they didn't switch to abstinence-only, their funding for roads and such would be revoked. Only two states told him to fuck himself, MN and one other that I'm not sure of.

There is a teaching program proposed that would start in kindergarten, with age appropriate stuff like what to do if someone touches you inappropriately or how to clean down there but it's meeting a lot of backlash because OMG WE CAN'T TALK ABOUT FORESKINS!

I actually got a pretty decent sex education, even starting in 8th grade at a Catholic school. Still, I think it's such a HUGE topic that it should indeed be its own class. And I'd love to teach it. I want to be a school nurse eventually and I'm already keeping in mind how I might do some outreach or talks or whatever if I end up in a middle or high school. There is so much more to cover than condom use. There are LGBTQ issues, there is consent, there's understanding your cycle outside of just when your period is, there's recognizing when you may have a cyst or infection or something going on.

swagandmoxie · May 2015

At some point in the mid 1970s (I'm in my 50s) I realized Mom knew NOTHING about her body and couldn't teach me anything so I bought myself the book Our Bodies, Ourselves. Mom FREEKED out when she found tampons in my drawer. WTH?? I remember talking about virginity, pregnancy, abortion, condoms, birth control etc. in our Health Class (Upstate New York). I think we did the "baby" assignment with an egg (DON'T CRACK IT or you fail!). I didn't have sex til I was 18 but I bought condoms and sponges and got myself to planned parenthood for a diaphragm before I got married at 21 ( to the guy I lost my virginity to, boy was that a stupid reason to get married). My ex-husband's hardcore Christian sister and her husband took my oldest daughter under their wing and had her throwing CDs onto the front lawn because she was afraid of messages from the devil on them. Pokemon cards were satanic too. Her Aunt took her aside and told her she needed to be working on her relationship with Jesus and not her relationship with her boyfriend (who she met at a church youthgroup)... her Uncle took the boyfriend aside and fed him some other crap and they broke up... both devastated. About 2 years later they get back together and in about 2 months she was pregnant. I later asked her if her and boyfriend decided to "do it" to prove they wouldn't be "struck down from the heavens" and her answer was "yep, pretty much, that's why decided to have sex."

VulgarGirl · May 2015

Oh! Someone talked about an AIDS video they saw? That reminded me of 7th grade science where our teach told us you could catch AIDS even from kissing. And that you should only have sex after you are married and get a blood test because otherwise you will for sure catch AIDS.

I told him you contract HIV, not AIDS. HIV turns into AIDS. He told me it was the same thing. No. HIV and AIDS are not the same thing. I feel like as a science teacher you should know this.

It was really awful because the take away was "If you so much as speak to someone with HIV you will get it too". I have friends who are HIV positive and that stigma is still fucking around today. Don't eat off the same dishes, don't sit near them, don't hug them, kiss them, use the same bathroom. YOU COULD GET THE AIDS.

I mean sure if you're fucking them without a condom or sharing a needle you'll probably get HIV from them. But if you share a bottle of water you aren't going to catch HIV. And the kissing thing? You would both need to have open sores in your mouth. It's possible just not probable.

LadyMillil · May 2015

TrixieJess said:

pinkrevenge said:

beachyone15 said:

We used to have to sign all kinds of stupid pledges in school. I signed one that said I would not drink until I was 21, one that said I would not use tobacco products, and lastly one that said I would not ever use drugs.

Broke each and every pledge. But if I signed them they gave me a Popsicle. The abstinence pledge got to me after I had started having sex. And I mean...sex was awesome. I was not gonna give up the sex for a Popsicle. And they were much more agressive about their pledge.

Are these pledges an American thing? Any Canadians help me out? I went to Catholic school and have never heard of pledging for anything? I never got offered a popsicle to be good, not that I would have for a popsicle, maybe a fudgesicle...I just got asked (often) to please be good, and stop preaching my heathen ways to the "good" Catholics. Yep, those "good" Catholics were the ones I was supplying with booze and condoms...can't understand where I got the "Heathen" title...

Canadian and went to public school. We never had to sign pledges about anything. The girls learned about periods and female puberty in gr. 4 and 5 while the boys learned about male puberty. Grades 6-8 we had sex ed with a public health nurse. It was mostly on STIs and preventing pregnancy, with some puberty review. Grade 9 health I had a fantastic female phys ed teacher that talked openly about birth control options, STI prevention, sex as a part of a healthy relationship, that you didn't have to have sex if you didn't want to, and answered any questions we had. I'm from a rural area where you "couldn't" be gay so everything was heteronormative and P-in-V focused.

My dad just ignored everything. My mom bought me a box of tampons and a box of pads and told me to use whichever I preferred, and she would replace them as needed. The sex talk with my mom happened twice. Before I went to university she told me that if I was planning on having sex with a man I should go on the pill so I didn't have a baby because that would screw up my future. When I moved in with DH she told me I should go on the pill unless I wanted to have a baby, which would be okay with her.

charcoalandblush · May 2015

MagicInk said:
Oh! Someone talked about an AIDS video they saw? That reminded me of 7th grade science where our teach told us you could catch AIDS even from kissing. And that you should only have sex after you are married and get a blood test because otherwise you will for sure catch AIDS.

I told him you contract HIV, not AIDS. HIV turns into AIDS. He told me it was the same thing. No. HIV and AIDS are not the same thing. I feel like as a science teacher you should know this.

It was really awful because the take away was "If you so much as speak to someone with HIV you will get it too". I have friends who are HIV positive and that stigma is still fucking around today. Don't eat off the same dishes, don't sit near them, don't hug them, kiss them, use the same bathroom. YOU COULD GET THE AIDS.

I mean sure if you're fucking them without a condom or sharing a needle you'll probably get HIV from them. But if you share a bottle of water you aren't going to catch HIV. And the kissing thing? You would both need to have open sores in your mouth. It's possible just not probable.

We were taught this too!!! I had a really fundamental misunderstanding of HIV/AIDS until like sophomore year of college. Our high school PE teachers (who taught an hour of sex ed once a year) basically told us that if you make out with someone who has HIV or AIDS that you are 100% guaranteed to catch it. Let alone having sex with someone HIV positive. When I found out that people with HIV can have safe sex and hugely reduce the risk of transmitting it to their partner, I was STUNNED.

I went to public high school in the south and had abstinence only. It was basically just pictures of STDs and naming the parts and stuff like that. I didn't know how to properly put on a condom until I had been having sex for 5 years. Also I'm sure I was TERRIBLE at BJs as a teenager because I interpreted "sucking a dick" as LITERALLY sucking. Like, hard. And nothing else.

My parents didn't help. To my mom's credit, she took me to get on the pill when I was like 14. But that was it. She was basically like "Do you want to go to the obgyn and get birth control? Ok, but you should still wait until you're married to have sex." That was about it.

She found a vibrator in my room when I was 18 and was PISSED. I came back with some retort about when she started having sex, she admitted that she lost her virginity at 17 and really didn't have much right to be mad at me about it since it wasn't even actual sex with another person (which I had been having since 15, but she didn't know that).

I want to be WAY more open than my parents were. And also offer my daughters BC basically as soon as I feel it's necessary. Because despite everything my mom DIDN'T teach me, I'm so glad I never got pregnant.

FiancB · May 2015

That makes me so sad. I've heard people say really dumb stuff about HIV/AIDS and I figured they just weren't paying attention in class, but apparently they were paying too much attention

charcoalandblush · May 2015

That makes me so sad. I've heard people say really dumb stuff about HIV/AIDS and I figured they just weren't paying attention in class, but apparently they were paying too much attention

Oh I'm sure I have inadvertently said ignorant shit about HIV/AIDS before and sincerely not known that what I was saying was wrong. Thank god I joined such a sex-positive sorority in college. That group of girls was basically my entire sex education.

My mom thinks it's a "gay disease." Same reason, I think - she's not trying to be ignorant or homophobic, she just paid a little too much attention in her shitty sex ed class.

VulgarGirl · May 2015

charcoalandblush said:
That makes me so sad. I've heard people say really dumb stuff about HIV/AIDS and I figured they just weren't paying attention in class, but apparently they were paying too much attention

Oh I'm sure I have inadvertently said ignorant shit about HIV/AIDS before and sincerely not known that what I was saying was wrong. Thank god I joined such a sex-positive sorority in college. That group of girls was basically my entire sex education.

My mom thinks it's a "gay disease." Same reason, I think - she's not trying to be ignorant or homophobic, she just paid a little too much attention in her shitty sex ed class.

In the 80s it was. They didn't know anything about it, it was prevalent among gay men and drug users. So...must be a gay thing.

Now people are still just willfully ignorant. My mom had me watch the Real World, the season with Pedro on it and explained HIV to me that way. He had a disease, but it's not something he can just give to someone else by being near them. Yes, eventually he will die from it and he knows that.

I still know people who react with total shock that I'm friends with people with HIV. I eat with them, hug and kiss them, I have even tattooed a few. The stigma that still exists is heart breaking. I remember, not too many years ago, someone going "So if someone with AIDS took a bit of a candy bar, would you take a bite right after them?" and someone else going "Ew no! That's how you get AIDS, I don't want AIDS!"...I did not talk to either of those people who were the exact same age as me again.

afox007 · May 2015

Chipmunk415 said:
Bubblegum, your fun day out with your mom makes me jealous, mine did nothing.

Then again, mine first started on a 4th of July in Miami. I am not kidding. I guess I get to pretend all those fireworks were to celebrate my ability to puke and bleed from opposite ends simultaneously?

Probably different years, but I started mine the day before 4th of July at this big night before street festive. My mom wasn't even home to deal with it. I tried fixing it myself but all she had where super heavy tampons and so I had to go talk to my dad.

Nothing is worse than being on your period for the first time, already emotional and having to watch your dad sit on the stairs crying.

VulgarGirl · May 2015

afox007 said:

Chipmunk415 said:
Bubblegum, your fun day out with your mom makes me jealous, mine did nothing.

Then again, mine first started on a 4th of July in Miami. I am not kidding. I guess I get to pretend all those fireworks were to celebrate my ability to puke and bleed from opposite ends simultaneously?
Probably different years, but I started mine the day before 4th of July at this big night before street festive. My mom wasn't even home to deal with it. I tried fixing it myself but all she had where super heavy tampons and so I had to go talk to my dad.

Nothing is worse than being on your period for the first time, already emotional and having to watch your dad sit on the stairs crying.

I didn't tell my dad when I started my period. It didn't seem important. And I guess my mom didn't tell him either because again...not important. I saw a spot of blood on my underwear while we were out shopping and was like "Mom, I started my period" I was pretty calm, and she got me some panty liners and that was that. We went out to dinner to "celebrate" the next day.

So flash forward like 2 fucking years and I'm at my dad's when I start my period in like the middle of the fucking night. So there's blood on my sheets and underwear when I wake up, gross. So I tell my dad I need to wash my sheets and he goes asks why cause that's a weird request for me to make and I just go "Oh I started my period last night so there is blood on them", like NBD pain in the ass but whatever.

My dad goes "Oh well um, congratulations on becoming a woman. Do you want to call your mom? Do you need anything from the store? Oh...you know how to use a pad and tampon right? Mom showed you? Or...cause I can help with the pad that's pretty easy but I'm still lost at tampons". I had to explain to him that I'd been dealing with this for 2 years and oh opps sorry we didn't tell you.

He was dating my step-mom at the time and I had to tell her the story. Over dinner. She laughed so hard she cried and then she goes "Just a heads up, I have a plaid cosmetic bag in your dad's bathroom with all kinds of stuff, feel free to use anything you need" and my dad goes "THAT is what is in there?!"...my poor dad. He has too many women in his life who just handle their shit without him.

novella1186 · May 2015

I dated a guy in college who couldn't even say the WORD tampon.

I started my period when I was visiting him, so I bought a box of tampons and ended up leaving them in the bathroom cabinet at his house. I figured I already had tampons at my place, so might as well have some at his place just in case (we'd been dating a long time and left all kinds of stuff at each other's houses at this point).

He calls me on the phone later and sounds all awkward and worried. I can hear something being kicked around. He says, "Uh... you left your... things." I had forgotten about the tampons so I said, "What things? My shoes?"

He says, "No... those things... in the bathroom"

I said, "Oh, the tampons? Yeah I left them on purpose."

He says, "You need to get them out. They're.... in here." Then I figure out that the weird noise in the background is him, standing in the bathroom, kicking the box of tampons around to try to get them out the door without touching them. He had pulled them out of the cabinet with his foot. With his shoes on.

He actually made me come back over and take them away because they freaked him out so bad.

Bye

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