The Bachelorette x2

novella1186 · May 2015

lovegood90 said:

climbingwife said:
I think it's the fact that it's probably been hidden before with the Bachelors. I have a hard time believing that in all of the seasons, not one bachelor hasn't slept with someone before the fantasy suite dates. But with Kaitlin they expose and slut shame her?

This is true! Even Chris and Britt last season "hanging out" in his hotel room on their date...why wasn't that questioned a bit more?
I'm wondering if Kaitlyn was pressured to come clean or if she did it on her own..but maybe she didn't have a choice because the producers would just cut the show to make it seem like it. Then she'd be exposed for "hiding something." Sigh. She can't win I guess.

It kind of broke my heart when they showed the promo and she was crying and kept saying, "I'm not a bad person, I just made a mistake. This doesn't make me a bad person."

Well, no. Of course not. The bad part is not that she had sex (women are allowed to like sex, we're allowed to want sex, and she's in a very odd set of circumstances that are almost kind of conducive to sex-- the settings and romantic dates and intimate get-aways and the drinking and making out, I mean hell I'm always baffled as to why they're NOT having sex. I wouldn't be able to hold off in that situation). The bad part is that she felt she needed to defend herself to that extent. Like people will now assume/accuse her of being a bad person.

I doubt most guys would immediately feel the need to defend themselves that way just for hooking up with someone.

Yeah maybe it's not the ideal thing to do, because there are other guys there who are interested in her and she's supposed to be "Dating" all of them, but come on. She's not actually in a committed relationship. Assuming she really did have sex with a guy on the show, I'm sure the fallout will be huge, but I feel like the "crime" won't justify the backlash. Are we gonna make her wear a giant scarlet A now? Come on people [general people, not TK people], it's just sex.

I hooked up with H a few hours after I met him (we had talked on the phone a bunch but it was the first time we met in person). I could not hold back. I was super attracted to him, we hit it off right off the bat, I was horny. So why not? She apparently waited longer than I did. And H bought the cow, even after getting the milk for free [I hate that saying, just for the record], so yeah. What's the big deal with any of it?

photokitty · May 2015

Honestly, I don't care if she has sex, but I will be annoyed if she has sex with Nick. They were already in contact before she was cast on the show. If you want to screw him or pursue a relationship with him, you don't need to go on the bachelor to do it.

I think the whole premise of the show is laughable, but if you are going to take the chance of being the Bachelorette away from someone else you should least go into it honestly. It's as bad as people who common on the show when they have a BF or GF. I think if you want to be with someone who is not one of the original contestants you should quit the show and pursue that person.

If I was on the show and found out the bachelor had sex with another contestant before the fantasy suites I would quit - as it appears Ian does. I'm guessing he's going to be billed the "slut shamer."

IMHO, if you are pursuing a relationship with someone you have every right to be hurt if you find out they are being intimate with someone else. I don't think being hurt and expressing your disappointment is always shaming the person. While the person is allowed to do as they please sexually, that doesn't mean you have to tolerate it or stay in the relationship.

If ABC twists the episode to shame her I will be pissed. For me it's going to depend a lot on how Chris Harrison handles it. However, I would not be upset if all the other contestants quit when she tells them, assuming it happened during the course of the show. They have every right to decide if they want to pursue a relationship with someone who has taken it to the next level with someone else. I wouldn't want to, I would feel you made your choice. I might stick around for the free vacations, but I'm not going sleep with you or accept your proposal. That's me, if others would react differently I respect their choice.

novella1186 · May 2015

photokitty said:
Honestly, I don't care if she has sex, but I will be annoyed if she has sex with Nick. They were already in contact before she was cast on the show. If you want to screw him or pursue a relationship with him, you don't need to go on the bachelor to do it.

I think the whole premise of the show is laughable, but if you are going to take the chance of being the Bachelorette away from someone else you should least go into it honestly. It's as bad as people who common on the show when they have a BF or GF. I think if you want to be with someone who is not one of the original contestants you should quit the show and pursue that person.

If I was on the show and found out the bachelor had sex with another contestant before the fantasy suites I would quit - as it appears Ian does. I'm guessing he's going to be billed the "slut shamer."

IMHO, if you are pursuing a relationship with someone you have every right to be hurt if you find out they are being intimate with someone else. I don't think being hurt and expressing your disappointment is always shaming the person. While the person is allowed to do as they please sexually, that doesn't mean you have to tolerate it or stay in the relationship.

If ABC twists the episode to shame her I will be pissed. For me it's going to depend a lot on how Chris Harrison handles it. However, I would not be upset if all the other contestants quit when she tells them, assuming it happened during the course of the show. They have every right to decide if they want to pursue a relationship with someone who has taken it to the next level with someone else. I wouldn't want to, I would feel you made your choice. I might stick around for the free vacations, but I'm not going sleep with you or accept your proposal. That's me, if others would react differently I respect their choice.

100% agree, especially with the bolded. My above post was in reference to how the general public/viewing audience reacts, not how other contestants reacts. If I were a contestant and the bachelor had sex with someone else during the show, I'd make the choice to leave for sure. But I don't think that justifies really harsh backlash and slut-shaming from viewers (which I have no idea if such things have even taken place since I don't follow that stuff on social media at all, but from past experiences it seems to be the norm in some cases)

photokitty · May 2015

novella1186 said:

photokitty said:
Honestly, I don't care if she has sex, but I will be annoyed if she has sex with Nick. They were already in contact before she was cast on the show. If you want to screw him or pursue a relationship with him, you don't need to go on the bachelor to do it.

I think the whole premise of the show is laughable, but if you are going to take the chance of being the Bachelorette away from someone else you should least go into it honestly. It's as bad as people who common on the show when they have a BF or GF. I think if you want to be with someone who is not one of the original contestants you should quit the show and pursue that person.

If I was on the show and found out the bachelor had sex with another contestant before the fantasy suites I would quit - as it appears Ian does. I'm guessing he's going to be billed the "slut shamer."

IMHO, if you are pursuing a relationship with someone you have every right to be hurt if you find out they are being intimate with someone else. I don't think being hurt and expressing your disappointment is always shaming the person. While the person is allowed to do as they please sexually, that doesn't mean you have to tolerate it or stay in the relationship.

If ABC twists the episode to shame her I will be pissed. For me it's going to depend a lot on how Chris Harrison handles it. However, I would not be upset if all the other contestants quit when she tells them, assuming it happened during the course of the show. They have every right to decide if they want to pursue a relationship with someone who has taken it to the next level with someone else. I wouldn't want to, I would feel you made your choice. I might stick around for the free vacations, but I'm not going sleep with you or accept your proposal. That's me, if others would react differently I respect their choice.
100% agree, especially with the bolded. My above post was in reference to how the general public/viewing audience reacts, not how other contestants reacts. If I were a contestant and the bachelor had sex with someone else during the show, I'd make the choice to leave for sure. But I don't think that justifies really harsh backlash and slut-shaming from viewers (which I have no idea if such things have even taken place since I don't follow that stuff on social media at all, but from past experiences it seems to be the norm in some cases)

I'll be disappointed if she took the chance away from Britt, only to have sex with someone she was forming a relationship with before the show. I wouldn't be surprised if she and Nick planned it as a way to get free vacations and air time.

People seemed to rally behind Clare when Juan Pablo hung her out to dry after their tryst. People also got mad at Nick for calling Andi out on TV. I think the public has been relatively fair to the women on the show and not shaming them if they choose to be intimate.

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