I'm a size 24 right now, and since last April have lost 42 lbs. I have been making an effort to lose weight, and my family refuses to say I look any better. All my mother said was "Keep going."
I'm comfortable with being bigger. My sisters however are not. They are twins, and one is 290 and the other is 340 at age 22 and 5'6". My mother is 5'4'' and 175 lbs. I wear things that show off my bust and are more form fitting. All my mother tries to do is attempt to buy me clothes (I've been moved out for 5 years) that drape and cover me up. She refuses to see that FI loves my curves and supports me no matter what shape I am.
On top of all of that, my mother hates FI and will not help with the wedding at all. Finds it a huge waste of money (Our budget is 4k, not 20k...). She tried to buy us off with paying for our honeymoon and not doing a wedding. She doesn't understand the need for a wedding with an attendance of 150 people. We have come to the conclusion that she is jealous of the fact I'm getting married cause I want to, and not because I got knocked up like she did. And that I have tons of close friends that both FI and I want there for this special day. I cannot cope with the fact my own mother cares nothing for her eldest daughters wedding. Wants nothing to do with it, and changes the subject whenever either FI or I bring it up. I start crying whenever I think about it. It's ruining my wedding...