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Wedding Woes
MissKittyDanger
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stress. just stress {mainly venting fyi}
in Wedding Woes
Why does it seem murphy's law is actually happening!?!?
So few things we have gone over budget for, which was fine because I kind of anticipated those things being more and we knew we were saving more than anticipated
But now i may kill my fiance.
No, not really. Just incredibly pissed.
This morning he was saying he wasn't feeling well and decided to go to work anyways.
He drives, I bus.
I get a phone call this morning.
He hit someone's bumper.
WHAT!?
So lady is going to try and keep insurance out if we pay, but this could be way more than we can afford!
I am kind of grateful for the fact our Stag & Doe is in a couple weeks, might save us. But a bumper could be whole thing or just part. And could be about $1,200
I am sobbing and screaming inwardly because I'm at work.
Guys ..... is this a sign or just super bad luck?
Any one else have something ridiculously bad happen close to date?
Any one else have something ridiculously bad happen close to date?
It's like 67 days until the wedding!!
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Re: stress. just stress {mainly venting fyi}
2. Please explain what a Stag and Doe is? Is this a British thing?
In Canada, a similar event is popular in Ontario and Manitoba under various names. In Southern Ontario it may be called a stag and doe, or buck and doe,[1] and in Northwestern Ontario it is called a shag. In Manitoba, this is often called a social or wedding social.
The event is usually organized by the bridal party, but in some circumstances may also be held by the bride and groom before they are married, similar to a Jack & Jill. It acts as a fundraiser for the wedding. Guests purchase entrance tickets and are entertained by draws, food and drink, music and fun and games. It is not a combined stag night/bachelor party and bachelorette party, or engagement party, as the primary focus is to raise money for the engaged couple, so their new life together is not started in debt. The intent of a stag and doe party is specifically to make a profit. Often, people who may not be close enough to the engaged couple to warrant an invitation to the wedding or reception (especially in the case of a small wedding), will attend the stag and doe so as to be part of the overall wedding celebration. Hosting a stag and doe party does not preclude the couple from participating in other wedding-related parties, such as a bridal shower, bachelor party, bachelorette party, and so on. A popular stag and doe tradition is a Toonie toss, which has guests toss toonies ($2.00 CAD coins) at a Texas mickey (3L) bottle of liquor. The toss runs for some time until the Toonie closest to the bottle without making contact wins the bottle.
In Manitoba, in addition to purchasing entrance tickets, guests bid on silent auction prizes, participate in a 50-50 draw, and purchase liquor.[2] Typical food at a Manitoba wedding social includes KUB bread, cold cuts, cheese cubes, and Timbits.[3][4] Often the bridal or wedding shower is held the afternoon before the social. Other times, it is used as a fundraiser for the wedding itself and will be held a few weeks before the day of the wedding.
So is this stag and doe party the kind where people are buying tickets to fund your wedding?
If not, I am glad everyone is ok and things will get better.
If so, I have little to no sympathy for you. I am glad nobody was hurt, I would NEVER wish that on ANYONE. However, little things like this happen. You are getting married and I assume are therefore of legal age..aka an adult.
Adults pay for their own stuff. Be it car accidents or weddings. Have a wedding you can afford on your own while still keeping a nest egg for emergencies like this one. Welcome to adulthood.
OP i am sorry he got in an accident, but accidents happen and thankfully no one got hurt. These type of circumstances are just further proof as to why you plan events within your means, because life always throws you unexpected costs and you need to be able to pay for them yourself. That is part of being an adult.
So why not invite everyone to the wedding?
It is like saying "Sorry I cannot afford to have everyone and/or my dream venue cannot hold everyone but for the low low price of $5 you can come hang out with us! That is just as good right?"
What is popular is not always right, what is right is not always popular.
Just because its customary doesn't mean you should do it.
Still so confused. You want to celebrate with these people but you do not want them at a wedding? So ...I do not get it. You either want to celebrate with them...IE invite them to the wedding or you do not...IE do not invite them.
Having a second party kind of puts people in their place. "You are kinda my friend and I want to celebrate with you, while charging you $5 a head, but I do not want you at my actual wedding."
You are right, it is your choice on who is invited I agree with that 100%. But then holding a consolation party for those who did not make the cut is rude. As far as the family only angle I am not sure how that applies. There are people I am closer to who are not technically family. Own your choice to have a small wedding or have a big wedding. You do not get to have both without being rude.