FMIL problems..

[Deleted User] · June 2015

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loro929 · June 2015

Knottie22105860 said:

my future MIL is the only thing causing me stress. Up until the wedding planning I loved her but she is taking over and I'm starting to see just how childish she is. She has had a few run ins with 2 of my maids/ my matron and she flat out told me she doesn't like them. She turned my 250 invited wedding into 330. My shower from 50 to 80. I feel like people will think I'm greedy because they're invited to the shower and I don't even know them! The wedding is in 4 months and she refuses to go look at dresses because she's going to lose weight (she won't). She told everyone about a special dance my dad and I are planning that was supposed to be a surprise. I talk to her about it and she gets all bent out of shape and then tells people in a bit** and a bridezilla (which I don't think I've been so far). The worst part is that my fiance wants nothing to do with the drama so I can't even ask him to step in. My mom and all my maids dislike her because of how she's acting. She's causing me so much stress and causing tension between everyone involved. How do I handle this?!

------- BOXES, where are you?--------

As to the bolded, you need to slow your roll. Your FMIL has plenty of time to find a dress, and if it is her prerogative to wait and lose weight, well, then that is her thing and not up to you to interfere.

As to the rest, I think boundaries need to be enforced, but these boundaries need to come from a come to Jesus talk between your FI and his mom. In regards to the dance, that was not her place to say anything and I think in the future you need to just keep on serving up the bean dip when it comes to wedding plans.

ETA. good luck!

VulgarGirl · June 2015

Knottie22105860 said:

my future MIL is the only thing causing me stress. Up until the wedding planning I loved her but she is taking over and I'm starting to see just how childish she is. She has had a few run ins with 2 of my maids/ my matron and she flat out told me she doesn't like them. She turned my 250 invited wedding into 330. My shower from 50 to 80. I feel like people will think I'm greedy because they're invited to the shower and I don't even know them! The wedding is in 4 months and she refuses to go look at dresses because she's going to lose weight (she won't). She told everyone about a special dance my dad and I are planning that was supposed to be a surprise. I talk to her about it and she gets all bent out of shape and then tells people in a bit** and a bridezilla (which I don't think I've been so far). The worst part is that my fiance wants nothing to do with the drama so I can't even ask him to step in. My mom and all my maids dislike her because of how she's acting. She's causing me so much stress and causing tension between everyone involved. How do I handle this?!

Grow a backbone and tell her to back the fuck off.

LondonLisa · June 2015

How does she "make" you do any of these things? Unless she is paying then you need to deal with it all. Assuming you and your fi are paying for it all:

80 person shower? "Thanks so much for the offer, but I'm afraid I will have to decline the shower. Are you free for lunch next week" BOOM- done

330 invitations "I'm sorry FMIL, we can only accommodate XX number of friends. Please send me your revised list by YY or else FI and I can go through it if you are too busy". BOOM- handled

Special surprise dance? Don't tell her any surprises anymore about the wedding. End of story.

No is not a dirty word, and this situation is happening because you didnt politely stand up for yourself.

I really only see one person here acting childish and it isn't your FMIL.

ohmrs2014 · June 2015

Firstly, it's your FIs job to handle his mother, not yours. He needs to grow up and deal with her.

Secondly, stop talking to her about everything. Tell her that you cannot accomodate the extra people invited to the wedding and the shower. Done.

thisismynickname2 · June 2015

PPs have given great advice but that said, I know it's really hard to actually do those things. But you need to. Your FI also needs to quit his drama-avoidance and stand up to his own mother. He needs to see she's making you miserable and stand up for you and your relationship with him.

I am curious if she's paying for anything, because upping your guest list from the 200's to the 300's is totally unreasonable if she's not paying, or at least not contributing a lot and forcing you to do things you can't afford in order to compensate.

Edit to add: why are you bridesmaids talking to her? That's pretty easy to have them avoid each other, no? Or are they only talking to her because they're helping host the shower?

Maggie0829 · June 2015

Knottie22105860 said:

my future MIL is the only thing causing me stress. Up until the wedding planning I loved her but she is taking over and I'm starting to see just how childish she is. She has had a few run ins with 2 of my maids/ my matron and she flat out told me she doesn't like them. She turned my 250 invited wedding into 330. My shower from 50 to 80. I feel like people will think I'm greedy because they're invited to the shower and I don't even know them! The wedding is in 4 months and she refuses to go look at dresses because she's going to lose weight (she won't). She told everyone about a special dance my dad and I are planning that was supposed to be a surprise. I talk to her about it and she gets all bent out of shape and then tells people in a bit** and a bridezilla (which I don't think I've been so far). The worst part is that my fiance wants nothing to do with the drama so I can't even ask him to step in. My mom and all my maids dislike her because of how she's acting. She's causing me so much stress and causing tension between everyone involved. How do I handle this?!

I'm confused how she made your guest list and shower list larger. Is she contributing to both? If so, then she gets a say in the guest lists.

Stop worrying about her dress. Her attire is not your concern. So if she doesn't get a dress until the day before, well that is her problem.

And sorry, not sorry FI, but this is your Mother so you need to step the fuck up and deal with this crap.

As to what to do going forward...

1) You need to talk to your FI and tell him that he needs to deal with his Mother from here on out

2) Stop talking about your wedding with her. Unless of course she is paying and then you need to find a way to work with her or decline her money and pay for it yourself.

3) Completely forget about her attire because that is none of your concern

[Deleted User] · June 2015

She is paying a large amount since 120 people are invited simply because of her,

[Deleted User] · June 2015

She's contributing financially. She's helping with the shower as she caused a scene when she was not involved at first

[Deleted User] · June 2015

Excuse me?!... I don't believe I'm acting childish,. She's making me miserable! She's posting stuff on Facebook about my maids and that's upsetting them.

[Deleted User] · June 2015

Unfortunately it's 4 months away and she sent her own save the dates to the extras invited

[Deleted User] · June 2015

Also.. I'm paying for her dress so I do have a say in some of it

STARMOON44 · June 2015

She can buy her dress whenever!

TrixieJess · June 2015

Knottie22105860 said:

Also.. I'm paying for her dress so I do have a say in some of it

Why are you paying for her dress? If she is contributing financially then she gets a say. If you don't want her to have a say, pay for the wedding yourselves.

Your FI needs to deal with his mother. If you let her have this much control now, you are fucked if you decide to have children.

PS. Hit Quote not reply so we know WTF you are responding to.

KatWAG · June 2015

Knottie22105860 said:

my future MIL is the only thing causing me stress. Up until the wedding planning I loved her but she is taking over and I'm starting to see just how childish she is. She has had a few run ins with 2 of my maids/ my matron and she flat out told me she doesn't like them. She turned my 250 invited wedding into 330. My shower from 50 to 80. I feel like people will think I'm greedy because they're invited to the shower and I don't even know them! The wedding is in 4 months and she refuses to go look at dresses because she's going to lose weight (she won't). She told everyone about a special dance my dad and I are planning that was supposed to be a surprise. I talk to her about it and she gets all bent out of shape and then tells people in a bit** and a bridezilla (which I don't think I've been so far). The worst part is that my fiance wants nothing to do with the drama so I can't even ask him to step in. My mom and all my maids dislike her because of how she's acting. She's causing me so much stress and causing tension between everyone involved. How do I handle this?!

If you act like a doormat, people will treat you like a doormat,.

If you don't want your FMIL to have a say in your wedding, then why did you accept her money? And your Fi not wanting to get involved is a bunch of bull. He should be standing up to his mommy.

climbingsingle · June 2015

Why are you paying for her dress? This makes no sense.

KatWAG · June 2015

Knottie22105860 said:

She is paying a large amount since 120 people are invited simply because of her,

Knottie22105860 said:

She's contributing financially. She's helping with the shower as she caused a scene when she was not involved at first

Knottie22105860 said:

Excuse me?!... I don't believe I'm acting childish,. She's making me miserable! She's posting stuff on Facebook about my maids and that's upsetting them.

Knottie22105860 said:

Unfortunately it's 4 months away and she sent her own save the dates to the extras invited

Knottie22105860 said:

Also.. I'm paying for her dress so I do have a say in some of it

JIC

Maggie0829 · June 2015

Knottie22105860 said:

She is paying a large amount since 120 people are invited simply because of her,

Knottie22105860 said:

She's contributing financially. She's helping with the shower as she caused a scene when she was not involved at first

Since she is contributing financially to both the shower and the wedding then she gets a say over the guest list. If you didn't like that then you shouldn't have accepted her money.

Knottie22105860 said:

Also.. I'm paying for her dress so I do have a say in some of it

Um, why?

[Deleted User] · June 2015

MagicInk said:

Knottie22105860 said:

my future MIL is the only thing causing me stress. Up until the wedding planning I loved her but she is taking over and I'm starting to see just how childish she is. She has had a few run ins with 2 of my maids/ my matron and she flat out told me she doesn't like them. She turned my 250 invited wedding into 330. My shower from 50 to 80. I feel like people will think I'm greedy because they're invited to the shower and I don't even know them! The wedding is in 4 months and she refuses to go look at dresses because she's going to lose weight (she won't). She told everyone about a special dance my dad and I are planning that was supposed to be a surprise. I talk to her about it and she gets all bent out of shape and then tells people in a bit** and a bridezilla (which I don't think I've been so far). The worst part is that my fiance wants nothing to do with the drama so I can't even ask him to step in. My mom and all my maids dislike her because of how she's acting. She's causing me so much stress and causing tension between everyone involved. How do I handle this?!

Grow a backbone and tell her to back the fuck off.

Maybe my original post didn't set this up well enough for y'all. I told her to back the fuck off and she acted like a child and posted on Facebook that I'm a bitch. She tattles to everyone whenever I tell her to back off. Its causing tension all around. If I could show you the texts and posts youd all be changing your responses

TrixieJess · June 2015

Knottie22105860 said:

Knottie22105860 said:

my future MIL is the only thing causing me stress. Up until the wedding planning I loved her but she is taking over and I'm starting to see just how childish she is. She has had a few run ins with 2 of my maids/ my matron and she flat out told me she doesn't like them. She turned my 250 invited wedding into 330. My shower from 50 to 80. I feel like people will think I'm greedy because they're invited to the shower and I don't even know them! The wedding is in 4 months and she refuses to go look at dresses because she's going to lose weight (she won't). She told everyone about a special dance my dad and I are planning that was supposed to be a surprise. I talk to her about it and she gets all bent out of shape and then tells people in a bit** and a bridezilla (which I don't think I've been so far). The worst part is that my fiance wants nothing to do with the drama so I can't even ask him to step in. My mom and all my maids dislike her because of how she's acting. She's causing me so much stress and causing tension between everyone involved. How do I handle this?!

Grow a backbone and tell her to back the fuck off.
Maybe my original post didn't set this up well enough for y'all. I told her to back the fuck off and she acted like a child and posted on Facebook that I'm a bitch. She tattles to everyone whenever I tell her to back off. Its causing tension all around. If I could show you the texts and posts youd all be changing your responses

OP, how old are you? Who the hell cares if she "tattles"? Tell your FI, he needs to deal with her from now on and Bean Dip her.

FFS, you are both acting as if you're 14 year old girls.

Cookie Pusher · June 2015

Money almost always comes with strings attached, and these were the strings your FMIL decided to attach to her contribution. You can decline her money and pay for the wedding yourselves or you have to accept that she is going to have a say in how her money is spent.

KatWAG · June 2015

Knottie22105860 said:

Knottie22105860 said:

my future MIL is the only thing causing me stress. Up until the wedding planning I loved her but she is taking over and I'm starting to see just how childish she is. She has had a few run ins with 2 of my maids/ my matron and she flat out told me she doesn't like them. She turned my 250 invited wedding into 330. My shower from 50 to 80. I feel like people will think I'm greedy because they're invited to the shower and I don't even know them! The wedding is in 4 months and she refuses to go look at dresses because she's going to lose weight (she won't). She told everyone about a special dance my dad and I are planning that was supposed to be a surprise. I talk to her about it and she gets all bent out of shape and then tells people in a bit** and a bridezilla (which I don't think I've been so far). The worst part is that my fiance wants nothing to do with the drama so I can't even ask him to step in. My mom and all my maids dislike her because of how she's acting. She's causing me so much stress and causing tension between everyone involved. How do I handle this?!

Grow a backbone and tell her to back the fuck off.
Maybe my original post didn't set this up well enough for y'all. I told her to back the fuck off and she acted like a child and posted on Facebook that I'm a bitch. She tattles to everyone whenever I tell her to back off. Its causing tension all around. If I could show you the texts and posts youd all be changing your responses

Yea, this isn't helping your cause.

LondonLisa · June 2015

Then log off Facebook! Only teenagers get upset about fb posts. Since she is contributing then you can either put up with it or reject her money.

But in reality, I think you need to talk to your fi- I certainly would never marry a man ok with someone calling me a bitch.

This is a fi problem more than a fmil problem.

mikenberger · June 2015

Knottie22105860 said:

Knottie22105860 said:

my future MIL is the only thing causing me stress. Up until the wedding planning I loved her but she is taking over and I'm starting to see just how childish she is. She has had a few run ins with 2 of my maids/ my matron and she flat out told me she doesn't like them. She turned my 250 invited wedding into 330. My shower from 50 to 80. I feel like people will think I'm greedy because they're invited to the shower and I don't even know them! The wedding is in 4 months and she refuses to go look at dresses because she's going to lose weight (she won't). She told everyone about a special dance my dad and I are planning that was supposed to be a surprise. I talk to her about it and she gets all bent out of shape and then tells people in a bit** and a bridezilla (which I don't think I've been so far). The worst part is that my fiance wants nothing to do with the drama so I can't even ask him to step in. My mom and all my maids dislike her because of how she's acting. She's causing me so much stress and causing tension between everyone involved. How do I handle this?!

Grow a backbone and tell her to back the fuck off.
Maybe my original post didn't set this up well enough for y'all. I told her to back the fuck off and she acted like a child and posted on Facebook that I'm a bitch. She tattles to everyone whenever I tell her to back off. Its causing tension all around. If I could show you the texts and posts youd all be changing your responses

NO. We wouldn't. We'd tell you to get over it. She's an adult that is behaving like a child and you are giving her everything she's going to bitch and moan about. You're digging your own grave.

Give back her money, plan your own wedding and keep her out of it. And tell your FI to grow a pair and get involved.

And tell your maids to defriend her. Seriously. Y'all sound like a bunch of high schoolers.

[Deleted User] · June 2015

mikenberger said:

Knottie22105860 said:

MagicInk said:

Knottie22105860 said:

my future MIL is the only thing causing me stress. Up until the wedding planning I loved her but she is taking over and I'm starting to see just how childish she is. She has had a few run ins with 2 of my maids/ my matron and she flat out told me she doesn't like them. She turned my 250 invited wedding into 330. My shower from 50 to 80. I feel like people will think I'm greedy because they're invited to the shower and I don't even know them! The wedding is in 4 months and she refuses to go look at dresses because she's going to lose weight (she won't). She told everyone about a special dance my dad and I are planning that was supposed to be a surprise. I talk to her about it and she gets all bent out of shape and then tells people in a bit** and a bridezilla (which I don't think I've been so far). The worst part is that my fiance wants nothing to do with the drama so I can't even ask him to step in. My mom and all my maids dislike her because of how she's acting. She's causing me so much stress and causing tension between everyone involved. How do I handle this?!

Grow a backbone and tell her to back the fuck off.

Maybe my original post didn't set this up well enough for y'all. I told her to back the fuck off and she acted like a child and posted on Facebook that I'm a bitch. She tattles to everyone whenever I tell her to back off. Its causing tension all around. If I could show you the texts and posts youd all be changing your responses

NO. We wouldn't. We'd tell you to get over it. She's an adult that is behaving like a child and you are giving her everything she's going to bitch and moan about. You're digging your own grave.

Give back her money, plan your own wedding and keep her out of it. And tell your FI to grow a pair and get involved.

And tell your maids to defriend her. Seriously. Y'all sound like a bunch of high schoolers.

Y'all are so supporive..

Maggie0829 · June 2015

Knottie22105860 said:

Knottie22105860 said:

my future MIL is the only thing causing me stress. Up until the wedding planning I loved her but she is taking over and I'm starting to see just how childish she is. She has had a few run ins with 2 of my maids/ my matron and she flat out told me she doesn't like them. She turned my 250 invited wedding into 330. My shower from 50 to 80. I feel like people will think I'm greedy because they're invited to the shower and I don't even know them! The wedding is in 4 months and she refuses to go look at dresses because she's going to lose weight (she won't). She told everyone about a special dance my dad and I are planning that was supposed to be a surprise. I talk to her about it and she gets all bent out of shape and then tells people in a bit** and a bridezilla (which I don't think I've been so far). The worst part is that my fiance wants nothing to do with the drama so I can't even ask him to step in. My mom and all my maids dislike her because of how she's acting. She's causing me so much stress and causing tension between everyone involved. How do I handle this?!

Grow a backbone and tell her to back the fuck off.
Maybe my original post didn't set this up well enough for y'all. I told her to back the fuck off and she acted like a child and posted on Facebook that I'm a bitch. She tattles to everyone whenever I tell her to back off. Its causing tension all around. If I could show you the texts and posts youd all be changing your responses

Which is why your FI needs to stick up for you and stand up to his Mother. I don't care that he doesn't want to get involved with the drama but dammit this is HIS Mother and he should be the one to deal with her.

But really the fact that she is financially contributing means you are stuck with her having a say over your guest list. And get over the fact that she ruined the surprise dance you and your Father were planning. That is such a childish thing to get upset over.

Truthfully you are both kind of acting childish. Actually all three of you (your FI included) are acting childish. You all need to learn how to talk to each other and work together. But any time that there is conflict your FI is the one that needs to his Mom, not you.

TrixieJess · June 2015

Knottie22105860 said:

Knottie22105860 said:

Knottie22105860 said:

my future MIL is the only thing causing me stress. Up until the wedding planning I loved her but she is taking over and I'm starting to see just how childish she is. She has had a few run ins with 2 of my maids/ my matron and she flat out told me she doesn't like them. She turned my 250 invited wedding into 330. My shower from 50 to 80. I feel like people will think I'm greedy because they're invited to the shower and I don't even know them! The wedding is in 4 months and she refuses to go look at dresses because she's going to lose weight (she won't). She told everyone about a special dance my dad and I are planning that was supposed to be a surprise. I talk to her about it and she gets all bent out of shape and then tells people in a bit** and a bridezilla (which I don't think I've been so far). The worst part is that my fiance wants nothing to do with the drama so I can't even ask him to step in. My mom and all my maids dislike her because of how she's acting. She's causing me so much stress and causing tension between everyone involved. How do I handle this?!

Grow a backbone and tell her to back the fuck off.
Maybe my original post didn't set this up well enough for y'all. I told her to back the fuck off and she acted like a child and posted on Facebook that I'm a bitch. She tattles to everyone whenever I tell her to back off. Its causing tension all around. If I could show you the texts and posts youd all be changing your responses

NO. We wouldn't. We'd tell you to get over it. She's an adult that is behaving like a child and you are giving her everything she's going to bitch and moan about. You're digging your own grave.

Give back her money, plan your own wedding and keep her out of it. And tell your FI to grow a pair and get involved.

And tell your maids to defriend her. Seriously. Y'all sound like a bunch of high schoolers.
Y'all are so supporive..

The word is "Supportive" and we are not a long wearing bra. If you need support, talk to your FI.

Maybe stop interneting for a while if you think a Forum is for "Support".

Cookie Pusher · June 2015

Knottie22105860 said:

Knottie22105860 said:

Knottie22105860 said:

my future MIL is the only thing causing me stress. Up until the wedding planning I loved her but she is taking over and I'm starting to see just how childish she is. She has had a few run ins with 2 of my maids/ my matron and she flat out told me she doesn't like them. She turned my 250 invited wedding into 330. My shower from 50 to 80. I feel like people will think I'm greedy because they're invited to the shower and I don't even know them! The wedding is in 4 months and she refuses to go look at dresses because she's going to lose weight (she won't). She told everyone about a special dance my dad and I are planning that was supposed to be a surprise. I talk to her about it and she gets all bent out of shape and then tells people in a bit** and a bridezilla (which I don't think I've been so far). The worst part is that my fiance wants nothing to do with the drama so I can't even ask him to step in. My mom and all my maids dislike her because of how she's acting. She's causing me so much stress and causing tension between everyone involved. How do I handle this?!

Grow a backbone and tell her to back the fuck off.
Maybe my original post didn't set this up well enough for y'all. I told her to back the fuck off and she acted like a child and posted on Facebook that I'm a bitch. She tattles to everyone whenever I tell her to back off. Its causing tension all around. If I could show you the texts and posts youd all be changing your responses

NO. We wouldn't. We'd tell you to get over it. She's an adult that is behaving like a child and you are giving her everything she's going to bitch and moan about. You're digging your own grave.

Give back her money, plan your own wedding and keep her out of it. And tell your FI to grow a pair and get involved.

And tell your maids to defriend her. Seriously. Y'all sound like a bunch of high schoolers.
Y'all are so supporive..

What are expecting people to do/say? You have put yourself into this situation by accepting your FMIL's money. People have made suggestions on how to limit your FMIL's involvement. We cannot change how your FMIL behaves any more than you can - the only thing that can change is how YOU react to her. And your FI needs to stand up to his mother because it's his wedding too.

Sorry if this isn't what you're looking for, but patting you on the head and saying "there, there, it'll be okay" isn't going to help you either.

KatWAG · June 2015

Knottie22105860 said:

Knottie22105860 said:

Knottie22105860 said:

my future MIL is the only thing causing me stress. Up until the wedding planning I loved her but she is taking over and I'm starting to see just how childish she is. She has had a few run ins with 2 of my maids/ my matron and she flat out told me she doesn't like them. She turned my 250 invited wedding into 330. My shower from 50 to 80. I feel like people will think I'm greedy because they're invited to the shower and I don't even know them! The wedding is in 4 months and she refuses to go look at dresses because she's going to lose weight (she won't). She told everyone about a special dance my dad and I are planning that was supposed to be a surprise. I talk to her about it and she gets all bent out of shape and then tells people in a bit** and a bridezilla (which I don't think I've been so far). The worst part is that my fiance wants nothing to do with the drama so I can't even ask him to step in. My mom and all my maids dislike her because of how she's acting. She's causing me so much stress and causing tension between everyone involved. How do I handle this?!

Grow a backbone and tell her to back the fuck off.
Maybe my original post didn't set this up well enough for y'all. I told her to back the fuck off and she acted like a child and posted on Facebook that I'm a bitch. She tattles to everyone whenever I tell her to back off. Its causing tension all around. If I could show you the texts and posts youd all be changing your responses

NO. We wouldn't. We'd tell you to get over it. She's an adult that is behaving like a child and you are giving her everything she's going to bitch and moan about. You're digging your own grave.

Give back her money, plan your own wedding and keep her out of it. And tell your FI to grow a pair and get involved.

And tell your maids to defriend her. Seriously. Y'all sound like a bunch of high schoolers.
Y'all are so supporive..

mikenberger · June 2015

Knottie22105860 said:

Knottie22105860 said:

Knottie22105860 said:

my future MIL is the only thing causing me stress. Up until the wedding planning I loved her but she is taking over and I'm starting to see just how childish she is. She has had a few run ins with 2 of my maids/ my matron and she flat out told me she doesn't like them. She turned my 250 invited wedding into 330. My shower from 50 to 80. I feel like people will think I'm greedy because they're invited to the shower and I don't even know them! The wedding is in 4 months and she refuses to go look at dresses because she's going to lose weight (she won't). She told everyone about a special dance my dad and I are planning that was supposed to be a surprise. I talk to her about it and she gets all bent out of shape and then tells people in a bit** and a bridezilla (which I don't think I've been so far). The worst part is that my fiance wants nothing to do with the drama so I can't even ask him to step in. My mom and all my maids dislike her because of how she's acting. She's causing me so much stress and causing tension between everyone involved. How do I handle this?!

Grow a backbone and tell her to back the fuck off.
Maybe my original post didn't set this up well enough for y'all. I told her to back the fuck off and she acted like a child and posted on Facebook that I'm a bitch. She tattles to everyone whenever I tell her to back off. Its causing tension all around. If I could show you the texts and posts youd all be changing your responses

NO. We wouldn't. We'd tell you to get over it. She's an adult that is behaving like a child and you are giving her everything she's going to bitch and moan about. You're digging your own grave.

Give back her money, plan your own wedding and keep her out of it. And tell your FI to grow a pair and get involved.

And tell your maids to defriend her. Seriously. Y'all sound like a bunch of high schoolers.
Y'all are so supporive..

We are supporting you in becoming a woman that stands on her own two feet and doesn't allow herself to be railroaded by a passive FI and an overbearing MIL. Your problem is with your FIANCE not stepping in like he should. He needs to shut his mother down, now. Or she will forever be a problem in your marriage. And stop taking her money. It comes with strings you cannot get rid of. Because when you do finally stand up to her, if you take her wedding money... "I paid for your gorgeous wedding. I threw you a gorgeous shower. And this? Is how you repay me?" You're going to be chasing your tail for years.

If you're looking for a group of women to tell you "HOW MEAN! I can't believe she's like that! I don't know how you deal with her! You're so brave!" Consider this place "the wrong tree" and you're barking up it, my dear.

Cookie Pusher · June 2015

TrixieJess said:
The word is "Supportive" and we are not a long wearing bra. If you need support, talk to your FI.

Maybe stop interneting for a while if you think a Forum is for "Support".

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