So, finances. Apparently I suck at them.
I thought I was doing so well. I managed our entire wedding budget on my own and did a really good job.
But then I stopped tracking my spending and started buying things I had put off buying in order to budget for the wedding. Then I had some unexpected dental expenses (thanks a lot, useless insurance) that were pretty huge, and then also we paid for some travel (would not have paid for the travel if I knew the dental expenses were coming).
Yesterday and today I went through my spending for this month and it was awful. I did so bad. Like the whole "never live above your means" thing went out the window. What's making me feel the worst is that I had no idea how bad I did. WTF?! I feel like an idiot. I'm almost 30 and still can't manage my own finances.
So I re-made a budget and am going back to tracking what I spend. Hopefully it'll put me back on track but the month of June was a total shitshow. And the month is only halfway over! Argh! What is wrong with me?!!! Such a fail.
What do you do to budget, track finances, save money, stay on track, etc? I've tried a couple apps but didn't like them, so I just use my own spreadsheet. Are there any apps you really like? Or do you not do those things? Do you mess up (please tell me I'm not the only one who messes up this bad!)?
I'm seriously considering buying a copy of "Personal Finance for Dummies." I used to ask my dad questions about this stuff and he would say, "I'm not going to explain it right now, it's complicated." So I literally learned 0 things from my parents, and I apparently know less than I thought I did. Fail.
ETF I can't even spell finances
Re: This is really embarrassing :(
I don't specifically track anything. But every month-ish, or when things change, I will sit down (usually just at work, lol) and work out what my fixed expenses are. Mortgage, utilities (average), insurance, phone. Then I look at how much I want to be saving, and set it the bank to auto-pay. And whatever $ is left over after is fun money.
I didn't do great the past little bit. I bought a new car (financed half through me, half through SO), so I'm paying more of the mortgage now, and didn't really account for that. And then I booked a vacation which requried pre-payment of flights & half the hotels. Soo yeah. I went a little over on that haha.
No joke though, I still balance a checkbook. I just don't trust online banking to always be exact. Once I record something in my checkbook, it's gone (whether or not its actually gone from my account yet). It's the only way I can always know where I'm at.
I have a zero based budget spreadsheet from Enemy of Debt that I use... when I remember.
I'm way off track too, and I'm thinking I won't even worry about it until after the honeymoon, we will combine accounts, and see where we are then. I have a feeling I will be sitting with a maxed out credit card and some medical bills I will be dealing with later.
Generally though, I use the budget to distribute my paycheck into different ING (now capital one 360) savings accounts, so I am "saving" for periodic things and the money isn't sitting in checking. I have one for my car, one for the dogs, one for utilities, etc.
ETA: I also use mint to see where my money went, but their budgeting portion is crap.
Unexpected expenses still suck. Part of the reason we had no honeymoon was because we had massive unexpected house expenses. The vacation fund went to the giving my tenants heat. I have a tiny engagement ring because we spent a fortune on DH's teeth ( would have skipped a ring altogether but, well, family). Medical/dental expenses are the worst and very hard to budget for. I used to help people forecast these expenses for a living so I'm great at it. They're still hard to budget for.
I got into a lot of credit card debt when I was younger and worked my way out. DH spent most of his life broke so he feared credit cards (his brothers and mom made lots of mistakes). We're pretty careful. When he had toe surgery, we stopped eating out for a few months and cut down other expenses. We just weren't sure what it would end up costing us. When the washer/dryer died, we started eating through the freezer. We're far more careful/frugal than our finances require but we try very hard to be careful.
If it's available, I'd consider looking into an HSA. It's a great way to save money towards health/dental expenses with pre-tax dollars and, unlike an FSA, it stays with you forever. Some employers offer matching/etc. as well. Most HSAs come with higher deductible plans but you can find something that meets most needs.
I'd also consider opening separate accounts for savings if you're bad at budgeting. Putting money aside into each account at the beginning of the month means that you're already being responsible for future expenses - and it gives you less of an ability to get behind.
Finally, move to cash if you're not good at managing your debit/credit cards. You'd be surprised at how much less you spend when you actually need to use paper currency. DH and I have both made considerable reductions in our lunchtime spending after moving to cash.
Sorry this is so long- hope it helps!
I've been having trouble with Learnvest lately so I may need to go back to Mint. It won't update with my bank accounts and I emailed them and they say they are working on it but it's been awhile.
Couldn't help but giggle at that part.
I don't think letting your spending get out of control for a month is a failure by any means. Failure to accurately track but unless you are constantly spending more than you bring in and racking up a ton of debt I wouldn't sweat it.
I don't really budget or track. I know I should but I'm not a big spender to begin with so I know I'm never spending above my means. When my cc bill comes each month I have been surprised a few times thinking what the hell did I buy last month but it never seems to change anything.
H uses the Mint.com app and likes it. I have a friend who did he Dave Ramsey thing with her husband. They both make good money and she is a CPA but she said they weren't really saving anything they just kept spending it all so they wanted to find out a better way to do things