My sister just called me. She and I had been planning our weddings together, as she had a date set for March and I for April. She just called to tell me that she and her FI (I guess, now, H...) had just had a small ceremony on the pier with our parents there just, "to take care of the legal stuff," because he, "might get orders to leave soon," but, "don't worry because we're still doing the whole shebang in March."
She said she would have told me before, but didn't think I could have made it down in time. I work on sundays, but if she had given me a heads up and had it on Friday or Saturday, I'd have been there in a heartbeat. It's only a 6.5 hour drive. She kept asking me not to be mad at her, and let me know that they were trying to keep it a secret because they wanted everyone else to think they were getting married on their "actual wedding day."
I told her I wasn't mad, but that I was very hurt. And I am. I am supposed to be her maid of honor at her PPD, but she didn't even want to give me the chance of being there for the real thing? I'm also a little upset that she wants me to be complicit in lying to the rest of our family.
I told FI what happened, and of course his only response was, "Do we still get cake in March?" Ugh.