So uh hi

AddieCake · July 2015

kimmiandkoley said:

Newb question here, and maybe there is no answer: but why would someone want to troll or catfish here? What exactly does someone get out of it? That part makes no sense to me. I'm confused. I just don't get it.

Otherwise, I'm sad that the POG handle is gone, I got the reference immediately and my secret side that loves teeny bopper movies was very excited.

Being on here is a place to socialize for a lot of people. I like helping with wedding stuff, and I like socializing with the people here. That's why I stay. Sometimes people don't think their real selves will be liked or be popular enough, so they create "better" realities for themselves. I've been catfished a few times back in the days of AOL chat rooms. There was a group of us who hung out together online, and 2 different people from the group turned out to be complete frauds. TK is basically a chat room, a place to socialize.

pinkcow13 · July 2015

kimmiandkoley said:

Newb question here, and maybe there is no answer: but why would someone want to troll or catfish here? What exactly does someone get out of it? That part makes no sense to me. I'm confused. I just don't get it.

Otherwise, I'm sad that the POG handle is gone, I got the reference immediately and my secret side that loves teeny bopper movies was very excited.

I don't know. I just kind of feel that someone who would troll or catfish here, probably does it across multiple sites. Maybe they are really lonely/insecure and they like the sense of community here?

Or, maybe it's a person who has a weird wedding fetish and they get off on this site.

mrsdee15 · July 2015

pinkcow13 said:

kimmiandkoley said:

Newb question here, and maybe there is no answer: but why would someone want to troll or catfish here? What exactly does someone get out of it? That part makes no sense to me. I'm confused. I just don't get it.

Otherwise, I'm sad that the POG handle is gone, I got the reference immediately and my secret side that loves teeny bopper movies was very excited.

I don't know. I just kind of feel that someone who would troll or catfish here, probably does it across multiple sites. Maybe they are really lonely/insecure and they like the sense of community here?

Or, maybe it's person who has a weird wedding fetish and they get off on this site.

Box?----

The catfish on TB basically created an elaborate alternate life for herself that it seemed like she really wanted and couldn't find in real life. Maybe the same thing was going on here.

sarahufl · July 2015

So, catfishing really confuses me. I can (sort of) see being bored or sad in my own life and creating something different. But is this, like, a teenage boy sitting around making up stories? It just seems so....elaborate....to carry on for months and years.

Then what happens? I wonder what people hope to achieve from it.

photokitty · July 2015

AddieCake said:

kimmiandkoley said:

Newb question here, and maybe there is no answer: but why would someone want to troll or catfish here? What exactly does someone get out of it? That part makes no sense to me. I'm confused. I just don't get it.

Otherwise, I'm sad that the POG handle is gone, I got the reference immediately and my secret side that loves teeny bopper movies was very excited.

Being on here is a place to socialize for a lot of people. I like helping with wedding stuff, and I like socializing with the people here. That's why I stay. Sometimes people don't think their real selves will be liked or be popular enough, so they create "better" realities for themselves. I've been catfished a few times back in the days of AOL chat rooms. There was a group of us who hung out together online, and 2 different people from the group turned out to be complete frauds. TK is basically a chat room, a place to socialize.

Or they are doing it for mean spirited fun. For all we know this catfish got off on tricking us and shit stirring. MI certainly caused a lot of drama and use descension among users.

We'll never know.

beachyone15 · July 2015

sarahufl said:

So, catfishing really confuses me. I can (sort of) see being bored or sad in my own life and creating something different. But is this, like, a teenage boy sitting around making up stories? It just seems so....elaborate....to carry on for months and years.

Then what happens? I wonder what people hope to achieve from it.

I also wonder how many AEs the same person has. I mean, once they are found out, do they just keep going? Making up new AEs?

ETF: double-post

ShesSoCold · July 2015

sarahufl said:

So, catfishing really confuses me. I can (sort of) see being bored or sad in my own life and creating something different. But is this, like, a teenage boy sitting around making up stories? It just seems so....elaborate....to carry on for months and years.

Then what happens? I wonder what people hope to achieve from it.

If the TB catfish and MI are the same, I'd bet money that it's either a young teenage bi-curious girl or a 30-40 year old creep-o guy who watches a lot of lesbian porn.

sarahufl · July 2015

beachyone15 said:

I also wonder how many AEs the same person has. I mean

sarahufl said:

So, catfishing really confuses me. I can (sort of) see being bored or sad in my own life and creating something different. But is this, like, a teenage boy sitting around making up stories? It just seems so....elaborate....to carry on for months and years.

Then what happens? I wonder what people hope to achieve from it.

I also wonder how many AEs the same person has. I mean, once they are found out, do they just keep going? Making up new AEs?

Not to say I am doing this (I'm not), but I have multiple computers (work, home, phones, tablets) not knowing how IP addresses really work, but couldn't you just....keep coming back?

Maggie0829 · July 2015

sarahufl said:

So, catfishing really confuses me. I can (sort of) see being bored or sad in my own life and creating something different. But is this, like, a teenage boy sitting around making up stories? It just seems so....elaborate....to carry on for months and years.

Then what happens? I wonder what people hope to achieve from it.

From watching that Catfish show on MTV it seems that some people just get a kick out of fooling people. Which almost in my mind makes them worse then those who are lonely and afraid people won't like them for how they truly are.

southernbelle0915 · July 2015

sarahufl said:

So, catfishing really confuses me. I can (sort of) see being bored or sad in my own life and creating something different. But is this, like, a teenage boy sitting around making up stories? It just seems so....elaborate....to carry on for months and years.

Then what happens? I wonder what people hope to achieve from it.

I don't get it either, but I think @ohannabelle's explanation was best (page 4).

beachyone15 · July 2015

ShesSoCold said:

sarahufl said:

So, catfishing really confuses me. I can (sort of) see being bored or sad in my own life and creating something different. But is this, like, a teenage boy sitting around making up stories? It just seems so....elaborate....to carry on for months and years.

Then what happens? I wonder what people hope to achieve from it.

If the TB catfish and MI are the same, I'd bet money that it's either a young teenage bi-curious girl or a 30-40 year old creep-o guy who watches a lot of lesbian porn.

The way she wrote makes me think it was someone older.

mrsdee15 · July 2015

ShesSoCold said:

sarahufl said:

So, catfishing really confuses me. I can (sort of) see being bored or sad in my own life and creating something different. But is this, like, a teenage boy sitting around making up stories? It just seems so....elaborate....to carry on for months and years.

Then what happens? I wonder what people hope to achieve from it.

If the TB catfish and MI are the same, I'd bet money that it's either a young teenage bi-curious girl or a 30-40 year old creep-o guy who watches a lot of lesbian porn.

The bolded is what I was thinking too. But she had such elaborate stories and was on consistently (so she wouldn't be in class during the day, like high school), I don't know, maybe it's an adult. I just don't get why someone would spend so much time doing this. It sounds exhausting.

AddieCake · July 2015

sarahufl said:

So, catfishing really confuses me. I can (sort of) see being bored or sad in my own life and creating something different. But is this, like, a teenage boy sitting around making up stories? It just seems so....elaborate....to carry on for months and years.

Then what happens? I wonder what people hope to achieve from it.

It doesn't have to be a teenage boy. She is likely just a random woman who thought being a young, snarky, lesbian tattoo artist was more interesting than being a 40-year-old office worker with 2 kids. Or whatever/whoever she is. Nothing ever has to be planned to "happen." It's not like she was catfishing us to date us. She was just socializing. That could easily go on for years with no end game and no need for one.

pinkcow13 · July 2015

I think each Catfish is different. I used to have a friend in HS who was extremely insecure. She catfished on AOL chatrooms (This was late 90's early 2000's). She didn't do it to hurt anyone, but she did not feel that any guy IRL would like her for what she was.

There are those who do it to be cruel, or because they are so bored with their lives. MI could have ranged from a 50 year old dude posting from his mom's basement, to a 40 year old housewife who

wanted an escape.

AddieCake · July 2015

Maybe it's because I've been online in chat rooms and communities and messageboards for for 20 years and have seen this happen many times, but this comes as no great shock to me, nor do I understand how some of you seem so perplexed about it and what there is to gain from it. To me, it's obvious what there is to gain from it. And again, since wasn't trying to date us, it really wouldn't be that hard to maintain the persona and lies. Getting in close with some of the posters here and ending up off board with them was her downfall. Too hard to avoid people finding holes in your stories when you are close to people like that. Here, we accept the desire for privacy and anonymity. Off board, it's expected that you will reveal a little more of yourself.

hellohkb · July 2015

For those who have netflix, the crime documentary Talhotblonde (Yes, it's spelled that way, only one L in tall) is an interesting story about a woman who catfished online. I don't want to spoil it for those who may feel compelled to watch it but I highly recommend it.

ohannabelle · July 2015

ShesSoCold said: sarahufl said: So, catfishing really confuses me. I can (sort of) see being bored or sad in my own life and creating something different. But is this, like, a teenage boy sitting around making up stories? It just seems so....elaborate....to carry on for months and years.

Then what happens? I wonder what people hope to achieve from it.
If the TB catfish and MI are the same, I'd bet money that it's either a young teenage bi-curious girl or a 30-40 year old creep-o guy who watches a lot of lesbian porn.

BOXES!

My guess is absolutely not a man. If you read the "BouncerTony" threads, you can see that the writer was trying to use a "male" voice, and nope. When I first read "Tony's" posts, I kind of sat there thinking, why in the everloving hell is MagicInk pretending to be Tony? Is she bored? The voices are identical. I'd bet a thousand dollars I'm not the only person who heard it.

I still feel sad. Because I liked her best when she wasn't embroidering nonsense about owning businesses and strap ons and threesomes and whatever. I think there's a good person under the nonsense.

Most people are damned entertaining and interesting just being ordinary people. Even the assholes are entertaining.

FiancB · July 2015

Didn't the TB person turn out to be a lot younger than she claimed? It sounds like they found out a lot of info about her. Maybe they can share notes. If it is her, though, she was much more careful this time and there isn't really anything to compare to anyway.

redoryx · July 2015

pinkcow13 said:

I think each Catfish is different. I used to have a friend in HS who was extremely insecure. She catfished on AOL chatrooms (This was late 90's early 2000's). She didn't do it to hurt anyone, but she did not feel that any guy IRL would like her for what she was.

There are those who do it to be cruel, or because they are so bored with their lives. MI could have ranged from a 50 year old dude posting from his mom's basement, to a 40 year old housewife who
wanted an escape.

.........Do we know each other?

I did actually do this back circa 1998. It was fun to pretend to be someone that I wasn't.

[Deleted User] · July 2015

photokitty said:

mrsdee15 said:

Whoooaaaaa whoa whoa. I am late to this party, but I was totally fooled. Looking back on it now though, I'm surprised that the turkey baster story didn't make my spidey sense tingle even more. I remember thinking it was a super weird story at the time, but hey, sure.

I don't get why people catfish. I think it's sad that people feel the need to create this entire alter ego online. Also, I used to think I wouldn't ever be fooled by a fake persona when I watched Catfish... I guess I was wrong. That was pretty elaborate, she has been on I think the entire time I've had an account, almost a year.

Honestly, that was the thing that tipped me off. Maybe bc my sister and her wife tried for 10 months before they were able to conceive with their doctor's help and actual AI (not IVF), where they but the sperm way up in at the top of your uterus...so something about a coffee cup full of spunk from the BFF, sitting on the counter with a "medical grade turkey baster" working on the very first cycle - just didn't add up in my head.

That one blew my BS meter. Part me me was going I was hoping I was just bitter that other people were shockingly that lucky when my sister wasn't, but turns out it was all just a bunch of lies.

I literally didn't think she was actually using a turkey baster. I just thought she was trying to be funny...

redoryx · July 2015

FeeleyToBe said:

photokitty said:

mrsdee15 said:

Whoooaaaaa whoa whoa. I am late to this party, but I was totally fooled. Looking back on it now though, I'm surprised that the turkey baster story didn't make my spidey sense tingle even more. I remember thinking it was a super weird story at the time, but hey, sure.

I don't get why people catfish. I think it's sad that people feel the need to create this entire alter ego online. Also, I used to think I wouldn't ever be fooled by a fake persona when I watched Catfish... I guess I was wrong. That was pretty elaborate, she has been on I think the entire time I've had an account, almost a year.

Honestly, that was the thing that tipped me off. Maybe bc my sister and her wife tried for 10 months before they were able to conceive with their doctor's help and actual AI (not IVF), where they but the sperm way up in at the top of your uterus...so something about a coffee cup full of spunk from the BFF, sitting on the counter with a "medical grade turkey baster" working on the very first cycle - just didn't add up in my head.

That one blew my BS meter. Part me me was going I was hoping I was just bitter that other people were shockingly that lucky when my sister wasn't, but turns out it was all just a bunch of lies.

I literally didn't think she was actually using a turkey baster. I just thought she was trying to be funny...

this. I believe it was a syringe and it was the third attempt.

(I got bored and went through her archives. LOL)

[Deleted User] · July 2015

pinkcow13 said:

luckya23 said:

hellohkb said:

loveislouder said:

Does anyone find themselves questioning things now? Like... if I didn't know I was real I'd think I was an AE because I don't post pictures of us and we've had some pretty outlandish things happen in our lives.

Yes, I definitely think I have TK paranoia. Like if I heard a noise outside of my house I'd jump and think it's someones AE. I'm joking about that part, but yes, I'm definitely questioning things!

Even HisGirlFriday!

I think someone is friends with HGF in real life (can't remember who the poster is), and she posted pics of her wedding before, so I think she's real. I think she just got run off that time a bunch of old regs ganged up on her.

I'm kinda now questioning some others that had crazier stories and then kinda just disappeared.
Oooh.... more mystery!! The one with the camo bedding was a real person - I checked! I can't vouch for the bedding though.

Yea, I remember that one lol. Or the other one that comes to mind is the chick whose MIL went missing, and then her body turned up somewhere (I think?). This was like 2 weeks before her wedding or something. The details are a bit fuzzy.

I remember this; don't remember who it was though.

photokitty · July 2015

redoryx said:

FeeleyToBe said:

photokitty said:

mrsdee15 said:

Whoooaaaaa whoa whoa. I am late to this party, but I was totally fooled. Looking back on it now though, I'm surprised that the turkey baster story didn't make my spidey sense tingle even more. I remember thinking it was a super weird story at the time, but hey, sure.

I don't get why people catfish. I think it's sad that people feel the need to create this entire alter ego online. Also, I used to think I wouldn't ever be fooled by a fake persona when I watched Catfish... I guess I was wrong. That was pretty elaborate, she has been on I think the entire time I've had an account, almost a year.

Honestly, that was the thing that tipped me off. Maybe bc my sister and her wife tried for 10 months before they were able to conceive with their doctor's help and actual AI (not IVF), where they but the sperm way up in at the top of your uterus...so something about a coffee cup full of spunk from the BFF, sitting on the counter with a "medical grade turkey baster" working on the very first cycle - just didn't add up in my head.

That one blew my BS meter. Part me me was going I was hoping I was just bitter that other people were shockingly that lucky when my sister wasn't, but turns out it was all just a bunch of lies.

I literally didn't think she was actually using a turkey baster. I just thought she was trying to be funny...

this. I believe it was a syringe and it was the third attempt.

(I got bored and went through her archives. LOL)

My bad, I thought it was the first cycle of trying. Maybe they tried 3 times in that cycle? I don't care enough to go look, so I concede in my wrongness. Either way, conception is typically I lot trickier than that.

ETA - I am pretty sure MI called it a "medical grade turkey baster." I know you don't use a turkey baster, I was just trying to use her words.

pinkcow13 · July 2015

ohannabelle said:

ShesSoCold said:

sarahufl said:

So, catfishing really confuses me. I can (sort of) see being bored or sad in my own life and creating something different. But is this, like, a teenage boy sitting around making up stories? It just seems so....elaborate....to carry on for months and years.

Then what happens? I wonder what people hope to achieve from it.

If the TB catfish and MI are the same, I'd bet money that it's either a young teenage bi-curious girl or a 30-40 year old creep-o guy who watches a lot of lesbian porn.

BOXES!

My guess is absolutely not a man. If you read the "BouncerTony" threads, you can see that the writer was trying to use a "male" voice, and nope. When I first read "Tony's" posts, I kind of sat there thinking, why in the everloving hell is MagicInk pretending to be Tony? Is she bored? The voices are identical. I'd bet a thousand dollars I'm not the only person who heard it.

I still feel sad. Because I liked her best when she wasn't embroidering nonsense about owning businesses and strap ons and threesomes and whatever. I think there's a good person under the nonsense.

Most people are damned entertaining and interesting just being ordinary people. Even the assholes are entertaining.

You're good, Tony had me fooled

FeeleyToBe said:

pinkcow13 said:

luckya23 said:

hellohkb said:

loveislouder said:

Does anyone find themselves questioning things now? Like... if I didn't know I was real I'd think I was an AE because I don't post pictures of us and we've had some pretty outlandish things happen in our lives.

Yes, I definitely think I have TK paranoia. Like if I heard a noise outside of my house I'd jump and think it's someones AE. I'm joking about that part, but yes, I'm definitely questioning things!

Even HisGirlFriday!

I think someone is friends with HGF in real life (can't remember who the poster is), and she posted pics of her wedding before, so I think she's real. I think she just got run off that time a bunch of old regs ganged up on her.

I'm kinda now questioning some others that had crazier stories and then kinda just disappeared.
Oooh.... more mystery!! The one with the camo bedding was a real person - I checked! I can't vouch for the bedding though.

Yea, I remember that one lol. Or the other one that comes to mind is the chick whose MIL went missing, and then her body turned up somewhere (I think?). This was like 2 weeks before her wedding or something. The details are a bit fuzzy.

I remember this; don't remember who it was though.

It was Lams276 or something. I feel like I'm going to be super suspicious of every new poster for the next few weeks.

lovesclimbing · July 2015

I never suspected MI. I honestly never questioned the turkey baster story. I figured she was one of those people where something odd and crazy actually worked. Yes, some people have a very difficult time getting pregnant, but most people don't. I know several women who know, based on when their husband was traveling, that they got pregnant the first time they had unprotected sex. That is also supposed to be rare, but it still happens sometimes.

I never suspected because of lack of photos either. I don't and won't post photos of myself or my wedding. I don't use this username on any other accounts. I don't want anyone I know to come on here and recognize me. Also, count me as one of the people who tweaks details of things that I post to help hide my identity.

I never think about whether someone is cat fishing or trolling. I just come here to waste time and chat (although I lurk more than I post) and read fun threads and laugh at crazy stuff. I figure everyone is probably twisting stuff to some degree.

climbingsingle · July 2015

This is hardly the first time it's happened here. Back in the early 2000s, there was a poster called AmyLovesRian. She catfished everyone. I believe some even sent her baby gifts, as she claimed to be pregnant with twins.

Unfortunately I believed MI. It's sad to think someone would spend so much time coming up with multiple identities.

drunkenwitch · July 2015

I am coming in super late because I'm on vacation and just checked in when I had some down time.

But

But

But

Wow, she had the wool totally over my eyes.

lovegood90 · July 2015

climbingwife said:

This is hardly the first time it's happened here. Back in the early 2000s, there was a poster called AmyLovesRian. She catfished everyone. I believe some even sent her baby gifts, as she claimed to be pregnant with twins. Unfortunately I believed MI. It's sad to think someone would spend so much time coming up with multiple identities.

This. It's sad and sounds super exhausting!

Jells2dot0 · July 2015

climbingwife said:

This is hardly the first time it's happened here. Back in the early 2000s, there was a poster called AmyLovesRian. She catfished everyone. I believe some even sent her baby gifts, as she claimed to be pregnant with twins. Unfortunately I believed MI. It's sad to think someone would spend so much time coming up with multiple identities.

I totally remember that!

Also, @AddieCake the whole Smichek stuff was 100% real. She wrote me notes while I was sick and I am friends with her on FB. Yes, it does seem very hard to believe, but it's all so very true.

(sorry I have not been around. New job, in training, trying move. BLECH)

luckya23 · July 2015

Jells2dot0 said:

climbingwife said:

This is hardly the first time it's happened here. Back in the early 2000s, there was a poster called AmyLovesRian. She catfished everyone. I believe some even sent her baby gifts, as she claimed to be pregnant with twins.

Unfortunately I believed MI. It's sad to think someone would spend so much time coming up with multiple identities.

I totally remember that!

Also, @AddieCake the whole Smichek stuff was 100% real. She wrote me notes while I was sick and I am friends with her on FB. Yes, it does seem very hard to believe, but it's all so very true.

(sorry I have not been around. New job, in training, trying move. BLECH)

Did they get sued?? Is that why she disappeared?

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