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  • Regardless if MI/VG was a catfish, she brought important things to light. The fact that it's always assumed there's a bride and groom. The totally exclusionary wording. Yes, it would be weird HERE if you started every post about being heterosexual. Because at this place, it's just assumed by people that you're a woman marrying a man. Shit, just in the post we've had "gay lifestyle" and CMG posting about her friends not talking about being gay. 

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    banana468 said:
    Well, now I know why this post is 11 pages!    And here I was thinking that everyone was really excited to welcome back PoG so it was just a long Kumbaya thread.

    I was fooled but I did think something was up when such a large percentage of her posts had tones of either being angry about straight white privilege or her pot-stirring threads about liking her wife's vagina more than Sonny liked Cocoa Puffs.    I don't think I ever suspected Catfish but I just suspected that she felt the need to be the center of the virtual attention.

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    And she's lurking and still enjoying all this attention.

    You are probably right.

  • So now I'm confused. We all know that MI was a vocal and frequent advocate for LGBTQI issues. But either it was too much and it was obnoxious and annoying and it's all she talked about and not everything has to be about being gay blah blah blah OR because MI brought it up with such frequency, it made lots of you step back and really examine your own understandings, expectations, misconceptions of LGTBTQI issues. 

    Which is it? 
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  • FiancB said:
    redoryx said:
    So now I'm confused. We all know that MI was a vocal and frequent advocate for LGBTQI issues. But either it was too much and it was obnoxious and annoying and it's all she talked about and not everything has to be about being gay blah blah blah OR because MI brought it up with such frequency, it made lots of you step back and really examine your own understandings, expectations, misconceptions of LGTBTQI issues. 

    Which is it? 
    It's okay if you're a minority. Just be mostly quiet and very polite about it, for God's sakes!

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    Yes, that's exactly what I was saying. 

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    banana468 said:
    FiancB said:
    redoryx said:
    So now I'm confused. We all know that MI was a vocal and frequent advocate for LGBTQI issues. But either it was too much and it was obnoxious and annoying and it's all she talked about and not everything has to be about being gay blah blah blah OR because MI brought it up with such frequency, it made lots of you step back and really examine your own understandings, expectations, misconceptions of LGTBTQI issues. 

    Which is it? 
    It's okay if you're a minority. Just be mostly quiet and very polite about it, for God's sakes!
    You catch more flies with honey.   When trying to convince others of your viewpoint, you can go for the cast-iron frying pan approach or you can go for the slightly less abrasive approach.

    Example - My church has two priests who regularly say Mass.   One often gives his sermon as a way to be true to the teachings but also to leave the parishioners inspired to do more.   The other gives sermons that regularly admonish those in attendance.   Both say a similar message. But with one approach, you leave thinking of ways to do better and in the other, you're angry and wanting to tune him out.

    If you want me to understand your viewpoint, I don't need to care what your viewpoint is.   If your tone is insulting and abrasive, I'm less likely to listen to your message. 


    That's funny, that sounds a lot like what SSs say in etiquette all. the. time. 
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  • emmaaa said:
    I'm just wondering, if people keep leaving and there was an exodus...then why are they back? How do the boards live on without them?

    Why do you assume anyone actually left? 
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  • redoryx said:
    emmaaa said:
    I'm just wondering, if people keep leaving and there was an exodus...then why are they back? How do the boards live on without them?

    Why do you assume anyone actually left? 
    Or that they came back? Who came back?
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    emmaaa said:
    I'm just wondering, if people keep leaving and there was an exodus...then why are they back? How do the boards live on without them?
    Who exactly left and came back?

    ETA: The only person that GBCK'ed and came back was CMG. 
  • redoryx said:
    emmaaa said:
    I'm just wondering, if people keep leaving and there was an exodus...then why are they back? How do the boards live on without them?

    Why do you assume anyone actually left? 
    Or that they came back? Who came back?
    Oh so everyone just loves complaining about how much they hate a wedding planning website's forum that they volunteer to come to by their own accord? Gotcha.

    And yes, many people said they were "done" when a user banned, specifically XXX/Pink who changed her siggy to "I'm out" but continued posting?

  • emmaaa said:
    redoryx said:
    emmaaa said:
    I'm just wondering, if people keep leaving and there was an exodus...then why are they back? How do the boards live on without them?

    Why do you assume anyone actually left? 
    Or that they came back? Who came back?
    Oh so everyone just loves complaining about how much they hate a wedding planning website's forum that they volunteer to come to by their own accord? Gotcha.

    And yes, many people said they were "done" when a user banned, specifically XXX/Pink who changed her siggy to "I'm out" but continued posting?
    That's one...
  • emmaaa said:
    redoryx said:
    emmaaa said:
    I'm just wondering, if people keep leaving and there was an exodus...then why are they back? How do the boards live on without them?

    Why do you assume anyone actually left? 
    Or that they came back? Who came back?
    Oh so everyone just loves complaining about how much they hate a wedding planning website's forum that they volunteer to come to by their own accord? Gotcha.

    And yes, many people said they were "done" when a user banned, specifically XXX/Pink who changed her siggy to "I'm out" but continued posting?

    Right, she continued posting. Which means she never left. 
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  • redoryx said:
    emmaaa said:
    redoryx said:
    emmaaa said:
    I'm just wondering, if people keep leaving and there was an exodus...then why are they back? How do the boards live on without them?

    Why do you assume anyone actually left? 
    Or that they came back? Who came back?
    Oh so everyone just loves complaining about how much they hate a wedding planning website's forum that they volunteer to come to by their own accord? Gotcha.

    And yes, many people said they were "done" when a user banned, specifically XXX/Pink who changed her siggy to "I'm out" but continued posting?

    Right, she continued posting. Which means she never left. 
    Is she one of those people that had to be deleted because they just couldn't help themselves?

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  • luckya23 said:
    redoryx said:
    emmaaa said:
    redoryx said:
    emmaaa said:
    I'm just wondering, if people keep leaving and there was an exodus...then why are they back? How do the boards live on without them?

    Why do you assume anyone actually left? 
    Or that they came back? Who came back?
    Oh so everyone just loves complaining about how much they hate a wedding planning website's forum that they volunteer to come to by their own accord? Gotcha.

    And yes, many people said they were "done" when a user banned, specifically XXX/Pink who changed her siggy to "I'm out" but continued posting?

    Right, she continued posting. Which means she never left. 
    Is she one of those people that had to be deleted because they just couldn't help themselves?
    ???
  • luckya23 said:
    redoryx said:
    emmaaa said:
    redoryx said:
    emmaaa said:
    I'm just wondering, if people keep leaving and there was an exodus...then why are they back? How do the boards live on without them?

    Why do you assume anyone actually left? 
    Or that they came back? Who came back?
    Oh so everyone just loves complaining about how much they hate a wedding planning website's forum that they volunteer to come to by their own accord? Gotcha.

    And yes, many people said they were "done" when a user banned, specifically XXX/Pink who changed her siggy to "I'm out" but continued posting?

    Right, she continued posting. Which means she never left. 
    Is she one of those people that had to be deleted because they just couldn't help themselves?
    ???
    She's now "deleted user".

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  • redoryx said:
    So now I'm confused. We all know that MI was a vocal and frequent advocate for LGBTQI issues. But either it was too much and it was obnoxious and annoying and it's all she talked about and not everything has to be about being gay blah blah blah OR because MI brought it up with such frequency, it made lots of you step back and really examine your own understandings, expectations, misconceptions of LGTBTQI issues. 

    Which is it? 
    I don't think it has to be either.

    I can find an action (e.g. talking about any one thing in a super aggressive way all the time) annoying and still have a take-away from the content.

    For me, it was her aggressive, alienating posting style that got old and annoying. Not her content. Because, most of the time, I agreed with her.

    She (or anyone else) could have been aggressive and alienating about anything and I would have found it obnoxious. She could have been aggressive and alienating on the opposite end of the spectrum - super into "one man, one woman only" bullshit and constantly reminding everyone about her black/white view of sexuality. 

    And FTR, she didn't always post like that. If you go back and look at her history, she only started doing it within the last several months. Prior to that, she was pretty even keeled. 
    Exactly.   I can learn a bit from what you're saying but after a while I get tired of it.

    I find that I agree with a lot of my FIL's political viewpoints.   But I rarely want to listen to him talk about them.  
  • luckya23 said:
    luckya23 said:
    redoryx said:
    emmaaa said:
    redoryx said:
    emmaaa said:
    I'm just wondering, if people keep leaving and there was an exodus...then why are they back? How do the boards live on without them?

    Why do you assume anyone actually left? 
    Or that they came back? Who came back?
    Oh so everyone just loves complaining about how much they hate a wedding planning website's forum that they volunteer to come to by their own accord? Gotcha.

    And yes, many people said they were "done" when a user banned, specifically XXX/Pink who changed her siggy to "I'm out" but continued posting?

    Right, she continued posting. Which means she never left. 
    Is she one of those people that had to be deleted because they just couldn't help themselves?
    ???
    She's now "deleted user".
    I'd call that a safe assumption. 
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  • FiancB said:
    banana468 said:
    FiancB said:
    redoryx said:
    So now I'm confused. We all know that MI was a vocal and frequent advocate for LGBTQI issues. But either it was too much and it was obnoxious and annoying and it's all she talked about and not everything has to be about being gay blah blah blah OR because MI brought it up with such frequency, it made lots of you step back and really examine your own understandings, expectations, misconceptions of LGTBTQI issues. 

    Which is it? 
    It's okay if you're a minority. Just be mostly quiet and very polite about it, for God's sakes!
    You catch more flies with honey.   When trying to convince others of your viewpoint, you can go for the cast-iron frying pan approach or you can go for the slightly less abrasive approach.

    Example - My church has two priests who regularly say Mass.   One often gives his sermon as a way to be true to the teachings but also to leave the parishioners inspired to do more.   The other gives sermons that regularly admonish those in attendance.   Both say a similar message. But with one approach, you leave thinking of ways to do better and in the other, you're angry and wanting to tune him out.

    If you want me to understand your viewpoint, I don't need to care what your viewpoint is.   If your tone is insulting and abrasive, I'm less likely to listen to your message. 


    That's funny, that sounds a lot like what SSs say in etiquette all. the. time. 

    Yep.  And guess what?  It applies there too.  If you respond to someone's honeyfund by sending them a gigantic wire chicken, they're going to think that you're a rude ass, which you are.  If you just ignore the honeyfund or gently tell them "you know, some people don't like honeyfunds because they can be misleading and they take a percentage of the gift," they're more likely to listen to the message or (maybe) change their point of view.  Insulting someone rarely gets them on your side in any context.

    FTR I thought MI/VG had some valid points but I found her delivery extremely offputting.  I thought her overall posting style was a contrived cry for attention, and I found some her more outrageous stories to be less than believable, but I was still really surprised to find out that her whole identify was made up.

  • I, for one, never declared I was done or out.  I've always still been here.  But it's a lot less interesting now that many of the people I liked are no longer posting.  I don't feel the same imperative to check in on CC and see how everyone is doing because pretty much everybody I actually care about talking to, I already do off-board.  But, you know, entertainment value.
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