As I understand, etiquette would say that a baby shower is only appropriate for the first child. Correct me if I'm wrong!
Why?
I assume because baby items can be re-used, so parents don't need everything new again for each subsequent pregnancy.
I ask because a FB friend posted this question. She had a baby shower for her first child, but not second. Didn't think they'd have any more children, so she got rid of all her stuff. A few years later (now) she is pregnant again and has nothing, so she put out a post asking if it's OK if someone throws her another shower.
Personally, I'm fine with a baby shower for all babies. I think all babies should be celebrated
But I'd like to have my etiquette facts straight.
I generally don't buy particularly large objects as a baby gift, unless it's a group item (in which case I would always ask the mother what she wants/needs). Most items I commonly see are clothes, books, toys, and supplies. Thus, clothes (and definitely supplies) for Baby A may not exist for Baby B. And I notice people tend to buy gender specific clothes/items when the gender is known, so if you have a girl the first time, why not another shower if the second is a boy?