What's pissing you off today?

pinupbride6189 · August 2015

lyndausvi said:

Poor DH. He just text me to say it's a no go for coming home early. They (not sure who "they" are) setup a couples cooking class for today. 20 couples signed up. THEY DIDN'T TELL DH UNTIL THIS MORNING. I mean, why would you let the chef know he was doing a cooking class? It's not like he doesn't need to make a meal plan, order food or anything like that. Nope, not at all. ::rolls eyes::

Then yesterday a 100 person pop-up cocktail reception for tonight was booked. Who books a 100 reception last minute? And the restaurant is almost booked.

That boy is just too damn popular

ugh. That's gross. I 'm sorry for both of you on that one!

Maggie0829 · August 2015

pinupbride6189 said:

I do completely understand that this prom could be very important to FBIL and ultimately it's his choice as to which event he wants to attend, and FI understands that it's one brother's life event vs. the other's. I think part of what's getting to me is that FMIL hasn't even told FBIL that the dates coincide. She doesn't want to ruin his good mood, is what she said. I think I'm also a little sore about it because I won't get to see my sister get married (she's having a PPD), so from my perspective, it'd be a no-brainer, but that's just my personal feeling. To address some of the points that have been brought up, FBIL did attend prom this past year (not saying that that means he shouldn't want to go this year, just saw that someone brought up that there was usually more than one opportunity to go to prom), and we did consult VIPs, we actuall moved our prospective date from the beginning of April to the end of April because two of FI's grandparents are tax accountants and we were trying to squeeze the wedding in where it was most likely FI's dad would be in between deployments (he's a contractor and in the USAF reserves), and leaving room for FBIL's HS graduation, as well as accomodating for the fact that I'm due to get orders in May. If FI's mom had her way, we'd either be getting married next month (FI's dad would be gone, and it would totally wreck our current work situation, but FBIL wouldn't have hockey, so we're good to go!) or NEXT fall, which was a lot longer than we wanted to wait, for multiple reasons. Like I said, I completely understand the dilemma, but I was venting a little I guess, because it's a bit frustrating.

Then why hasn't your FI told his brother about the wedding date? Do they not talk? How has the date not been spoken in front of FBIL at all? I think your FI should tell his brother the date and then let his brother make the final decision. I mean are the parents going to wait until the prom gets closer and then go "oh sorry son but you can't go because that is your brothers wedding." Yeah, that would go over well.

pinupbride6189 · August 2015

Maggie0829 said:

pinupbride6189 said:

I do completely understand that this prom could be very important to FBIL and ultimately it's his choice as to which event he wants to attend, and FI understands that it's one brother's life event vs. the other's. I think part of what's getting to me is that FMIL hasn't even told FBIL that the dates coincide. She doesn't want to ruin his good mood, is what she said. I think I'm also a little sore about it because I won't get to see my sister get married (she's having a PPD), so from my perspective, it'd be a no-brainer, but that's just my personal feeling. To address some of the points that have been brought up, FBIL did attend prom this past year (not saying that that means he shouldn't want to go this year, just saw that someone brought up that there was usually more than one opportunity to go to prom), and we did consult VIPs, we actuall moved our prospective date from the beginning of April to the end of April because two of FI's grandparents are tax accountants and we were trying to squeeze the wedding in where it was most likely FI's dad would be in between deployments (he's a contractor and in the USAF reserves), and leaving room for FBIL's HS graduation, as well as accomodating for the fact that I'm due to get orders in May. If FI's mom had her way, we'd either be getting married next month (FI's dad would be gone, and it would totally wreck our current work situation, but FBIL wouldn't have hockey, so we're good to go!) or NEXT fall, which was a lot longer than we wanted to wait, for multiple reasons. Like I said, I completely understand the dilemma, but I was venting a little I guess, because it's a bit frustrating.

Then why hasn't your FI told his brother about the wedding date? Do they not talk? How has the date not been spoken in front of FBIL at all? I think your FI should tell his brother the date and then let his brother make the final decision. I mean are the parents going to wait until the prom gets closer and then go "oh sorry son but you can't go because that is your brothers wedding." Yeah, that would go over well.

Oh no, FBIL knows when the wedding is, but FMIL just got on the school website or something and saw the date for prom, so FBIL doesn't know that prom is on the same day as the wedding, but he does know when the wedding is, and has been pretty supportive and excited about it. I actually asked FI today if he'd talked to his brother about it to see how he actually felt about prom v. wedding, and that's I found out that FBIL doesn't know that there's an issue yet because FMIL doesn't want to upset him. Idk what FMIL's plan is at this point.

princessleia22 · August 2015

Gustafson28 said:

princessleia22 said:

I apparently pinched my sciatic nerve over the weekend and it's literally a huge pain in my a$$ (and back and leg). Sitting at work all day has been horrible and I really just want to leave. And I know it's because I've been slacking on my stretching/exercising lately, so it's kind of all my fault. But, I do have an appointment for massage after work, so I'm hoping that helps. I just wish I didn't have to wait another 2 hours for the appointment.

Last week I drove 2.5 hours (each way) to look at a building and get some pictures for work. I just realized that half my photos are corrupted. I'm really hoping we can find a way to get this project done without me having to waste another day driving back to retake the photos.

boxboxbox

Look up nerve flossing. It is the #1 way to treat sciatic pain. Should be gone in a week if you do it every day

Thanks. I have other back issues that typically result in me getting sciatica every 2-3 years. Luckily I know the stretches and tips to help relieve it fairly quickly, but I just wish there was an instant fix. Last year I had finally gotten into a good exercise/yoga routine that was awesome for my back. But, my ideal routine had me doing it during the 2 hours between when I got done with work and when DH got home. In the summers he gets home early and is home before me, which totally screwed up my routine... and now I'm paying the price for it. But, he starts back on his later schedule in a week, so hopefully that will help me get back on track.

Maggie0829 · August 2015

pinupbride6189 said:

Maggie0829 said:

pinupbride6189 said:

I do completely understand that this prom could be very important to FBIL and ultimately it's his choice as to which event he wants to attend, and FI understands that it's one brother's life event vs. the other's. I think part of what's getting to me is that FMIL hasn't even told FBIL that the dates coincide. She doesn't want to ruin his good mood, is what she said. I think I'm also a little sore about it because I won't get to see my sister get married (she's having a PPD), so from my perspective, it'd be a no-brainer, but that's just my personal feeling. To address some of the points that have been brought up, FBIL did attend prom this past year (not saying that that means he shouldn't want to go this year, just saw that someone brought up that there was usually more than one opportunity to go to prom), and we did consult VIPs, we actuall moved our prospective date from the beginning of April to the end of April because two of FI's grandparents are tax accountants and we were trying to squeeze the wedding in where it was most likely FI's dad would be in between deployments (he's a contractor and in the USAF reserves), and leaving room for FBIL's HS graduation, as well as accomodating for the fact that I'm due to get orders in May. If FI's mom had her way, we'd either be getting married next month (FI's dad would be gone, and it would totally wreck our current work situation, but FBIL wouldn't have hockey, so we're good to go!) or NEXT fall, which was a lot longer than we wanted to wait, for multiple reasons. Like I said, I completely understand the dilemma, but I was venting a little I guess, because it's a bit frustrating.

Then why hasn't your FI told his brother about the wedding date? Do they not talk? How has the date not been spoken in front of FBIL at all? I think your FI should tell his brother the date and then let his brother make the final decision. I mean are the parents going to wait until the prom gets closer and then go "oh sorry son but you can't go because that is your brothers wedding." Yeah, that would go over well.

Oh no, FBIL knows when the wedding is, but FMIL just got on the school website or something and saw the date for prom, so FBIL doesn't know that prom is on the same day as the wedding, but he does know when the wedding is, and has been pretty supportive and excited about it. I actually asked FI today if he'd talked to his brother about it to see how he actually felt about prom v. wedding, and that's I found out that FBIL doesn't know that there's an issue yet because FMIL doesn't want to upset him. Idk what FMIL's plan is at this point.

Ah gotcha. Yeah I would have FI call up his brother and let him know. FBIL may be all "oh well I went to a prom last year and I would never miss your wedding." Or something like that, so your FILs may be freaking out over nothing. But really no good will come from keeping this information from their son. It will just lead to stress and hurt feelings (as you can already see is happening). Better to just let the brother decide and go from there.

sparklepants41 · August 2015

julieanne912 said:

SoontobeMrsKlein said:

julieanne912 said:

SoontobeMrsKlein said:

julieanne912 said:

Today I'm PO'd at how hard it is to find dark brown non-tuxedo-looking vests for the guys to wear for the wedding. I just need 2, a size medium and a size XL for the best man, who is in Germany and won't be here til 2 days before the wedding. I find the ones I like and they aren't available in the right sizes.

A side note too, I started bugging FI 2 months ago about figuring out his outfit. He kept putting it off. Now we're a month out and still no vests.

We had a hard time with that too! We ended up going with an ivory vest with our brown suits because dark brown vests pretty much dont exist and I have no idea why!

Yeah we aren't doing suits at all so that's why the vest was so important. Even a lighter brown/tan tweed vest would be fine but not having much luck there either. I thought it would be easy with fall coming up. This is the look we're going for

Are you in canada or the US? Canada has Moores Men's clothes and I know they had 1 tweedy dark brown vest like those. 1. haha Great selection eh?

US. I'm finding a few places with them but they're all sold out of the sizes we need. Guess we aren't the only ones wanting them.

Without knowing your budget - have you tried Sears or ASOS?

Sears: http://www.sears.com/u-s-polo-assn-men-s-tweed-suit-vest/p-041VA78930912P?sid=IDx01192011x000001&kpid=04181803002&pla=&kispla=041VA78930912P&mktRedirect=y

ASOS: http://us.asos.com/ASOS-Slim-Fit-Vest-In-Harris-Tweed/13hclw/?iid=4028117&istCompanyId=467dd896-9a62-42c2-84d9-be2d13921f66&istItemId=prqmrqqit&istBid=t&channelref=google+shopping&affid=14174&channelref=google+shopping&utm_source=google&utm_medium=ppc&utm_term=109548900296&utm_content=&utm_campaign=&cvosrc=ppc.google.109548900296&network=g&mobile=&search=1&content=&creative=76107988705&ptid=109548900296&adposition=1o1&r=2&mk=abc&gclid=CN66rNPJoccCFcEUHwod23EKAg

lyndausvi · August 2015

pinupbride6189 said:

lyndausvi said:

Poor DH. He just text me to say it's a no go for coming home early. They (not sure who "they" are) setup a couples cooking class for today. 20 couples signed up. THEY DIDN'T TELL DH UNTIL THIS MORNING. I mean, why would you let the chef know he was doing a cooking class? It's not like he doesn't need to make a meal plan, order food or anything like that. Nope, not at all. ::rolls eyes::

Then yesterday a 100 person pop-up cocktail reception for tonight was booked. Who books a 100 reception last minute? And the restaurant is almost booked.

That boy is just too damn popular

ugh. That's gross. I 'm sorry for both of you on that one!

It's okay. He at least told me.

I got all day and night with him yesterday. He walked the dogs this morning, put away his clothes and straighted up the living room/kitchen area. I should be good for another week.

HeatherKat · August 2015

Maggie0829 said:

pinupbride6189 said:

Maggie0829 said:

pinupbride6189 said:

I do completely understand that this prom could be very important to FBIL and ultimately it's his choice as to which event he wants to attend, and FI understands that it's one brother's life event vs. the other's. I think part of what's getting to me is that FMIL hasn't even told FBIL that the dates coincide. She doesn't want to ruin his good mood, is what she said. I think I'm also a little sore about it because I won't get to see my sister get married (she's having a PPD), so from my perspective, it'd be a no-brainer, but that's just my personal feeling. To address some of the points that have been brought up, FBIL did attend prom this past year (not saying that that means he shouldn't want to go this year, just saw that someone brought up that there was usually more than one opportunity to go to prom), and we did consult VIPs, we actuall moved our prospective date from the beginning of April to the end of April because two of FI's grandparents are tax accountants and we were trying to squeeze the wedding in where it was most likely FI's dad would be in between deployments (he's a contractor and in the USAF reserves), and leaving room for FBIL's HS graduation, as well as accomodating for the fact that I'm due to get orders in May. If FI's mom had her way, we'd either be getting married next month (FI's dad would be gone, and it would totally wreck our current work situation, but FBIL wouldn't have hockey, so we're good to go!) or NEXT fall, which was a lot longer than we wanted to wait, for multiple reasons. Like I said, I completely understand the dilemma, but I was venting a little I guess, because it's a bit frustrating.

Then why hasn't your FI told his brother about the wedding date? Do they not talk? How has the date not been spoken in front of FBIL at all? I think your FI should tell his brother the date and then let his brother make the final decision. I mean are the parents going to wait until the prom gets closer and then go "oh sorry son but you can't go because that is your brothers wedding." Yeah, that would go over well.

Oh no, FBIL knows when the wedding is, but FMIL just got on the school website or something and saw the date for prom, so FBIL doesn't know that prom is on the same day as the wedding, but he does know when the wedding is, and has been pretty supportive and excited about it. I actually asked FI today if he'd talked to his brother about it to see how he actually felt about prom v. wedding, and that's I found out that FBIL doesn't know that there's an issue yet because FMIL doesn't want to upset him. Idk what FMIL's plan is at this point.

Ah gotcha. Yeah I would have FI call up his brother and let him know. FBIL may be all "oh well I went to a prom last year and I would never miss your wedding." Or something like that, so your FILs may be freaking out over nothing. But really no good will come from keeping this information from their son. It will just lead to stress and hurt feelings (as you can already see is happening). Better to just let the brother decide and go from there.

Wait, how long is FMIL expecting to keep FBIL in the dark? I don't get not telling him. The kid doesn't have access to the school's calendar?

julieanne912 · August 2015

sparklepants41 said:

julieanne912 said:

SoontobeMrsKlein said:

julieanne912 said:

SoontobeMrsKlein said:

julieanne912 said:

Today I'm PO'd at how hard it is to find dark brown non-tuxedo-looking vests for the guys to wear for the wedding. I just need 2, a size medium and a size XL for the best man, who is in Germany and won't be here til 2 days before the wedding. I find the ones I like and they aren't available in the right sizes.

A side note too, I started bugging FI 2 months ago about figuring out his outfit. He kept putting it off. Now we're a month out and still no vests.

We had a hard time with that too! We ended up going with an ivory vest with our brown suits because dark brown vests pretty much dont exist and I have no idea why!

Yeah we aren't doing suits at all so that's why the vest was so important. Even a lighter brown/tan tweed vest would be fine but not having much luck there either. I thought it would be easy with fall coming up. This is the look we're going for

Are you in canada or the US? Canada has Moores Men's clothes and I know they had 1 tweedy dark brown vest like those. 1. haha Great selection eh?

US. I'm finding a few places with them but they're all sold out of the sizes we need. Guess we aren't the only ones wanting them.

Without knowing your budget - have you tried Sears or ASOS?
Sears: http://www.sears.com/u-s-polo-assn-men-s-tweed-suit-vest/p-041VA78930912P?sid=IDx01192011x000001&kpid=04181803002&pla=&kispla=041VA78930912P&mktRedirect=y
ASOS: http://us.asos.com/ASOS-Slim-Fit-Vest-In-Harris-Tweed/13hclw/?iid=4028117&istCompanyId=467dd896-9a62-42c2-84d9-be2d13921f66&istItemId=prqmrqqit&istBid=t&channelref=google+shopping&affid=14174&channelref=google+shopping&utm_source=google&utm_medium=ppc&utm_term=109548900296&utm_content=&utm_campaign=&cvosrc=ppc.google.109548900296&network=g&mobile=&search=1&content=&creative=76107988705&ptid=109548900296&adposition=1o1&r=2&mk=abc&gclid=CN66rNPJoccCFcEUHwod23EKAg

Yup, the Sears one, once you select brown, it's only available in S or L. We need M and XL. Sucks cause it's perfect and the price is awesome. The ASOS one is only available in 32" chest. I've basically looked all over the google

sparklepants41 · August 2015

julieanne912 said:

Yup, the Sears one, once you select brown, it's only available in S or L. We need M and XL. Sucks cause it's perfect and the price is awesome. The ASOS one is only available in 32" chest. I've basically looked all over the google

I wish you the best of luck in your search!

anjemon · August 2015

julieanne912 said:

sparklepants41 said:

julieanne912 said:

SoontobeMrsKlein said:

julieanne912 said:

SoontobeMrsKlein said:

julieanne912 said:

Today I'm PO'd at how hard it is to find dark brown non-tuxedo-looking vests for the guys to wear for the wedding. I just need 2, a size medium and a size XL for the best man, who is in Germany and won't be here til 2 days before the wedding. I find the ones I like and they aren't available in the right sizes.

A side note too, I started bugging FI 2 months ago about figuring out his outfit. He kept putting it off. Now we're a month out and still no vests.

We had a hard time with that too! We ended up going with an ivory vest with our brown suits because dark brown vests pretty much dont exist and I have no idea why!

Yeah we aren't doing suits at all so that's why the vest was so important. Even a lighter brown/tan tweed vest would be fine but not having much luck there either. I thought it would be easy with fall coming up. This is the look we're going for

Are you in canada or the US? Canada has Moores Men's clothes and I know they had 1 tweedy dark brown vest like those. 1. haha Great selection eh?

US. I'm finding a few places with them but they're all sold out of the sizes we need. Guess we aren't the only ones wanting them.

Without knowing your budget - have you tried Sears or ASOS?
Sears: http://www.sears.com/u-s-polo-assn-men-s-tweed-suit-vest/p-041VA78930912P?sid=IDx01192011x000001&kpid=04181803002&pla=&kispla=041VA78930912P&mktRedirect=y
ASOS: http://us.asos.com/ASOS-Slim-Fit-Vest-In-Harris-Tweed/13hclw/?iid=4028117&istCompanyId=467dd896-9a62-42c2-84d9-be2d13921f66&istItemId=prqmrqqit&istBid=t&channelref=google+shopping&affid=14174&channelref=google+shopping&utm_source=google&utm_medium=ppc&utm_term=109548900296&utm_content=&utm_campaign=&cvosrc=ppc.google.109548900296&network=g&mobile=&search=1&content=&creative=76107988705&ptid=109548900296&adposition=1o1&r=2&mk=abc&gclid=CN66rNPJoccCFcEUHwod23EKAg

Yup, the Sears one, once you select brown, it's only available in S or L. We need M and XL. Sucks cause it's perfect and the price is awesome. The ASOS one is only available in 32" chest. I've basically looked all over the google

Since you've tried all the google you might have tried this, but have you talked to a local Sears and see if there are any stores with it in stock? Sometimes they sell out online and there are a few in select stores. And then stores can look at the stock at other places and let you know. More work, but it might be worth it to find what you need.

julieanne912 · August 2015

anjemon said:

julieanne912 said:

sparklepants41 said:

julieanne912 said:

SoontobeMrsKlein said:

julieanne912 said:

SoontobeMrsKlein said:

julieanne912 said:

Today I'm PO'd at how hard it is to find dark brown non-tuxedo-looking vests for the guys to wear for the wedding. I just need 2, a size medium and a size XL for the best man, who is in Germany and won't be here til 2 days before the wedding. I find the ones I like and they aren't available in the right sizes.

A side note too, I started bugging FI 2 months ago about figuring out his outfit. He kept putting it off. Now we're a month out and still no vests.

We had a hard time with that too! We ended up going with an ivory vest with our brown suits because dark brown vests pretty much dont exist and I have no idea why!

Yeah we aren't doing suits at all so that's why the vest was so important. Even a lighter brown/tan tweed vest would be fine but not having much luck there either. I thought it would be easy with fall coming up. This is the look we're going for

Are you in canada or the US? Canada has Moores Men's clothes and I know they had 1 tweedy dark brown vest like those. 1. haha Great selection eh?

US. I'm finding a few places with them but they're all sold out of the sizes we need. Guess we aren't the only ones wanting them.

Without knowing your budget - have you tried Sears or ASOS?
Sears: http://www.sears.com/u-s-polo-assn-men-s-tweed-suit-vest/p-041VA78930912P?sid=IDx01192011x000001&kpid=04181803002&pla=&kispla=041VA78930912P&mktRedirect=y
ASOS: http://us.asos.com/ASOS-Slim-Fit-Vest-In-Harris-Tweed/13hclw/?iid=4028117&istCompanyId=467dd896-9a62-42c2-84d9-be2d13921f66&istItemId=prqmrqqit&istBid=t&channelref=google+shopping&affid=14174&channelref=google+shopping&utm_source=google&utm_medium=ppc&utm_term=109548900296&utm_content=&utm_campaign=&cvosrc=ppc.google.109548900296&network=g&mobile=&search=1&content=&creative=76107988705&ptid=109548900296&adposition=1o1&r=2&mk=abc&gclid=CN66rNPJoccCFcEUHwod23EKAg

Yup, the Sears one, once you select brown, it's only available in S or L. We need M and XL. Sucks cause it's perfect and the price is awesome. The ASOS one is only available in 32" chest. I've basically looked all over the google

Since you've tried all the google you might have tried this, but have you talked to a local Sears and see if there are any stores with it in stock? Sometimes they sell out online and there are a few in select stores. And then stores can look at the stock at other places and let you know. More work, but it might be worth it to find what you need.

I haven't tried that yet, that's probably a good idea.

pinupbride6189 · August 2015

HeatherKat said:

Maggie0829 said:

pinupbride6189 said:

Maggie0829 said:

pinupbride6189 said:

I do completely understand that this prom could be very important to FBIL and ultimately it's his choice as to which event he wants to attend, and FI understands that it's one brother's life event vs. the other's. I think part of what's getting to me is that FMIL hasn't even told FBIL that the dates coincide. She doesn't want to ruin his good mood, is what she said. I think I'm also a little sore about it because I won't get to see my sister get married (she's having a PPD), so from my perspective, it'd be a no-brainer, but that's just my personal feeling. To address some of the points that have been brought up, FBIL did attend prom this past year (not saying that that means he shouldn't want to go this year, just saw that someone brought up that there was usually more than one opportunity to go to prom), and we did consult VIPs, we actuall moved our prospective date from the beginning of April to the end of April because two of FI's grandparents are tax accountants and we were trying to squeeze the wedding in where it was most likely FI's dad would be in between deployments (he's a contractor and in the USAF reserves), and leaving room for FBIL's HS graduation, as well as accomodating for the fact that I'm due to get orders in May. If FI's mom had her way, we'd either be getting married next month (FI's dad would be gone, and it would totally wreck our current work situation, but FBIL wouldn't have hockey, so we're good to go!) or NEXT fall, which was a lot longer than we wanted to wait, for multiple reasons. Like I said, I completely understand the dilemma, but I was venting a little I guess, because it's a bit frustrating.

Then why hasn't your FI told his brother about the wedding date? Do they not talk? How has the date not been spoken in front of FBIL at all? I think your FI should tell his brother the date and then let his brother make the final decision. I mean are the parents going to wait until the prom gets closer and then go "oh sorry son but you can't go because that is your brothers wedding." Yeah, that would go over well.

Oh no, FBIL knows when the wedding is, but FMIL just got on the school website or something and saw the date for prom, so FBIL doesn't know that prom is on the same day as the wedding, but he does know when the wedding is, and has been pretty supportive and excited about it. I actually asked FI today if he'd talked to his brother about it to see how he actually felt about prom v. wedding, and that's I found out that FBIL doesn't know that there's an issue yet because FMIL doesn't want to upset him. Idk what FMIL's plan is at this point.

Ah gotcha. Yeah I would have FI call up his brother and let him know. FBIL may be all "oh well I went to a prom last year and I would never miss your wedding." Or something like that, so your FILs may be freaking out over nothing. But really no good will come from keeping this information from their son. It will just lead to stress and hurt feelings (as you can already see is happening). Better to just let the brother decide and go from there.

Wait, how long is FMIL expecting to keep FBIL in the dark? I don't get not telling him. The kid doesn't have access to the school's calendar?

I have no idea what her plans are. She doesn't want to upset him because she doesn't want to live with a pissed off teenager. I'm sure he has access to the school's calendar, he's probably just not thinking about it right now, whereas she probably went looking for the information.

pinupbride6189 · August 2015

Maggie0829 said:

pinupbride6189 said:

Maggie0829 said:

pinupbride6189 said:

I do completely understand that this prom could be very important to FBIL and ultimately it's his choice as to which event he wants to attend, and FI understands that it's one brother's life event vs. the other's. I think part of what's getting to me is that FMIL hasn't even told FBIL that the dates coincide. She doesn't want to ruin his good mood, is what she said. I think I'm also a little sore about it because I won't get to see my sister get married (she's having a PPD), so from my perspective, it'd be a no-brainer, but that's just my personal feeling. To address some of the points that have been brought up, FBIL did attend prom this past year (not saying that that means he shouldn't want to go this year, just saw that someone brought up that there was usually more than one opportunity to go to prom), and we did consult VIPs, we actuall moved our prospective date from the beginning of April to the end of April because two of FI's grandparents are tax accountants and we were trying to squeeze the wedding in where it was most likely FI's dad would be in between deployments (he's a contractor and in the USAF reserves), and leaving room for FBIL's HS graduation, as well as accomodating for the fact that I'm due to get orders in May. If FI's mom had her way, we'd either be getting married next month (FI's dad would be gone, and it would totally wreck our current work situation, but FBIL wouldn't have hockey, so we're good to go!) or NEXT fall, which was a lot longer than we wanted to wait, for multiple reasons. Like I said, I completely understand the dilemma, but I was venting a little I guess, because it's a bit frustrating.

Then why hasn't your FI told his brother about the wedding date? Do they not talk? How has the date not been spoken in front of FBIL at all? I think your FI should tell his brother the date and then let his brother make the final decision. I mean are the parents going to wait until the prom gets closer and then go "oh sorry son but you can't go because that is your brothers wedding." Yeah, that would go over well.

Oh no, FBIL knows when the wedding is, but FMIL just got on the school website or something and saw the date for prom, so FBIL doesn't know that prom is on the same day as the wedding, but he does know when the wedding is, and has been pretty supportive and excited about it. I actually asked FI today if he'd talked to his brother about it to see how he actually felt about prom v. wedding, and that's I found out that FBIL doesn't know that there's an issue yet because FMIL doesn't want to upset him. Idk what FMIL's plan is at this point.

Ah gotcha. Yeah I would have FI call up his brother and let him know. FBIL may be all "oh well I went to a prom last year and I would never miss your wedding." Or something like that, so your FILs may be freaking out over nothing. But really no good will come from keeping this information from their son. It will just lead to stress and hurt feelings (as you can already see is happening). Better to just let the brother decide and go from there.

If she doesn't tell him by the end of the week, I'll probably suggest that FI give him a call. We're spending the weekend with FMIL (Joy of joys...) for our food and cake tasting, so I'd rather it not be any less pleasant than it's already going to be seeing as she is pretty pissed about just about everything we're doing.

beachyone15 · August 2015

@pinupbride6189 I agree with Maggie. Your FI should mention to his brother that these events fall on the same day. That way it's off your shoulders, he has time to figure it out, and your in-laws can make plans depending on what the BROTHER decides.

anjemon · August 2015

beachyone15 said:

@pinupbride6189 I agree with Maggie. Your FI should mention to his brother that these events fall on the same day. That way it's off your shoulders, he has time to figure it out, and your in-laws can make plans depending on what the BROTHER decides.

I agree, except I wouldn't say anything to BIL until MIL is gone on Sunday or Monday. Because I wouldn't want to deal with her being more mad at me for things I can't control while she's visiting. BIL probably still has months to make up his mind, a few days won't make or break it.

WinstonsGirl · August 2015

Today it's my Prof. (Is that the same as yesterday??) She still hasn't gotten back to me about my clarification for my assignment and I've basically wasted the entire morning not writing my paper. I know if I start on my idea, she'll say I can't do it, so I'm not starting. I get that she can't be available 24/7, but if you're running an online class, you need to be checking in daily I think. I just want to get this last assignment over with

luckya23 · August 2015

That I got the link for my wedding photos yesterday but I can't look at them without DH!!!

AAAAHHHHHHHH!!!

loveislouder · August 2015

luckya23 said:

That I got the link for my wedding photos yesterday but I can't look at them without DH!!!
AAAAHHHHHHHH!!!

Send them to us.

We'll look at them for you and tell you how beautiful they are

luckya23 · August 2015

loveislouder said:

luckya23 said:

That I got the link for my wedding photos yesterday but I can't look at them without DH!!!
AAAAHHHHHHHH!!!

Send them to us. We'll look at them for you and tell you how beautiful they are

My BFF actually saw my facebook sneak peek before I did, so she thinks it's her right to see these first too.

I'm not even admitting to anyone else that the disc is in the mail since I plan to surprise the family with their albums... It's gonna be TORTURE either way! (Well, assuming I like them! haha)

julieanne912 · August 2015

sparklepants41 said:

julieanne912 said:

Yup, the Sears one, once you select brown, it's only available in S or L. We need M and XL. Sucks cause it's perfect and the price is awesome. The ASOS one is only available in 32" chest. I've basically looked all over the google

I wish you the best of luck in your search!

I went by Men's Wearhouse on my lunch and they put together an outfit for me that involves a grey vest and it looks great. So...switching gears and going grey!! It's down the street from my work so FI is gonna meet me there to try stuff on.

I never thought the wrong color vest would stress me out so much, ready for the wedding to be over now.

Maggie0829 · August 2015

luckya23 said:

That I got the link for my wedding photos yesterday but I can't look at them without DH!!!
AAAAHHHHHHHH!!!

Yeah, I would be looking at them without DH. Actually I did look at our pics without my H. Just like how I opened all of our cards and presents while he slept off his hangover the day after our wedding. He got to see what we got and read the cards later, same as he got to see the pics when he got home from work. It didn't diminish anything.

luckya23 · August 2015

Maggie0829 said:

luckya23 said:

That I got the link for my wedding photos yesterday but I can't look at them without DH!!!
AAAAHHHHHHHH!!!

Yeah, I would be looking at them without DH. Actually I did look at our pics without my H. Just like how I opened all of our cards and presents while he slept off his hangover the day after our wedding. He got to see what we got and read the cards later, same as he got to see the pics when he got home from work. It didn't diminish anything.

So it turns out that the link she sent was a slideshow. I had him put it on the living room tv, and he left the room during the reception photos. Oh well, I tried! He was driving home from the honeymoon when the facebook preview went up, and he made me wait until we could pull over to look together, but I think the slideshow was just too much!

jennyleigh16 · August 2015

I'm pissed that I had to put my cat down today. She was 20+ years old and had a myriad of health problems and I know logically it was the right thing but that doesn't make it easier and I'm pissed that FI and I have to deal with it because it's hard as hell. It hasn't quite sunk in yet and the house is going to be way too quiet. This sucks.

paperpusher · August 2015

I'm so sorry for your loss @jennyleigh16.
Losing an animal is never easy. You'll be in my thoughts.

MairePoppy · August 2015

@jennyleigh16 - I'm sorry for your loss.

pinupbride6189 · August 2015

jennyleigh16 said:

I'm pissed that I had to put my cat down today. She was 20+ years old and had a myriad of health problems and I know logically it was the right thing but that doesn't make it easier and I'm pissed that FI and I have to deal with it because it's hard as hell. It hasn't quite sunk in yet and the house is going to be way too quiet. This sucks.

Oh no! I'm so sorry. I know how much this hurts and my heart is aching for you. We recently had to put our 2 year old pup down and my boss wouldn't let me leave to be there, so FI had to do it on his own. It's been months and it still hurts. Sending so many hugs.

sparklepants41 · August 2015

I'm so sorry, @jennyleigh16.

kimmiinthemitten · August 2015

@jennyleigh16 - I can't even imagine, I'm so sorry. I love my two little furbabies!

TNDancer · August 2015

princessleia22 said:

santiago2615 said:

FI was in Florida for work, so we saved our money and bought me a ticket to see him (he would have been gone a month) and the day I was supposed to fly down, he was sent back home. I guess the suits that run his department decided the class he was in was too small and want him and the rest of the class to go back so the class size can be bigger. Ugh, I needed a tan
I also had my yearly pap and apparently the doctor didn't get enough cells so I have to go back for another one. Great, since I already took off of work, can I please get a Saturday appointment? Hahaha, yea, no, I was shot down by his office for a Saturday appointment AND he's out of town until September 1st.
I picked the wrong month to give up booze....

My doc did that to me the last two years (not getting enough cells and having to repeat pap). It's super frustrating. Having one exam a year is enough, plus it's not fair of them to waste our time like that. This year I found a new OBGYN and no problems.

My Dr. said they have changed the health guidelines and now you only need this about every 3 years or so. I thought that was great news!

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