The girl who thinks everyone is copying her wedding

peachy13 · August 2015

One of my friends is extremely protective of her wedding from 2 years ago. She thinks she owns every idea or detail from her wedding and gets so judgmental when she hears that someone else might be doing something similar to her. Her cousin is getting married this year and wants to have a pink peony bouquet. Friend had the same bouquet two years ago and has been snarking about her cousin's choice ever since finding out ("she's clearly copying me!" "She is copying my wedding!").

Now that a few details are coming out to her about my wedding, she has been sneaky snarky to me, a sweet voice comes out of her, but I know she's actually pissed. "Oh, you're doing lanterns for centerpieces, just like me!" "Oh you're doing pie for dessert not cake? That's like, exactly what we did."

I just shrug it off, but to be a little honest it does bother me that she has that big of a head to think that I'm copying her and not just doing what FI and I actually want to do (we love pie) or taking what our venue already provides for us (lanterns). And what I really want to say is: "don't worry, we're not copying everything you did. I'm not going to have a gap between the ceremony and reception or a cash bar."

charcoalandblush · August 2015

peachy13 said:

One of my friends is extremely protective of her wedding from 2 years ago. She thinks she owns every idea or detail from her wedding and gets so judgmental when she hears that someone else might be doing something similar to her. Her cousin is getting married this year and wants to have a pink peony bouquet. Friend had the same bouquet two years ago and has been snarking about her cousin's choice ever since finding out ("she's clearly copying me!" "She is copying my wedding!").

Now that a few details are coming out to her about my wedding, she has been sneaky snarky to me, a sweet voice comes out of her, but I know she's actually pissed. "Oh, you're doing lanterns for centerpieces, just like me!" "Oh you're doing pie for dessert not cake? That's like, exactly what we did."

I just shrug it off, but to be a little honest it does bother me that she has that big of a head to think that I'm copying her and not just doing what FI and I actually want to do (we love pie) or taking what our venue already provides for us (lanterns). And what I really want to say is: "don't worry, we're not copying everything you did. I'm not going to have a gap between the ceremony and reception or a cash bar."

Do itttttt.

I do not mind snarking at people who did shit like that to me. I was FSIL's "personal attendant" (read: wedding slave). She asked me who was going to be my personal attendant and I said "Oh, I'm not having one - I can't imagine asking one of my dearest friends to work the entire day of the wedding! I just want them to have fun and enjoy themselves. Not wait on me hand and foot." Unfortunately, my snark was totally lost on her. Went completely over her head.

Maggie0829 · August 2015

Wow pink peonies and lanterns? So unique! Is this friend of yours crazy? Because seriously all she has to do is look on pinterest and see those same things all over the place (which is probably exactly where she got her ideas from). I would put her in her place. Whenever she says "just like mine!" I would respond with "Sarah, this is not about you or your wedding so shut the hell up." But then again I can't stand people who are all "me, me, me" all the freaking time.

peachy13 · August 2015

charcoalandblush said:

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peachy13 said:

One of my friends is extremely protective of her wedding from 2 years ago. She thinks she owns every idea or detail from her wedding and gets so judgmental when she hears that someone else might be doing something similar to her. Her cousin is getting married this year and wants to have a pink peony bouquet. Friend had the same bouquet two years ago and has been snarking about her cousin's choice ever since finding out ("she's clearly copying me!" "She is copying my wedding!").

Now that a few details are coming out to her about my wedding, she has been sneaky snarky to me, a sweet voice comes out of her, but I know she's actually pissed. "Oh, you're doing lanterns for centerpieces, just like me!" "Oh you're doing pie for dessert not cake? That's like, exactly what we did."

I just shrug it off, but to be a little honest it does bother me that she has that big of a head to think that I'm copying her and not just doing what FI and I actually want to do (we love pie) or taking what our venue already provides for us (lanterns). And what I really want to say is: "don't worry, we're not copying everything you did. I'm not going to have a gap between the ceremony and reception or a cash bar."

Do itttttt.

I do not mind snarking at people who did shit like that to me. I was FSIL's "personal attendant" (read: wedding slave). She asked me who was going to be my personal attendant and I said "Oh, I'm not having one - I can't imagine asking one of my dearest friends to work the entire day of the wedding! I just want them to have fun and enjoy themselves. Not wait on me hand and foot." Unfortunately, my snark was totally lost on her. Went completely over her head.

omg that's great!! I know i did something similar to this same friend recently. For her wedding she had us taking a million posed "getting ready" pictures, and then a billion posed formal pictures after the ceremony (hence the gap). She asked me what we were doing for photos for my wedding and I simply said "as little as possible. I just want you guys to be able to enjoy the wedding, not pose for pictures for 2 hours" whoopes oh well.

lovemesomemonster · August 2015

I find this idea that you can copy a wedding so fantastic! Because nobody has EVER thought of those ideas before you did, and EVERY detail of EVERY wedding is going to be so different.. nope! It's a wedding, for the most part, same general idea and most of them have been done before. This friend sounds like a peach! I find it especially funny because every time I bring up an idea to my BF she offers me stuff she used in her wedding to use in mine, great recycling right there!

julieanne912 · August 2015

OMG I'm having lanterns too. My MOH already has them so they're free. I must be copying her.

charcoalandblush · August 2015

julieanne912 said:

OMG I'm having lanterns too. My MOH already has them so they're free. I must be copying her.

I copied my cousin's card box... because after the wedding she was like "Do you want my card box so you don't have to buy one?" And I was like "Yes." COPYCAT

PamBeesly524 · August 2015

Shit, my cousin copied me by getting MARRIED on her wedding day... I did the same thing! I'm going to go bitch her out...

egirl2015 · August 2015

Tell her not to worry. You are only going to copy the parts of her wedding that didn't suck!

TrixieJess · August 2015

Maggie0829 said:

Wow pink peonies and lanterns? So unique! Is this friend of yours crazy? Because seriously all she has to do is look on pinterest and see those same things all over the place (which is probably exactly where she got her ideas from). I would put her in her place. Whenever she says "just like mine!" I would respond with "Sarah, this is not about you or your wedding so shut the hell up." But then again I can't stand people who are all "me, me, me" all the freaking time.

I was going to say, just show her your Pinterest page and say, isn't this where you got your ideas?

HappyAnjel · August 2015

I have a few friends getting married.. One who is doing the same colors (the nerve of her..

) I have offered for her to go through the stuff I have left.. And the others use of any thing non color specific (candles, vases etc.) I would take it as a compliment if people do the same things as it means they enjoyed it at ours! But I certainly wouldn't pretend I own the rights to candy buffets at weddings.. Or am the only person to have had cupcakes/pie instead of a cake.. That's just silly.

randomslove · August 2015

So who am I copying by having cheesecake?

frenchiekin · August 2015

Or people who are offended when their friends use the same venues or vendors as they did. One of my BMs is getting married next year and is really not into planning. She sheepishly asked if she could look into my florist, but ONLY if I wouldn't mind, and NO BIG DEAL if I did. Duh, of course you can have her contact info! We love our vendors so much that sending more business their way would be awesome. You wanna use our venue? Cool. I already know all the ins and outs of it so less work for others. I don't understand why some people are so protective of their weddings.

[Deleted User] · August 2015

randomslove said:

So who am I copying by having cheesecake?

Who am I copying by having a tiered Tower O' Cheese?

fyrchk · August 2015

Did she have burlap and lace? Because NO ONE has done that before.

Please, please, please make the comment about the gap and cash bar. That would be amazing.

ShesSoCold · August 2015

randomslove said:

So who am I copying by having cheesecake?

Me. You better not feed him that shit. H and I were clearly the first and only people in history to feed each other cheesecake.

[Deleted User] · August 2015

frenchiekin said:

Or people who are offended when their friends use the same venues or vendors as they did. One of my BMs is getting married next year and is really not into planning. She sheepishly asked if she could look into my florist, but ONLY if I wouldn't mind, and NO BIG DEAL if I did. Duh, of course you can have her contact info! We love our vendors so much that sending more business their way would be awesome. You wanna use our venue? Cool. I already know all the ins and outs of it so less work for others. I don't understand why some people are so protective of their weddings.

"I love my vendors so much I never want them to make money again."

futurecptkirk · August 2015

I really don't understand this. My bff is getting married 4 months after me and is using none of the same vendors as me. I'm actually slightly hurt because I LOVE my vendors and want everyone to use them! But then again her style is completely different from mine so it makes sense.

Also I am planning a party perfect for me and I'm not even going to get to enjoy it, so I would love for someone to copycat my entire wedding and that way I can sit back and enjoy the party I wanted.

lembaslover · August 2015

Oh no! I loved my friends' wedding website on theknot and thought it was super useful so I decided to make one when I got engaged and started planning my wedding. That led me to these forums and to all the wonderful advice I've received. I guess that makes me a copycat haha.

I think it's perfectly normal to see something you like at a wedding and use it at your own. Likewise avoiding things you didn't like at weddings. I guess it'd be weird if your wedding looked identical but picking the same color flowers or similar centerpieces is no big deal at all.

lyndausvi · August 2015

I've been to a few weddings since I've gotten married. Did you know some of those bitches wore white dresses just like me? Those fucking bitches I tell you.

randomslove · August 2015

lyndausvi said:

I've been to a few weddings since I've gotten married. Did you know some of those bitches wore white dresses just like me? Those fucking bitches I tell you.

You've gotta be kidding. There's no way they missed that you wore one. That's why I'm wearing ivory. NO one wears ivory.

futurecptkirk · August 2015

@randomslove my dress is ivory... Why are you copying me?!

frenchiekin · August 2015

futurecptkirk said:

@randomslove my dress is ivory... Why are you copying me?!

How dare you both! Mine is ivory and I DEFINITELY bought mine first. At least mine has a train so it's different from everyone else's.

randomslove · August 2015

That's it. I'm dying my dress pink! Anyone else who does this must be copying me.

futurecptkirk · August 2015

@frenchiekin mine also has a train... Well shit. One of us is changing.

TNDancer · August 2015

adk19 said:

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randomslove said:

So who am I copying by having cheesecake?

Who am I copying by having a tiered Tower O' Cheese?

Cheese tower? Do explain!

frenchiekin · August 2015

futurecptkirk said:

@frenchiekin mine also has a train... Well shit. One of us is changing.

I will totally fucking fight you! IT'S MY DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

TrixieJess · August 2015

TNDancer said:
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adk19 said:

randomslove said:

So who am I copying by having cheesecake?

Who am I copying by having a tiered Tower O' Cheese?

Cheese tower? Do explain!

Yes, do.

futurecptkirk · August 2015

Uhhh @frenchiekin I just creeped on your profile because I thought I saw you on the October 2015 board, but your wedding is 10/3/15 right? Are we the same person... Same wedding date, same dress color, both have trains...

[Deleted User] · August 2015

TrixieJess said:

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adk19 said:

randomslove said:

So who am I copying by having cheesecake?

Who am I copying by having a tiered Tower O' Cheese?

Cheese tower? Do explain!
Yes, do.

Saw it on Pinterest. A large bottom tier of something like a cheddar round, a smaller bleu cheese round, and top round of brie; decorated with grapes. Now, if any of you copy me and my Pinterest find, I'll cut you!

like this... http://www.myersbakery.co.uk/library/CHEESE_CAKE.jpg

TrixieJess · August 2015

adk19 said:
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TrixieJess said:

TNDancer said:

adk19 said:

randomslove said:

So who am I copying by having cheesecake?

Who am I copying by having a tiered Tower O' Cheese?

Cheese tower? Do explain!

Yes, do.

Saw it on Pinterest. A large bottom tier of something like a cheddar round, a smaller bleu cheese round, and top round of brie; decorated with grapes. Now, if any of you copy me and my Pinterest find, I'll cut you!

like this... http://www.myersbakery.co.uk/library/CHEESE_CAKE.jpg

I don't want that for my wedding, I want that for my Saturday night! Bring on a case of wine for that.

ETA: my 12 year old self just thought enough about this and how you would be "cutting the cheese".

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