We have said that we would really like to have our wedding "kid free", and since this is our second wedding almost nobody we know has kids we thought that this wouldn't be an issue. We have a firm number of 100 for supper. My matron of honor has 7 kids. Oldest one is married with baby, second oldest engaged, then range in age to the youngest of 5. When her son got married last year and she put on the wedding we drove 7 hours to wedding and we were NOT invited for supper. Now we are having issues with asking if there is any way the kids could stay with their grandma for the supper portion(she lives closer). She has said the kids are there for the day and that her granddaughter is coming as well(will just be 1) Now this means her family alone is 12 people for supper. I have already explained that she will probably be busy all day between hair/make up/pictures/ceremony/pictures to chase kids around, so would be good to have someone watch them. She said they will just spend the day with us????? We now have to cut family out to serve them? How can I ask her to not bring the kids?