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Is it too much?
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Hello beautiful women!
I've been trying to put a lot of thought into my favors because I honest can't stand useless favors when o go to weddings. I also have this thing about not wanting it to be edible because there's already going to be a ton of food. I've come up with a few ideas so far but I wanted to get your opinion on this one: baroque pearl pendant necklaces (photo attached). They are made by a local vendor and they are beautiful. I also would be getting them for $8 each (normally $15 each). I would obviously only be getting these for the females in attendance and have a different favor for the males. While my wedding is not on the beach, we are having it in a hotel right next to the beach, so I thought that was a cool tie-in with the pearl necklace.
My question is: is this too much for a favor (not financially, I'm fine with the price)? Is it too "uppity"? If you received this as a favor at a wedding what would your feelings be? I would love to know your thoughts/opinions!
I've been trying to put a lot of thought into my favors because I honest can't stand useless favors when o go to weddings. I also have this thing about not wanting it to be edible because there's already going to be a ton of food. I've come up with a few ideas so far but I wanted to get your opinion on this one: baroque pearl pendant necklaces (photo attached). They are made by a local vendor and they are beautiful. I also would be getting them for $8 each (normally $15 each). I would obviously only be getting these for the females in attendance and have a different favor for the males. While my wedding is not on the beach, we are having it in a hotel right next to the beach, so I thought that was a cool tie-in with the pearl necklace.
My question is: is this too much for a favor (not financially, I'm fine with the price)? Is it too "uppity"? If you received this as a favor at a wedding what would your feelings be? I would love to know your thoughts/opinions!
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Re: Is it too much?
If you don't want to do a edible favor in the sense of truffles or cookies, I'd think about something that's edible-ish (ie: something that doesn't need to be consumed quickly). You said it's a beach wedding, you maybe you could find a great dry spice rub for fish, or maybe provide the mixers and recipe for a local cocktail. You could also think about something like a regional jam or jelly. Sure, not all of those types of favors might go but you'd probably be able to re-purpose a dozen jars of spice rub more easily than a dozen nearly identical necklaces.
Jewelry is a personal thing. I do not like the necklaces that much. Plus I have one necklace that I wear every single day. It does not come off ever.
Stick with something they can consume quickly. That way even if you have left overs there is a good chance you can use them or give them to others.
I don't want other people buying me jewelry unless it has sentimental value or they are extremely close to me and know my taste (and I've actually had people close to me guess what I'll like based on what they've seen me wear and they've been very wrong). Despite my massive jewelry collection, I'm picky.
I have a few friends who love mixing up their jewelry like I do, though their collections aren't quite as large. But I have even more friends who really just aren't into jewelry. The majority of them are like some of the women above. They either have one very special necklace they wear 24/7 or they don't like necklaces or they just don't like or wear jewelry other than their wedding bands. They'd probably take them because they'd feel badly about you spending so much money, but they would totally get regifted or put in a Goodwill box if they aren't left behind.
I really think you'll be wasting your money. I know you don't want edible, but it's universal. Everyone eats. Not everyone wears jewelry. Remember that the favor is about them, not about you showing off what you like - it's a thank you to your guests. Heck, you don't even need favors - they aren't required.
ETA: And just out of curiosity, what is the men's favor? What if I, potentially being a woman who just isn't into jewelry, want the men's favor instead? Are you going to have enough of both favors to accommodate? Or is the men's favor going to be as equally gender-specific?
And if you're saving $8/person, you could add some fun apps to cocktail hour, extend the reception by an hour, upgrade your honeymoon, etc.
If you don't want edible, hire a photo booth. Favors would be the strips of photos.
Another vote for too much. Great item for brides maids, but not so much for guests. I get not wanting to do something edible. So here is an idea that I was going to do, but due to the time of year my wedding was, figured it wasn't a good idea. Paper with seeds in it. They plant the items in the spring or in a flower pot, and when the flowers are blooming, they will think of your wedding. I opted not to do it because with having a late fall wedding in Ohio, I figured the majority of the guests would lose the item before it was time to plant it in the ground.
http://www.botanicalpaperworks.com/catalog/wedding-collection/plantable-seed-wedding-favors/01447/plantable-shape-seed-paper-wedding-favors
I'm in the "no" group on this. While I love a nice stone pendant, really, for $8 the metal is going to tarnish in a short amount of time and then what do you do with it. For that matter you could purchase brooches in a neutral shape (i.e. snowflake, fall leaf, spring basket)for your female guests and they'd be something more likely to be worn depending on where you are in the country..
For $8 you could purchase individually boxed up cupcakes/muffins and set them on the table where guests will be leaving to take with them. I know you're NAF of edible favors - but the reason they're usually a hit is because they're "Neutral to the masses".
In all seriousness edibles are by far way more crowd pleasing. Just skip favors and save the money or upgrade the booze (if you're having any) or the food.