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Uninvited people asking to come to the church

Penguins1987Penguins1987 member
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Hi Everyone! 

How do you handle it when someone who was not invited to the wedding tells you they would like to attend the ceremony? 

An old teacher of mine that I have stayed in contact with (maybe 1-2x a year -- she always calls to wish me a happy birthday) has texted me for the church information so she can come. I am flattered that she would like to and am happy to have her there, I just want to send back an appropriate response. 

I was thinking something along the lines of, "I'm so flattered that you'd like to come, I would love to see you and have you meet Mr. Penguin. It's at XXX at 12pm. Looking forward to seeing you!" 

Is that okay? I always feel bad when people that actually WANT to come weren't invited especially when I know there are some grumbly "must-invite" people. 
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    STARMOON44STARMOON44 member
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    I think that's fine. You're not inviting her, you're just giving her information about an event that, in my church, is officially public that other members of the congregation often attend. I love stopping by to see people I sang in the choir with or volunteered with get married!
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    thisismynickname2thisismynickname2 member
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    My opinion is that since you're having a church wedding (which is public), your response is fine. I presume she knows she's not invited to the reception? 
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    Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    If your church has an open door policy, where services are public events, then your response is fine.
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    AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Sounds good to me provided the church service is public.
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    [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    She's only asked about the ceremony information and not the reception, so I think you are good with giving her the information. I think depending on who is asking you and the situation, it's ok to do that. Like I wasn't close enough to any of my bridal party members parents to invite them to the wedding/reception due to budget. But if any of them would have asked if they could come to the ceremony so they could see them all dressed up, I would have said yes.
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    SP29SP29 member
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    That sounds sweet.

    Because your ceremony is in a public place, anyone can attend.

    Perhaps send her a wedding announcement with photo/ photo card after with a nice note.
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