Most dreaded wedding moments?

julieanne912 · August 2015

Right now mine is just not getting everything done in the morning. We're doing all the set up ourselves starting at 8am and I really want to be done with it by noon so my MOH (who has self volunteered herself to be my "coordinator"), myself, and my folks can just relax and get ready at a leisurely pace.

Also I really hope it doesn't rain or isn't awful hot. September is usually really nice in Colorado but this year our weather has been so wacky I can't be too sure.

[Deleted User] · August 2015

julieanne912 said:

Right now mine is just not getting everything done in the morning. We're doing all the set up ourselves starting at 8am and I really want to be done with it by noon so my MOH (who has self volunteered herself to be my "coordinator"), myself, and my folks can just relax and get ready at a leisurely pace.

Also I really hope it doesn't rain or isn't awful hot. September is usually really nice in Colorado but this year our weather has been so wacky I can't be too sure.

My future in-laws opened a wedding venue this year, so of course that's where our wedding is. And it's nice because I'll be able to go a few days early to set up. However I'm sure I will be rushing around the morning of, trying to take care of everything I forgot. So I hear ya there! And the Sept. weather part too, of course.

katenan89 · August 2015

Reception space would have only been reset for the ceremony due to rain. As it was, it turned out beautifully! There was a good breeze, people brought sun parisols, and the water bottles went off beautifully. I guess all the anxiety wasn't worth it in the long run!

MissKittyDanger · August 2015

Everything I was nervous about went really smooth.

walking down the aisle - between having people stare at me and the fact my dad wasn't around to do it made me feel really upset. {went smoothly}

clinking the glasses - i wasn't big on this. my mother is so it happened. it got to a point that H & I were near by, and just kissed our mothers. I swear it got more cheers lol

first dance - I wanted to practice. we hadn't danced together really {like once and it wasn't even the full song} but one of my fave photos actually happened during that time. It felt like a perfect moment

garter removal - omg I wasn't even sure if this was going to happen because we had to stretch out the garter for a month before. I was saying by to a friend who was heading out early, so I ran into the hall putting my garter on. It was still tight so he accidentally grazed my thigh with his teeth.

honestly, best thing I can say to those worrying about upcoming wedding is that everything you're worried about will go smoothly. promise

Vivandiere8 · August 2015

The garter toss if it means the guy is going to put it on the leg of the girl who caught the bouquet. (We did not do a garter toss)

The cake smash in the face. Hate it. It's not funny, cute, spontaneous and unique any more. Every other couple does it.

MegEn1 · August 2015

I'm worried about one thing likely not to happen and one thing bound to happen:

Unlikely: The family of a little girl not asked to be a flower member but who bullied us into having her 'pass out programs' so she can dress up in the same dress as the flower girl will shove said program girl down the aisle. The whole thing has left such a bad taste in my mouth that if that side of the family forces the issue I'm going to be very cranky.

No Way To Avoid It Now: Getting my dress hemmed was going to be too expensive due to detailing, so I need 4 inch shoes to make it work. I only ever wear 2-2.5 inch shoes. Face meet pavement.

spockforprez · September 2015

Father-daughter dance. Have a complicated relationship with my dad - not a bad one, just never 100% sure where we are. I'm not afraid of people watching; I'm afraid it will be awkward and I really, really want it to be a sweet moment. I hope we can do it.

That everyone will leave early because they are bored out of their minds.

That one or both of my brothers will get too drunk and act obnoxious.

That my social anxiety-ridden fiancé (who insisted we have a wedding instead of eloping) won't enjoy the evening.

That we aren't prepared well enough and something major logistics-related (like food or rentals) goes wrong.

Ummm basically everything so I'm gonna stop writing this now.

AJC430 · September 2015

Babies crying during the vows at my adult only ceremony/reception.

ryanandjoe4 · September 2015

My FSIL making it all about her and ruining the party i worked hard to plan again, she ruined his birthday party i spent two months planning after he proposed to me with out her involvement.... we didn't cut his cake, his family left with out so much as a goodbye to me, and yes over a year later it still frustrates me, and makes me think she is going to do the same at the wedding, but I have a Mother and a wonderful MOH that will be there to stop her.. and I have already warned FI that I will not refrain from saying anything to her, since she doesn't care about others feelings why should we care about hers..

Also my nervous getting the best of me, tripping, and just family drama..

[Deleted User] · September 2015

My fear is walking down the aisle, all eyes on me. I'm pretty social but strongly dislike that kind of attention. I am worried I'll cry too much. Also worried about uninvited guests. And worried that no one will show up. No crazy fears here. Oh, well I guess I'm also worried I'll spill food all over myself when I eat. I'm clumsy.

[Deleted User] · September 2015

My Parents haven't been in the same room in over 35 years. And an empty dance floor. I'm focusing on the dance floor cause I can't wrap my head around the first. I will be 37 when I marry.

Also, My FI does not talk to his parents and they are not invited to the wedding, I'm worried about him feeling bad or left out of certian traditions...

[Deleted User] · September 2015

@OllisaurusRex

we have to have security at our event, and his parents and brother will be on a NOT WELCOME list. I feel your pain.

ChelleJayne · September 2015

My family doesn't have the best luck with weddings.

At my parent's wedding, the Best Man fainted 3 times during the ceremony and left on a gurney. It took my mom almost a year and a half after the wedding to get her pictures, the photographer died in a motorcycle accident 2 months after the wedding.

At my sister's wedding, my BIL left in an ambulance because he had an acid reflux attack. He actually did the garter toss from the gurney. My sister didn't get her dream wedding night because my BIL was so drugged up.

At my brother's wedding, my SIL's brother passed out mid-ceremony because he locked his knees while standing there (it was an outdoor wedding, in September in San Diego). So the paramedics showed up after the ceremony and took a look at him, he just got over heated. He made it in to the pictures (but he was rather pale).

This being my family history with weddings, I'm absolutely dreading what will happen at mine. I keep praying and hoping it goes off without a hitch.

Knottie2336241 · November 2015

I'm worried my fmil will show u stoned, and her fiancé will be drunk. I am pretty sure my son will be stoned,

danindi · November 2015

I was at a wedding not long ago where the officiant spent 2-3 full minutes just talking about himself and then worked in a casually racist joke, framing it as something the groom said (he did not). Then at the end, during the vows, he said ".....and do you vow to name your first-born son or daughter after me" I was trying to keep a neutral face since I was in her sightline but MAN it was hard.

Knottie1438018253 · November 2015

OllisaurusRex said:

My mother and the monster showing up. To the point we are hiring security. If she gets the date and location, I fully expect a lawn tantrum and police being called. Sigh.

holy crap

Jen4948 · December 2015

Mine has changed. While I still get nervous to some extent that my parents will be more focused on their grandchildren, I'm even more nervous that someone (my mother in particular) will have a medical emergency on or right before my wedding, resulting in an overnight hospital or bed stay, so they can't attend except by web-streaming.

lembaslover · December 2015

danindi said:

I was at a wedding not long ago where the officiant spent 2-3 full minutes just talking about himself and then worked in a casually racist joke, framing it as something the groom said (he did not). Then at the end, during the vows, he said ".....and do you vow to name your first-born son or daughter after me" I was trying to keep a neutral face since I was in her sightline but MAN it was hard.

I wonder if that's the same officiant as my SIL! He kept making jokes throughout the entire ceremony, I thought it was extremely inappropriate and would have been mad if he were officiating our wedding. They just awkwardly laughed and got through it well. I guess that's all you can do if that happens.

kimmiinthemitten · December 2015

I have about 10 stairs to walk down before entering the aisle, so to speak, so I'm terrified of slipping and falling.

MissKittyDanger · December 2015

kimmiinthemitten said:

I have about 10 stairs to walk down before entering the aisle, so to speak, so I'm terrified of slipping and falling.

If you can, scuff up the bottom of your shoes to create traction! I didn't have shoes I could do that, so any stairs I did the side step idea

glasgowtolondon · December 2015

First dance for sure.

I really don't want to do one at all, but FI is keen...I don't know, there's still 10 months to go so I might be able to change his mind!

MegEn1 · December 2015

Jen4948 said:

Mine has changed. While I still get nervous to some extent that my parents will be more focused on their grandchildren, I'm even more nervous that someone (my mother in particular) will have a medical emergency on or right before my wedding, resulting in an overnight hospital or bed stay, so they can't attend except by web-streaming.

We actually almost had this happen -- cousin had an allergic reaction at rehearsal dinner and spent the night in the hospital. He was fine though thank God and he made it to the wedding.

JamieLynn913 · December 2015

Wow I guess I never really thought about this. My biggest one is crying. I get very emotional at times and I feel like my wedding will turn on the waterworks.

Family drama. My family is super intense and there are some members coming that don't talk to each other (long story) but I obviously talk to all them so I'm hoping I can separate them far enough to not have to deal with that.

And the glass clinking. I never was a fan and I'm hoping nobody does it more than once.

MissKittyDanger · December 2015

JamieLynn913 said:

Wow I guess I never really thought about this. My biggest one is crying. I get very emotional at times and I feel like my wedding will turn on the waterworks.

Family drama. My family is super intense and there are some members coming that don't talk to each other (long story) but I obviously talk to all them so I'm hoping I can separate them far enough to not have to deal with that.

And the glass clinking. I never was a fan and I'm hoping nobody does it more than once.

One thing you can do if they do it multiple times, is find a nearby relative and kiss them instead. H and I were wandering around talking to people, and people started clinking. We were near our mothers, so we kissed them. Everyone seemed to love it more than us kissing.

kimmiinthemitten · December 2015

JamieLynn913 said:

Wow I guess I never really thought about this. My biggest one is crying. I get very emotional at times and I feel like my wedding will turn on the waterworks.

Family drama. My family is super intense and there are some members coming that don't talk to each other (long story) but I obviously talk to all them so I'm hoping I can separate them far enough to not have to deal with that.

And the glass clinking. I never was a fan and I'm hoping nobody does it more than once.

Sitb

Oh crying for me is a given. Now that the wedding feels real, I cry at everything, so my closeted emotional side is now my open side. I cry thinking about it, when FI is sweet, at movies, certain songs, that stupid Amazon commercial where the mini pony is bullied and gets a doggie door. I'm a big of ball of love and I leak from the eyes often! I'll be a wreck the day of, advanced shout out to Benefit Erase Paste for saving the day haha.

ETA: the words that Jamo forgot

zerostarzombie · February 2016

I'm absolutely nervous on how the FI and I's families will mingle. My mom and step-dad already don't get along well with my FI's parents because they have two totally different mindsets. Example being my FI's dad does not want to come to our wedding tasting tomorrow afternoon because he doesn't "feel comfortable participating in something he's not paying for." They had a huge disagreement when we bought our house last year as well, passively fighting over stupid things, putting FI and I in the middle.

Other than that, I'm worried about stumbling my words for vows and being an absolute mess.

ShesSoCold · February 2016

zerostarzombie said:

I'm absolutely nervous on how the FI and I's families will mingle. My mom and step-dad already don't get along well with my FI's parents because they have two totally different mindsets. Example being my FI's dad does not want to come to our wedding tasting tomorrow afternoon because he doesn't "feel comfortable participating in something he's not paying for." They had a huge disagreement when we bought our house last year as well, passively fighting over stupid things, putting FI and I in the middle.

Other than that, I'm worried about stumbling my words for vows and being an absolute mess.

Why are you involving them in these things then? You FFIL flat out said he did not want to come to the tasting - are you pushing him to come? What could they possibly argue over when you bought a house? H and I just bought our first house and the extent of our parent involvement has been a text and a link telling them that we made an offer on a house. That's it. I don't get why you keep involving them these kinds of things.

tigerlily6 · February 2016

Probably most concerned about some of our guests getting offended or upset if they find out FI and I have been living with one another before we got married. Some of my parents friends are VERY conservative (for example, I know one didn't even let her own daughter visit the house her FH bought for them without somebody "chaperoning" until after they got married, because she thought it was too scandalous to let them hang out in a house on their own, let alone live together). It isn't something that is being broadcasted, but I could easily see them hearing about it from somebody at the wedding since our families and personal friends all know -- I mean, the Best Man or Maid of Honor could innocuously reference visiting "Bride and Groom at their house" in a speech. I don't care that much what they think about me personally, but I'd feel bad if it caused gossip against or drama for my parents. I guess if it happens, that's on them for inviting those guests. But I still cringe thinking about it.

lembaslover · February 2016

MissKittyDanger said:

JamieLynn913 said:

Wow I guess I never really thought about this. My biggest one is crying. I get very emotional at times and I feel like my wedding will turn on the waterworks.

Family drama. My family is super intense and there are some members coming that don't talk to each other (long story) but I obviously talk to all them so I'm hoping I can separate them far enough to not have to deal with that.

And the glass clinking. I never was a fan and I'm hoping nobody does it more than once.

One thing you can do if they do it multiple times, is find a nearby relative and kiss them instead. H and I were wandering around talking to people, and people started clinking. We were near our mothers, so we kissed them. Everyone seemed to love it more than us kissing.

I know I'm kind of late on this one but DH's grandma must have clinked her glass about a dozen times. It was funny at first but after the 10th time I told him we should go kiss her on the cheek next time. Well we did and it was really funny. She loved it. She's really sweet and funny and well I was just so happy that day honestly I didn't care as much as I thought I would.

I also am a big crier. I swear we can turn to a channel with a wedding on a commercial and I start tearing up (I literally can't watch the ASPCA commercials or I'm just sad and crying for an extended period of time). I did cry some on our wedding day (happy tears!!) but not as much as I thought I would. Most of it was at the alter and it wasn't like ugly crying just a small stream of tears. It'll be ok, just remember to blot not rub to keep your makeup intact.

OurWildKingdom · February 2016

Tears - I cry at everything, happy, sad, indifferent.
Trying to manage the guest list. Right now we have 131 people for a venue that only holds 120. FW keeps trying to remind me that some people are going to say no, but I still worry.
Health emergencies in either of our families or in our circle of friends.
No one wanting to dance.
Money. I'm taking on a side job and freelance work to pay for everything. FW is not happy about it but accepts that we need the extra money.
Running out of steam from all the DIY I'm going to be doing.

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