A friend from school is having a private wedding. She made a Facebook event for a celebration afterwards at a local bar and invited all of our school friends to the event. The invite isn't clear, but it sounds like they reserved the private dining area but it's a pay-for-your-own-drinks sort of situation. It's not a wedding reception so much as an informal "hey we'll be at this bar celebrating that we got married! come and celebrate with us!"
DH wasn't invited to the Facebook event. The friend getting married isn't Facebook friends with DH, so I'm not sure if she could have even invited him anyway. Would it be totally out of line for me to ask her if he's invited? His feelings won't be hurt if he's not, I just don't want to look super rude by showing up with him if SOs aren't invited.