Hi all, I'm new here as I just got engaged last Saturday!
So, I'm originally from NYC. My parents now live in Florida. I live in Texas, as does my fiancee's family- albeit 3+ hours from us. The rest of my family lives between Mass and DC. So really anywhere would be a destination wedding for a large percentage of our guests.
We settled on NYC, getting married where my parents did. Not an issue for any family members, but fiancee has indicated it may be an issue for some of his friends (he hasn't spoken with any of them about it, he just thinks it will be) and they may not be able to attend.
So fiancee wants to have 'another reception' in Texas after we get back from our honeymoon, which most likely puts us in early/mid november, which means the "easy fun ranch party" (held at the back of the ranch where I board my horses) won't be easy or fun because most likely it will be cold and rainy. And if by chance it's sunny, the ground will still be very very muddy--which is how it is from late October through April every.single.year.
Plus, I don't really see why we *need* to have another party, all of our family will be at the main event. AND the ranch is at least 2.5 hours away for most of his friends anyway, so they'd still need to get a hotel. Plus, do I then invite those people who also came to the wedding? That seems silly and odd. But if not, then it's us and 10-15 people... so why bother? Not that they aren't important, but why don't we just go down to where they all live one weekend and have a big dinner or something- I feel like that would make more sense. But Fiancee wants it to be like a second reception... outside in the mud...
I'd feel differently if we were going to Italy or Aruba or something to get married and only inviting 15-20 people, but we're having a full wedding/reception already, and all the people we'd invite to the 'second reception' would already be invited to the wedding and declined to attend...
What do those with more wedding experience say?