My MOH is planning a shower for my local friends and my FI's side of the family. My mom is hosting a shower in my hometown for my side of the family. My FMIL was very specific in making sure all of her friends and family were invited to the wedding. When reviewing the list of invitees for the shower she had me remove all of her friends and family except for herself and my FI's aunts because she "did not expect anyone to have to buy a gift for the shower" my MOH and other bridesmaids think that they should invite these women anyway. I am not sure what to do?