Anyone turned uninvitees away?

Re: Anyone turned uninvitees away?

• lovesclimbing member

  

  December 2015

  So it sounds like no one here, so far, has actually asked people to leave, but a couple of you know people who have.
  
  Thanks for the responses and satisfying my curiosity.

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• drunkenwitch member

  

  December 2015

  LD1970 said:

  No, though we wanted to.  
  
  We did a first look so we could be at our cocktail hour, and when we got there, a college friend and his wife, who were invited, had the wife's daughter with them.  We did not invite kids.  And had we invited kids, there were several we actually know and love who would have made the list... this girl was not one of them.  I had met her twice, and I think my H had met her once, if at all.  She was nice enough, but meant exactly zero in our lives.
  
  Also, they live one town away from where the wedding took place, so about 15 minutes away.  No joke.  And the ceremony & reception were all at the one venue, so the total time they'd be out would be 5.5 hours (1/2 hour ceremony, 1 hour cocktail hour, 4 hour reception) if they chose to stay for the whole shebang.
  
  I was pissed, and I think it showed on my face, because the kid's mother said, "Oh, she just had to see you in your pretty dress!"  What I thought was, "Oh no, she fucking didn't."  But I was being pulled in 47 different directions with congratulations and greetings, and wanted to enjoy my food and drink, so what I said was, "Thanks for coming."
  
  I was passive aggressive about it, though.  I didn't find them the maitre d', I didn't tell anyone about them, so when they got to their table, there was no seat or place setting for the kid, and they had the embarrassing job of straightening it out and getting a place set up for the kid.  Not my job, not my H's job.  We did our job - we hosted all of our actual guests wonderfully, assigned tables, and did the escort cards in such a way that we were actually complimented on the seating arrangements because people were so happy with the people at their tables.
  
  We did have a couple no-shows, last minute illnesses, so the kid didn't end up costing us more, which was good because I'd have been absolutely furious.  This was not exactly an inexpensive wedding; it was formal, and it was pricey per head.
  
  Except for sending them a thank you card for their gift, I haven't spoken to them since.

  A perfect example of "not my monkeys, not my circus". They brought the uninvited guest, they can deal with the consequences.

  

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• TheCheeseWench member

  

  December 2015

  alexnicole452647 said:

  lovegood90 said:

  alexnicole452647 said:

  H's much younger cousin kept nagging about her bf not being invited. When her father got sick last minute she took the opportunity to offer to bring her bf instead (we had given a lower head count just in case which I suggest because you can always add) but at that point I just said F it and let her...they have since broken up.
  
  I was also at a friends wedding where an uninvited guest showed up as a plus one (I blame her bf), they had no seat for her and she was incredibly embarrassed.  The bride and groom accommodated her, I feel like it's best to unless it is a bunch of people or someone who may ruin your day.  Otherwise a small incident may overshadow your big day. 

  Oof. Sorry but you guys are in the wrong here. You should have invited her BF from the beginning. 

  They were very on and off and she was in high school, I didn't thing it was necessary to invite a high school bf.

  Nope, HS Children (yes, in this instance I consider you still to count as a child in HS) do not require an invite for their bf/gf.
  
  

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