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Maggie0829 · December 2015

thefanciestbeckler said:

ShesSoCold said:

I too would love to be a 1950s SAHW. No career goals here and I'd be happy to cook and clean all day and put a ribbon in my hair when H came home from work.
Plus then I could have/foster all the puppies.

So much this. I've asked DH before "jokingly" if I could be a stay at home dog mom. Except I was partially serious. He said no.

I honestly think I would be a nicer, more productive person if I didn't have the pressure of going to work every day.

So much this! Going to work makes me miserable. And for 8 hours all I do is think about all the crap I need to do when I get home. Eliminating the job equals no more being miserable and having all the time in the world to get my to do list done.

Not sure how unpopular this is, but I hate, with a capital H, NYE. I do not understand the hoopla. "Yay, lets all count down from 10 and cheer when midnight comes". Gag me!

labro · December 2015

Maggie0829 said:

thefanciestbeckler said:

ShesSoCold said:

I too would love to be a 1950s SAHW. No career goals here and I'd be happy to cook and clean all day and put a ribbon in my hair when H came home from work.
Plus then I could have/foster all the puppies.

So much this. I've asked DH before "jokingly" if I could be a stay at home dog mom. Except I was partially serious. He said no.

I honestly think I would be a nicer, more productive person if I didn't have the pressure of going to work every day.

So much this! Going to work makes me miserable. And for 8 hours all I do is think about all the crap I need to do when I get home. Eliminating the job equals no more being miserable and having all the time in the world to get my to do list done.

Not sure how unpopular this is, but I hate, with a capital H, NYE. I do not understand the hoopla. "Yay, lets all count down from 10 and cheer when midnight comes". Gag me!

I'll be completely honest. I enjoy NYE because it usually means going to someone else's house for a party and getting to drink their booze instead of mine.

madamerwin · December 2015

sparklepants41 said:

I don't like gin.

madamerwin, I also think eggnog is disgusting.

Can't stand country music.

I might be the one person on the planet who loves Jethro Tull.

I detest Frozen - and any other movie that has random pointless singing about nothing.

And my Number One Super Embarrassing UO: I actually wish the Spice Girls would get back together and record another album.

I agree with all of this. Lets be friends.

julieanne912 said:

Mine is.... I'd be perfectly happy to be a stay at home wife. Like just spend my day cleaning the house and cooking a nice meal and going to the gym so I can look nice for my husband. It's so 1950s but I'd be totally ok with it.

Me too.

lyndausvi · December 2015

labro said:

@kimmiinthemitten I hate quote trees. But anyway, I think it's great they are making those jobs available....but that doesn't stop the rent from ballooning, from formerly cheap buildings being sold and renovated into ultra trendy and expensive condos or townhomes. The people who used to live and work in those areas are priced out of them. So even with the jobs, they end up moving elsewhere, and that leads into a whole slew of transportation issues with getting to the job itself. I dunno. I has opinions.

@banana468 H grew a beard for a few months last winter. It wasn't HORRIBLE, but I got tired of it and just didn't like how it looked or how it felt and asked him to shave it off. I still just don't care for facial hair period.

@julieanne912 You stated my dream to a t. I can think of nothing more I'd love to do other than not work so I had more times for the things I actually liked. I have zero problem with having primary responsibility for cooking meals or managing the house because then I'd have sooooo much more me time to exercise, volunteer, etc.

I was going to comment on the same thing. Fixing up old houses is great. But if they are not deed restrict to remain affordable housing then rents will just balloon. Forcing out workers who would work at grocery store.

It happens often. Heck, it happens here in my little town. Most workers have to live 45+ commute because they can't afford to live in the area. There are some deed restricted affordable housing available. Get this, you can make over 6 figures and still be eligible for affordable housing. That is how high the rents are around here.

julieanne912 · December 2015

On Adele, I actually loved her first album the best... it was fantastic. I saw her on Saturday Night Live in 2008 and went and bought the album that next day. I had it on replay in my car. Her second one was good as well, although a bit more depressing (although I was into that at the time).

But that Hello song is so damn annoying, I haven't even listened to the rest of her new album and probably won't get around to it.

holyguacamole79 · December 2015

I'm also meh regarding NYE. It's overpriced and a bit too hyped up. Although, last year, H and I went away to a small resort on a lake. The local sherriff's department had a "private" fireworks display (not too private when it's over a lake). Our room was on the 14th floor of the hotel overlooking the fireworks over the lake. At that height, a lot of the fireworks were at eye-level. It was AMAZING.

sparklepants41 · December 2015

madamerwin said:

sparklepants41 said:

I don't like gin.

madamerwin, I also think eggnog is disgusting.

Can't stand country music.

I might be the one person on the planet who loves Jethro Tull.

I detest Frozen - and any other movie that has random pointless singing about nothing.

And my Number One Super Embarrassing UO: I actually wish the Spice Girls would get back together and record another album.

I agree with all of this. Lets be friends.

julieanne912 said:

Mine is.... I'd be perfectly happy to be a stay at home wife. Like just spend my day cleaning the house and cooking a nice meal and going to the gym so I can look nice for my husband. It's so 1950s but I'd be totally ok with it.

Me too.

Maggie0829 · December 2015

labro said:

Maggie0829 said:

thefanciestbeckler said:

ShesSoCold said:

I too would love to be a 1950s SAHW. No career goals here and I'd be happy to cook and clean all day and put a ribbon in my hair when H came home from work.
Plus then I could have/foster all the puppies.

So much this. I've asked DH before "jokingly" if I could be a stay at home dog mom. Except I was partially serious. He said no.

I honestly think I would be a nicer, more productive person if I didn't have the pressure of going to work every day.

So much this! Going to work makes me miserable. And for 8 hours all I do is think about all the crap I need to do when I get home. Eliminating the job equals no more being miserable and having all the time in the world to get my to do list done.

Not sure how unpopular this is, but I hate, with a capital H, NYE. I do not understand the hoopla. "Yay, lets all count down from 10 and cheer when midnight comes". Gag me!

I'll be completely honest. I enjoy NYE because it usually means going to someone else's house for a party and getting to drink their booze instead of mine.

I hate going to other people's homes. Because 1) that means drinking is very limited (I don't do sleepovers) and 2) I can't just go to bed when I want. I would much prefer to stay home in my PJs, get some Chinese food, and watch the ball drop from the comfort of my bed. And this is most likely exactly what I am going to do. H will head to a friends house for a NYE party where they will play beer pong for hours and hours and I will snuggle with my pup at home.

PamBeesly524 · December 2015

@maggie0829 I totally agree about NYE... H and I actually have a tradition of staying home and making a really nice meal together for NYE... pair it with (lots of) wine and a good movie and we're happy. Last year I don't even think we made it to midnight, and somehow we survived.

labro · December 2015

@Maggie0829 I get that. H is usually the DD so at least that worry is gone for me. The party we go to most years is at a house in my parent's neighborhood too so we have a sleepover at their house (even if H is the DD, sometimes it's just easier to stay there rather than risk driving with actual drunk people on the road, police road blocks, etc.). It works for us anyway.

princessleia22 · December 2015

Maggie0829 said:

Not sure how unpopular this is, but I hate, with a capital H, NYE. I do not understand the hoopla. "Yay, lets all count down from 10 and cheer when midnight comes". Gag me!

I agree. I am not a fan of NYE either. DH and I usually stay home and are in bed by 11pm... then get woken up at midnight from the fireworks and gunfire (they tend to fire guns into the air) going on in the neighborhood next to us. Plus, I don't like the risk of driving with all the insane drunk people out on the roads. We stay home for 4th of July for same reason.

This year, my parents are visiting and they want to go out and enjoy the NYE festivities in our town. We do have a fairly large NYE event here (big enough that they usually will show parts of it during the NYC coverage) and I really don't want to deal with those crowds. But, I may not have a choice this year. They came out here for it once about 10 years ago. My dad and I left everyone at the bars after about an hour and we went and sat at IHOP and drank coffee, just to get away from the crowds.

julieanne912 · December 2015

Another non-NYE lover here. However, a few years ago a boss gifted us with tickets to a hotel party downtown, complete with hotel room. That was fun... we got to get dressed up, and the food was awesome and all the liquor top shelf, and then when we were partied out (or just needed a break) we could go up the elevator to our room.

These days we usually end up going to a hockey game and then going home and watching the ball drop, then go to sleep.

STARMOON44 · December 2015

I don't think it is hard to drink champagne while eating an hors d'oeurve and holding my purse in a dress and heels. I do it all the time at events and it's never been a problem.

Also, I don't like dogs.

nerdwife · December 2015

Okay, how do people feel about the whole saying "we" when talking about a sports team? Like, "we won today" or "we traded X for Y," etc. etc.? I used to always talk that way about the Mets but FI HATES HATES HATES it. At first I was like, this is the way I talk, so leave me alone. But then I kept hearing this girl I work with (who I despise) saying it over and over and over again (and about the Mets, no less) and I COULD NOT STAND IT so I finally one day I was like ZOMG I TOTALLY GET IT YOU ARE RIGHT PLEASE SAVE ME.

I also don't really get the whole Santa is watching you/Elf on a Shelf thing. I'm Jewish and actually had no idea that Santa was used to threaten children to behave for basically the last two or three months of the year until I started spending a lot of time with FI's extended family (and their kids). I was like wait, what? Isn't Christmas and Santa supposed to be about joy and giving?? FI, who is Presbyterian, told me that it's normal and Elf on a Shelf is an extension of that. I did express to him that I would prefer to not motivate our children by threatening that they won't receive Christmas gifts, but I back up all parenting-related statements by saying that I've never been a parent so I can't make any promises. As someone with a lot of childcare experience, I absolutely understand the urge to use any means necessary (short of violence, of course) to get a child to do something. But idk, something about it doesn't sit right with me. Anyone with me on this UO?

CharmedPam · December 2015

nerdwife said:

Okay, how do people feel about the whole saying "we" when talking about a sports team? Like, "we won today" or "we traded X for Y," etc. etc.? I used to always talk that way about the Mets but FI HATES HATES HATES it. At first I was like, this is the way I talk, so leave me alone. But then I kept hearing this girl I work with (who I despise) saying it over and over and over again (and about the Mets, no less) and I COULD NOT STAND IT so I finally one day I was like ZOMG I TOTALLY GET IT YOU ARE RIGHT PLEASE SAVE ME.

I say it. Then I realize what I just said and usually follow up with a "we. like, I'm playing on the team and had something to do with it".

lyndausvi · December 2015

STARMOON44 said:

I don't think it is hard to drink champagne while eating an hors d'oeurve and holding my purse in a dress and heels. I do it all the time at events and it's never been a problem.

Also, I don't like dogs.

LOL - I see women doing it all the time. While there are perfectly good EMPTY seats near by.

While there are people with real medical issues that can't easily stand, I think standing is a good thing for our overall health. For hours? No. While eating a meal with forks and knives? No. A cocktail hour? Yes, I think the average adult should be able to stand (again barring any medical issues).

The bold:

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STARMOON44 · December 2015

nerdwife said:
Okay, how do people feel about the whole saying "we" when talking about a sports team? Like, "we won today" or "we traded X for Y," etc. etc.? I used to always talk that way about the Mets but FI HATES HATES HATES it. At first I was like, this is the way I talk, so leave me alone. But then I kept hearing this girl I work with (who I despise) saying it over and over and over again (and about the Mets, no less) and I COULD NOT STAND IT so I finally one day I was like ZOMG I TOTALLY GET IT YOU ARE RIGHT PLEASE SAVE ME.

I also don't really get the whole Santa is watching you/Elf on a Shelf thing. I'm Jewish and actually had no idea that Santa was used to threaten children to behave for basically the last two or three months of the year until I started spending a lot of time with FI's extended family (and their kids). I was like wait, what? Isn't Christmas and Santa supposed to be about joy and giving?? FI, who is Presbyterian, told me that it's normal and Elf on a Shelf is an extension of that. I did express to him that I would prefer to not motivate our children by threatening that they won't receive Christmas gifts, but I back up all parenting-related statements by saying that I've never been a parent so I can't make any promises. As someone with a lot of childcare experience, I absolutely understand the urge to use any means necessary (short of violence, of course) to get a child to do something. But idk, something about it doesn't sit right with me. Anyone with me on this UO?

Sermon at church this week was on, in part, how Elf on the Shelf is the direct opposite of Jesus, who came to bring the gift of eternal salvation to all, and most importantly to those most in need. It involved a pair of children acting out robotic surveillance elf style, and was magical.

holyguacamole79 · December 2015

nerdwife said:
I also don't really get the whole Santa is watching you/Elf on a Shelf thing. I'm Jewish and actually had no idea that Santa was used to threaten children to behave for basically the last two or three months of the year until I started spending a lot of time with FI's extended family (and their kids). I was like wait, what? Isn't Christmas and Santa supposed to be about joy and giving?? FI, who is Presbyterian, told me that it's normal and Elf on a Shelf is an extension of that. I did express to him that I would prefer to not motivate our children by threatening that they won't receive Christmas gifts, but I back up all parenting-related statements by saying that I've never been a parent so I can't make any promises. As someone with a lot of childcare experience, I absolutely understand the urge to use any means necessary (short of violence, of course) to get a child to do something. But idk, something about it doesn't sit right with me. Anyone with me on this UO?

That hasn't been my experience.

Honestly, the message of Jesus is one of salvation. Santa is a message of giving gifts and magic. I'm not saying that Santa is bad ... it's just not really the best parallel.

thespeshulestsnowflake · December 2015

lyndausvi said:

labro said:

@kimmiinthemitten I hate quote trees. But anyway, I think it's great they are making those jobs available....but that doesn't stop the rent from ballooning, from formerly cheap buildings being sold and renovated into ultra trendy and expensive condos or townhomes. The people who used to live and work in those areas are priced out of them. So even with the jobs, they end up moving elsewhere, and that leads into a whole slew of transportation issues with getting to the job itself. I dunno. I has opinions.

I was going to comment on the same thing. Fixing up old houses is great. But if they are not deed restrict to remain affordable housing then rents will just balloon. Forcing out workers who would work at grocery store.

It happens often. Heck, it happens here in my little town. Most workers have to live 45+ commute because they can't afford to live in the area. There are some deed restricted affordable housing available. Get this, you can make over 6 figures and still be eligible for affordable housing. That is how high the rents are around here.

I'd agree with your points in most cases here, but in Detroit, most of these areas they are fixing up, no one is living there. There are plenty of city blocks full of houses, where only one of the houses has someone living in it. So getting people to move in there isn't really hurting the existing population, since there is none.

kimmiinthemitten · December 2015

thespeshulestsnowflake said:

lyndausvi said:

labro said:

@kimmiinthemitten I hate quote trees. But anyway, I think it's great they are making those jobs available....but that doesn't stop the rent from ballooning, from formerly cheap buildings being sold and renovated into ultra trendy and expensive condos or townhomes. The people who used to live and work in those areas are priced out of them. So even with the jobs, they end up moving elsewhere, and that leads into a whole slew of transportation issues with getting to the job itself. I dunno. I has opinions.

I was going to comment on the same thing. Fixing up old houses is great. But if they are not deed restrict to remain affordable housing then rents will just balloon. Forcing out workers who would work at grocery store.

It happens often. Heck, it happens here in my little town. Most workers have to live 45+ commute because they can't afford to live in the area. There are some deed restricted affordable housing available. Get this, you can make over 6 figures and still be eligible for affordable housing. That is how high the rents are around here.

I'd agree with your points in most cases here, but in Detroit, most of these areas they are fixing up, no one is living there. There are plenty of city blocks full of houses, where only one of the houses has someone living in it. So getting people to move in there isn't really hurting the existing population, since there is none.

Thanks, I had a long response (and even the cited the single house communities) and deleted it because I realized I was taking it too far into a tangent.

But I will say this: Detroit has lost over 1.25 million people over 63 years spread across 140 square miles. Change had to happen and it had to be drastic. Displacement sucks, but like @thespeshulestsnowflake said, it's happening more in ruined neighborhoods than it is in developing city centers. Hopefully, these pockets of new business give the city the tax base it needs to help build up these ruined communities. Could gentrification hurt us? Absolutely. But we have no where else to go but up. There is even talk about bringing Black Bottom back!

labro · December 2015

@thespeshulestsnowflake @kimmiinthemitten Detroit is interesting I think as a case study because it is (was?) a major metro area that was recognized and well known as the city of the future, etc. etc. before the car manufacturing business disappeared and they experience a significant loss in population. But let's look at places like Portland, neighborhoods in L.A., and probably most recognizable of all, San Francisco, where it is becoming absolutely impossible for anyone (even people you'd probably call upper middle class) to afford housing within the city, even in places that controlled for rent. I just can't let something that generally said hipsters are good people who are saving communities by bringing in business and money go because gentrification is real, and in general, it isn't doing good things in these places.

thespeshulestsnowflake · December 2015

@labro I totally agree with you My FSIL lives just outside of San Francisco and even with a rent stipend from her company (her husbands as well), their rent for a one bedroom apartment is almost triple my FI and I's two bedroom, two bath apartment. I was just pointing out the Special Snowflake case of Detroit.

kimmiinthemitten · December 2015

Aww, Detroit really is the Spechulist Snowflake isn't it?!

UO: I love Detroit

hellohkb · December 2015

banana468 said:

hellohkb said:

I don't like Will Ferrell, Adele, or the Beatles. I don't find Saturday Night Live to be humorous. I don't like seafood. I don't like expensive cars. They're all really ugly to me.

To the bolded, can you clarify? This seems to be a huge generalization. Are you talking supercars like Lamborghinis and Bugattis and a McLaren F1 or are you anti Acuras and Infinitis and Audis?

Yeah, you're right, it is a generalization on my part. I guess I should have clarified that I don't understand the fascination/obsession that a lot of people I know have with having a luxury vehicle. I have a few good friends and STB ILs who are almost obsessive with them... And honestly, the cars are hideous. Certain BMWs, sportscars, "muscle cars" (whatever that is, they claim there is a difference) and they won't just say "my car", "the car". They'll say "my BMW", "let's take my Mustang to the store" and act snotty when I swear these cars really aren't that amazing, IMO. I do find the Ferrari/Lamborghini type cars to be hideous too! I'm not one to talk. I want a station wagon.

Though I love Volvos and Mercedes. But I would refer to it as my car, not my Volvo

ShesSoCold · December 2015

hellohkb said:

hellohkb said:

I don't like Will Ferrell, Adele, or the Beatles. I don't find Saturday Night Live to be humorous. I don't like seafood. I don't like expensive cars. They're all really ugly to me.

To the bolded, can you clarify? This seems to be a huge generalization. Are you talking supercars like Lamborghinis and Bugattis and a McLaren F1 or are you anti Acuras and Infinitis and Audis?
Yeah, you're right, it is a generalization on my part. I guess I should have clarified that I don't understand the fascination/obsession that a lot of people I know have with having a luxury vehicle. I have a few good friends and STB ILs who are almost obsessive with them... And honestly, the cars are hideous. Certain BMWs, sportscars, "muscle cars" (whatever that is, they claim there is a difference) and they won't just say "my car", "the car". They'll say "my BMW", "let's take my Mustang to the store" and act snotty when I swear these cars really aren't that amazing, IMO. I do find the Ferrari/Lamborghini type cars to be hideous too! I'm not one to talk. I want a station wagon. Though I love Volvos and Mercedes. But I would refer to it as my car, not my Volvo

HAHAHA an old coworker of mine never said "car", always the make and model. "Oh, I have to put gas in my 2010 Dodge Journey on my way home from work". She thought she was fancy and that the rest of us were jealous of her 2010 Dodge Journey that she couldn't get a loan for so her ILs got the loan and she paid them. Five years later we still make fun of her.

lyndausvi · December 2015

ShesSoCold said:

HAHAHA an old coworker of mine never said "car", always the make and model. "Oh, I have to put gas in my 2010 Dodge Journey on my way home from work". She thought she was fancy and that the rest of us were jealous of her 2010 Dodge Journey that she couldn't get a loan for so her ILs got the loan and she paid them. Five years later we still make fun of her.

that is just weird.

I'm off to take DH to work in our 2016 Toyota 4Runner.

AddieCake · December 2015

I fucking loved the year I was a SAHW.

vikinganna87 · December 2015

kimmiinthemitten said:

Aww, Detroit really is the Spechulist Snowflake isn't it?!

UO: I love Detroit

I LOVE Detroit too! Any chance I can get, I go there for work. There's so much heart and so much beauty. I wear my old school Red Wings hoodie all the time on the weekends. People are like, I thought you were a Bruins fan and I'm like I just LOVE Detroit and its people and everything about it. Ah, the library "civilization is the accumulated culture of mankind" , the funky people mover, the Irish pub where everyone goes dancing after baseball games, the Heidelberg Project, the art museum, the gorgeous buildings, the river.... I'm just a tourist. And I have a good friend on the fire department. But yes, gentrification - if you need to call it that in this scenario - and progress is very important. I mean, this was the cradle of unbridled American capitalism. I see it as my Patriotic duty to support Detroit; I get very excited about any positive developments.

lyndausvi · December 2015

Warning - maybe a popular opinion

Why do some people park like assholes? Yes, I'm looking at you Mr 1999 banged up Jeep Cherokee taking up 2 spots at the store parking lot. A parking lot that is full due to you know, the holidays.

Don't you know I drive a 2016 Toyota 4Runner?

ShesSoCold · December 2015

vikinganna87 said:

kimmiinthemitten said:

Aww, Detroit really is the Spechulist Snowflake isn't it?!

UO: I love Detroit

I LOVE Detroit too! Any chance I can get, I go there for work. There's so much heart and so much beauty. I wear my old school Red Wings hoodie all the time on the weekends. People are like, I thought you were a Bruins fan and I'm like I just LOVE Detroit and its people and everything about it. Ah, the library "civilization is the accumulated culture of mankind" , the funky people mover, the Irish pub where everyone goes dancing after baseball games, the Heidelberg Project, the art museum, the gorgeous buildings, the river.... I'm just a tourist. And I have a good friend on the fire department. But yes, gentrification - if you need to call it that in this scenario - and progress is very important. I mean, this was the cradle of unbridled American capitalism. I see it as my Patriotic duty to support Detroit; I get very excited about any positive developments.

I went to Detroit for a Bears game a few years ago and we had a BLAST. I loved it. We're going back in March for a Hawks game.

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