Reception with family & bridal party only?

Re: Reception with family & bridal party only?

• lyndausvi mod

  

  January 2016

  You want people to fly all the way to the Bahamas, yet only feed a few people dinner?
  
  These people are taking days of vacation and spending hundreds/thousands of dollars to witness your union.    
  
  Do the right thing, feed everyone dinner.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  

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• geebee908 member

  

  January 2016

  This means you need to cut your guest list or find another venue. Which option will be easier for you? Because the plan you've got now isn't workable.
  

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• frenchiekin member

  

  January 2016

  Agree with PPs and answered you on Etiquette.  Please put "XP" in all of your post titles... looks like this one is posted at least 3 times.

  
  

  
  

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• CMGragain member

  

  January 2016 edited January 2016

  ALL guests must be treated equally on your wedding day.  No exceptions.
  Why the hell are you planning a destination wedding if you can't afford it?
  

  

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• Viczaesar member

  

  January 2016

  Knottie56578649 said:

  I'm having a destination wedding in Bahamas in a couple of months. We are still debating on the location of the reception and cost is a huge factor for the reception. As private dinner requires additional cost per person and site rental fee, we are considering a semi-private dinner at one of their restaurant. HOWEVER, the semi-private dinner at the restaurant can only accommodate up to 40 people max. We have about 42-45. 
  
  My question is, would it be "inconsiderate" (or whatever word you want to use) if we were to have cocktail hours/reception for all our guest and dinner with our family and bridal party only? 

  Does that mean that you're trying to get out of hosting anything altogether?  You want to have a dinner at a restaurant at an AI so that your guests are in effect paying for their own reception by paying to stay at the AI?  AND on top of that your desire to not pay for any part of your reception means that you're going to be additionally rude by only allowing some people the right to pay for their own reception dinner in order to keep the number under 40, all to avoid paying for an actual reception dinner for your guests?  That is seriously gross.  The word you're looking for is rude or self-centered, not inconsiderate.
  

  
  
  
  

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• Maggie0829 member

  

  January 2016

  See my answer over in your duplicate post.

  
  

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• BrinkyDink16 member

  

  February 2016

  Yeah, that's not cool to do.  Since you're already planning a destination wedding did you consider just inviting family / bridal party (who I would think would be your closest friends) to the wedding in the Bahamas and then having a larger reception for more people back in your home town?
  
  I've known at least four couples who went this route with a private ceremony somewhere exotic and then a reception back home.  Reception might not be the best word because they weren't as structured or formal as receptions that immediately follow a ceremony, but were a chance for the couple to celebrate their marriage with a wider circle.

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  February 2016

  Anyone invited to the wedding gets invited to the reception. It is simply proper etiquette, and the right thing to do.

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