So one of my bridesmaids and the rest of the wedding party got into it for the second time this month,and she backed out of the wedding...again. The first time I spoke with everyone involved and she agreed to return. It didn't last long, a second incident ensued and now forcing everyone to get along for the next 10 months would end up being a weekly thing and take away from the happiness of planning the wedding. So I agreed to accept her resignation. Part of her reasoning for going now vs trying to stick it out was it provides me with plenty of time to identify and ask a someone else without it being last min. Having been asked twice to be part of the BP after someone was unable to fulfill the commitment of a BM. I see no problem with this. The rest of the wedding party is anxiously awaiting the arrival of the new BM even going as far as to provided suggestions. It wasn't till coming on this site and seeing the absolute disdain for brides who back-fill members of the wedding that i was confused. I guess I'm just trying to get some understanding as to why anyone who through their own wishes or actions would feel hurt about someone else being as to fulfill a requirement they couldn't, or why being asked as a "replacement" would make standing up for your friends or family any less special. It is any different then if she has said no from the beginning?