I am my best friends' MOH and am trying to plan her bridal shower and bachelorette party with her mom (she wants her to be involved in planning and to attend both). We are in the initial stages of planning and her mom and I are definitely on different pages in terms of what we envision. For the bridal shower, her most recent idea, which she seemed pretty set on, was a dive-y karaoke bar here in NYC on the Lower East Side. To me a karaoke bar is more a place for a bachelorette party - when I think of bridal showers, I think of something very different... at least a bit more fancy? (i.e, http://www.popsugar.com/love/Picnic-Bridal-Shower-38286912?ref=36362629#photo-3828691
Anyway, I'm not sure how and if I should tell her mom that I'm not quite seeing this as the place for her daughter's bridal shower. She seemed keen on the idea when I spoke to her, and I was caught off guard and didn't know how to say no - I more or less said the idea sounded okay. I don't think she's completely tied to it, but I also don't know how to tell her I'm not really on board with the idea...
Do I just let her take over as the mother of the bride, or do I try to chime in? I really don't want to step on her toes but am not sure how to show her my other ideas to give her inspiration (she doesn't check emails and doesn't have a cell phone so we are limited to speaking over their home phone).