Why are you crying?

spockforprez · February 2016

I'm so emotional lately, good and bad. Let's share why we are crying. (Or if you aren't a crier, share your general verklempt moments.)

My cousin is getting married in 31 days and I am so nervous and excited and impatient and excited. I tried on my bridesmaid dress today for the first time since last June and was thrilled to see that it fit (I have put on some weight since then). I walked around in it and took some pics and I was just so emotional about it. She and her sister sent me some pics and videos of her dress fitting today and I just about lost it. I'm so excited for her. And it also reminds me of my wedding coming up and then I get overwhelmed and cry some more.

I have been declined for two jobs recently. One I didn't care about, but the other I had two interviews and reaaaaaaallllllllyyyyy wanted. They didn't hire anyone, they just reposted the job. I took the rejection so personally that I could barely talk about it for 2-3 days. I keep going back over my second interview and trying to figure out what I could have said to turn them off. It really fucking sucks.

Tonight I watched Jim & Pam's wedding on The Office. Major crying. The Chris Brown song/Niagara Falls boat scene, after the first five seasons of waiting for them to be together, is so emotional!

And that's why I'm crying.

thefanciestbeckler · February 2016

Oh I am a crier. I never used to cry, but now I do all. The. Time. Happy, sad, mad, doesn't matter.

Today I got a good annual review at work. I sat in my boss's office and teared up while she was talking. Lol. Thankfully my department is pretty close-knit, so people basically expect this kind of thing from me.

The puppy/horse Budweiser commercial made me cry during the Super Bowl.

I cry nearly every time I hear "Colder Weather" by Zac Brown Band. (If you ever want to cry, listen to it)

I usually cry during American Idol. I didn't tonight, which is rare.

spockforprez · February 2016

thefanciestbeckler said:

Oh I am a crier. I never used to cry, but now I do all. The. Time. Happy, sad, mad, doesn't matter.

Today I got a good annual review at work. I sat in my boss's office and teared up while she was talking. Lol. Thankfully my department is pretty close-knit, so people basically expect this kind of thing from me.

The puppy/horse Budweiser commercial made me cry during the Super Bowl.

I cry nearly every time I hear "Colder Weather" by Zac Brown Band. (If you ever want to cry, listen to it)

I usually cry during American Idol. I didn't tonight, which is rare.

I love that song. And I have cried listening to it, too. However, the Zac Brown Band song that makes me cry the most is Highway 20 Ride. It is the worst. In a good way.

Yes, I cry when angry too! It's awful!

Congrats on your awesome review

Lala9414 · February 2016

I cry a good 50% of the time the other half its me wanting to cry but trying really hard not to haha. Anyways, ive been a little emotional today and im not sure why, but the spa i work at is booked like crazy for this coming weekend (valentines day ugh!) and i literally almost cried because A) it is going to be so crazy

i have to work BOTH saturday and sunday C) because im likely going to be so exhausted after this shit i wont want to do anything FI is planning and thats what nearly got me! I also always cry when watching Grey's Anatomy, so as im rewatching episodes to catch back up guess who is crying....me. lol

kimmiinthemitten · February 2016

I cry at everything, music, movies I've seen 4,000 times, commercials, HONY posts, sappy moments. You name it, I've shed a tear.

My sister, BIL and niece (who is now 8 months old and who I haven't seen since she was 3 weeks old) are coming into town tomorrow morning and staying with us through Tuesday. I've cried both out of the sheer anticipation of cuddling that little nugget and creating memories in my house with her as well as the anxiety and frustration that this trip brings (as only someone with a sister who lives out of town can understand.) She's my best friend and I can't wait to see her, yet at the same time she's become far bitchier post-delivery and I'm not sure how many side-handed comments I can take before I snap. Her latest was that I'm always trying to be fancy. We're having Aunts/Uncles/Cousins over Saturday and I'm having a nacho bar. Apparently, melted cheese, chips and ground beef in a crock pot is fancy.

And finally, FI cracked a really poorly timed BJ joke last night in the midst of my frustration which made me cry "because he just didn't get it." I'm ridiculous!

Good luck on the job search @spockforprez - you'll find one and it will be way better than the last place!

lc07 · February 2016

I'm sorry about not getting the job, Spock. That sucks. What does TK say about asking for interview feedback after not getting a job? I'm not very good at this stuff but I googled and this sounds like something you could do: http://www.forbes.com/sites/lisaquast/2014/12/22/what-to-do-if-you-didnt-get-the-job/#271acc141205

I cried today in front of people unintentionally. I'm moving which is stressful in itself. I'm half in one place and half in the other. I'm downsizing so having a hard time fitting all of my stuff into my new place. The worst though is I'm forced to go through tons of stuff from my ex H and my life and get rid of it. (Moving from the house he and I lived in for 7 years. He's been out of it for almost 2.) Then a couple small things piled up on top of that. My mind feels fried. I just keep making mistake after mistake. And I just lost it today.

Relaxing now with a glass of wine and dinner cooking. Hoping to chill out and reset for tomorrow.

CMGragain · February 2016

I very seldom cry. No more hormone rushes at my age. I learned to internalize negative emotions growing up in a difficult home. (Migraine headaches? Who, me?)
When they told me I had breast cancer, I didn't cry. When they told me that the cancer was back, I didn't cry.
When my last cat lost half his tail in an accident in the house, I bawled for hours. It cost $800 for the emergency vet to stitch up his tail. The poor thing couldn't understand what had happened. I cried buckets.

spockforprez · February 2016

Lala9414 said:

I cry a good 50% of the time the other half its me wanting to cry but trying really hard not to haha. Anyways, ive been a little emotional today and im not sure why, but the spa i work at is booked like crazy for this coming weekend (valentines day ugh!) and i literally almost cried because A) it is going to be so crazy i have to work BOTH saturday and sunday C) because im likely going to be so exhausted after this shit i wont want to do anything FI is planning and thats what nearly got me! I also always cry when watching Grey's Anatomy, so as im rewatching episodes to catch back up guess who is crying....me. lol

Accurate. I once told someone that my relationship with FH is 50% crying, 40% sex, and 10% football. The ratios have changed since then, of course. Now it's more like 70% crying and 30% sex and no football because I stopped watching.

spockforprez · February 2016

kimmiinthemitten said:

I cry at everything, music, movies I've seen 4,000 times, commercials, HONY posts, sappy moments. You name it, I've shed a tear.

My sister, BIL and niece (who is now 8 months old and who I haven't seen since she was 3 weeks old) are coming into town tomorrow morning and staying with us through Tuesday. I've cried both out of the sheer anticipation of cuddling that little nugget and creating memories in my house with her as well as the anxiety and frustration that this trip brings (as only someone with a sister who lives out of town can understand.) She's my best friend and I can't wait to see her, yet at the same time she's become far bitchier post-delivery and I'm not sure how many side-handed comments I can take before I snap. Her latest was that I'm always trying to be fancy. We're having Aunts/Uncles/Cousins over Saturday and I'm having a nacho bar. Apparently, melted cheese, chips and ground beef in a crock pot is fancy.

And finally, FI cracked a really poorly timed BJ joke last night in the midst of my frustration which made me cry "because he just didn't get it." I'm ridiculous!

Good luck on the job search @spockforprez - you'll find one and it will be way better than the last place!

I cried at a recent HONY post, the one where his wife of 61 years had died and he didn't realize how much they had become one until she was gone... ugh. YOU GET ME KIM. YOU GET ME.

To the bolded: FH knows that I am sooooo not the "distract from crying with laughter" type. Now after I'm done crying I love to be silly and laugh and such. But in the middle of anger/frustration/sadness, that is a surefire way for me to go crazy.

And thanks. I'm feeling pretty down at the moment. When I got the call for the 2nd interview I was confident I had the job and was thrilled. I built a little narrative 5-year plan in my head and talked excitedly about it with FH and my mom (because I am an idiot). So not getting it was totally dream-crushing, haha. Oh well. I have an interview tomorrow for a call center job that I don't want, but will take if offered because it's been two months and I need to start working.

spockforprez · February 2016

CMGragain said:

I very seldom cry. No more hormone rushes at my age. I learned to internalize negative emotions growing up in a difficult home. (Migraine headaches? Who, me?)
When they told me I had breast cancer, I didn't cry. When they told me that the cancer was back, I didn't cry.
When my last cat lost half his tail in an accident in the house, I bawled for hours. It cost $800 for the emergency vet to stitch up his tail. The poor thing couldn't understand what had happened. I cried buckets.

I don't think I'd be able to deal if I couldn't/didn't cry. They say (whoever "they" is) that is releases calming hormones that make you feel better, e.g. the classic cathartic sob session. It definitely helps me, for whatever reason. I wish I didn't cry when angry but other than that, I don't mind the waterworks so much.

One of my cats growing up had a horrible skin condition and one of the things we tried was some kind of bath in a certain product. My dad and I did it together and that poor cat cried and cried and cried like we were burning her (and maybe we were). I sobbed the whole time, it was awful. I still remember it like it was yesterday.

spockforprez · February 2016

lc07 said:

I'm sorry about not getting the job, Spock. That sucks. What does TK say about asking for interview feedback after not getting a job? I'm not very good at this stuff but I googled and this sounds like something you could do: http://www.forbes.com/sites/lisaquast/2014/12/22/what-to-do-if-you-didnt-get-the-job/#271acc141205

I cried today in front of people unintentionally. I'm moving which is stressful in itself. I'm half in one place and half in the other. I'm downsizing so having a hard time fitting all of my stuff into my new place. The worst though is I'm forced to go through tons of stuff from my ex H and my life and get rid of it. (Moving from the house he and I lived in for 7 years. He's been out of it for almost 2.) Then a couple small things piled up on top of that. My mind feels fried. I just keep making mistake after mistake. And I just lost it today.

Relaxing now with a glass of wine and dinner cooking. Hoping to chill out and reset for tomorrow.

Ah yes. The worn down, exhausted, are-you-fucking-kidding-me cry. I HATE moving so I am really sorry you have to go through that with the added emotion of sorting stuff from your marriage. Ugh. Hugs.

Thanks for the encouragement! Forbes won't let me read the article unless I turn off my adblock which has infuriated me so much that I posted a rant on facebook and refused to turn it off out of principle. Damn that pissed me off. But, haha, that is a great idea and I will do some googling and see what I should do mentally and emotionally to get past it, because I am really not past it, at all. Lol.

spockforprez · February 2016

I have an interview at 10am and this is the one night this week I can't sleep (have been trying to go to bed before midnight every night, otherwise my natural sleep cycle kicks in and I don't get tired until about 3). I definitely feel like crying so I am distracting myself with TK instead. Thanks peeps.

ETA: This gif is helping too -

kimmiinthemitten · February 2016

I cried at that one too. I also cried at the HONY post yesterday about the inmate who hosts parental activity classes so the inmates have activities they can share with their kids. The class is so popular they fill up and have a waiting list, and some are as small as half coloring a page and mailing it home for their kids to finish. I'll probably cry watching Ellen today because she's donating half a million to the worst elementary school in Detroit. The kids gym is ruined so for gym class they walk laps in the hallways:(. I'll definitely cry today when I see my niece!

Good luck with your interview!! Fingers are crossed.

charlotte989875 · February 2016

kimmiinthemitten said:

I cried at that one too. I also cried at the HONY post yesterday about the inmate who hosts parental activity classes so the inmates have activities they can share with their kids. The class is so popular they fill up and have a waiting list, and some are as small as half coloring a page and mailing it home for their kids to finish. I'll probably cry watching Ellen today because she's donating half a million to the worst elementary school in Detroit. The kids gym is ruined so for gym class they walk laps in the hallways:(. I'll definitely cry today when I see my niece!

Good luck with your interview!! Fingers are crossed.

Yup totally reared up at that one. This series and the Syrian refugee series both got me hard in the feels.

KittenMittens84 · February 2016

I don't alot but I did last night. One of my chickens is sick and I've got her quarantined in the basement bathroom to try and save her. FI asked what the vet costs would be to try and save her but with few exotic vets in the area the prices are enormous. I checked it and it would be over $1000 to fix her. I know that even if I took her and they tried to correct the problem that it may not work. I will most likely have to put her down which I do not want to do but it may come to that.

charlotte989875 · February 2016

KittenMittens84 said:

I don't alot but I did last night. One of my chickens is sick and I've got her quarantined in the basement bathroom to try and save her. FI asked what the vet costs would be to try and save her but with few exotic vets in the area the prices are enormous. I checked it and it would be over $1000 to fix her. I know that even if I took her and they tried to correct the problem that it may not work. I will most likely have to put her down which I do not want to do but it may come to that.

I'm sorry to hear that @KittenMittens84 Sick pets are the worst. Here's hoping she gets better!

KittenMittens84 · February 2016

charlotte989875 said:

KittenMittens84 said:

I don't alot but I did last night. One of my chickens is sick and I've got her quarantined in the basement bathroom to try and save her. FI asked what the vet costs would be to try and save her but with few exotic vets in the area the prices are enormous. I checked it and it would be over $1000 to fix her. I know that even if I took her and they tried to correct the problem that it may not work. I will most likely have to put her down which I do not want to do but it may come to that.

I'm sorry to hear that @KittenMittens84 Sick pets are the worst. Here's hoping she gets better!

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Thank you Charlotte.Ive got my fingers crossed that when I get home I'll be able to fix her.

msuprincess04 · February 2016

So much drama. Between H and I fighting over buying a new house. And now H's BFF's girlfriend telling people H is the devil, it's all too much.

scrunchythief · February 2016

kimmiinthemitten said:

I cried at that one too. I also cried at the HONY post yesterday about the inmate who hosts parental activity classes so the inmates have activities they can share with their kids. The class is so popular they fill up and have a waiting list, and some are as small as half coloring a page and mailing it home for their kids to finish. I'll probably cry watching Ellen today because she's donating half a million to the worst elementary school in Detroit. The kids gym is ruined so for gym class they walk laps in the hallways:(. I'll definitely cry today when I see my niece!

Good luck with your interview!! Fingers are crossed.

That is a brilliant idea! My MIL volunteers with the prison society, I'll have to send this to her.

kvruns · February 2016

thefanciestbeckler said:

Oh I am a crier. I never used to cry, but now I do all. The. Time. Happy, sad, mad, doesn't matter.

ditto! I think I had it in me a bit when I was younger, mostly like something sad on tv but I never actually cried, just felt it inside. Now I cry a lot and it drives me crazy!

kvruns · February 2016

sorry but this was the first thing that popped in my head when I saw the title

kimmiinthemitten · February 2016

@charlotte989875 Yes! Me too. And I thought the Hawaii guy was funny, not cocky.

@scrunchythief here is the post in case you don't follow:

Image: https://us.v-cdn.net/5020756/uploads/editor/3c/8eq90ulti0g2.jpg

PamBeesly524 · February 2016

I feel you guys with crying about pets. I don't cry too often - only when I'm in some sort of confrontation (That's always fun, crying in your boss' office about an issue you're having at work), or if I'm really frustrated and burnt out.

But my cat HATES, I mean HATES getting into his carrier to get in the car and go to the vet, etc... So much so that I constantly debate never ever taking him to the vet unless absolutely necessary. The last time H and I took him we fought to get him into the carrier for 25 minutes. Once we got him in he was making the worst crying noises, I started bawling and told H to let him out and that we weren't going. Luckily H keeps it together way better than I ever can and convinced me to go... Cat was still anxious but he was fine. I just get so teary when we are at the vet and he curls up into my stomach because he's so scared!

ThxSugar · February 2016

I cried the other day. I am having a health scare which I can deal with but tell me I have find another doctor, schedule appt., tell my boss I need another day off work and I get overwhelmed. Just the thought of having to use the insurance website (even though it is incredibly easy) causes my throat to tighten. The first place I called wasn't accepting new patients, cue waterworks.

I also cry when yelled at. It is just the shock I think. But it is super embarassing when I am trying to act tough.

emmaaa · February 2016

I'm definitely a crier.

Most recently I cried when they played "Holding Her" by Chris Janson this morning. Take a listen if you haven't heard it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=76UhSffRRVk

lembaslover · February 2016

I'm sorry about your job hunt, that is really difficult. I know I always play interviews back in my head too when I don't get the job. Good luck on your interview today!!

I am a big crier too. DH laughs because sometimes I even cry at commercials and there have been a couple of movies that I cry through the entire thing. He also doesn't get the concept of happy tears and always says "how can something good make you cry?"

I didn't used to ever cry. I was on a really high dose of medication for depression but a couple of years ago I decided to get myself off of it because I felt like it was just making me feel nothing. Sure it kept me from getting into the really low moods but I was also never happy. Best decision I've made though it is hard, sometimes I take really bad swings but with counselling and DH's support I'm able to get myself out of the really low moods. Once I went off the meds I started feeling again and the waterworks started.

Lately I've been crying at the book I'm reading for book club. It's A Man Called Ove. I cry at the parts where he talks about his wife. I think love makes me cry the most, it's just such a strong emotion. There's also a song that came on the radio the other day and I can't remember the title but it's a guy singing about how much he loves his wife so I was crying and then at the end it reveals he looses her to cancer and when DH heard that he started crying. I have cancer and while it's under control it's still there and it really worries DH. That's one of the few things that makes him cry.

cupcait927 · February 2016

@emmaa were you listening to The Bobby Bones show this morning?! I heard that song as well and it got me teary-eyed.

I cry over fucking everything. I will tell H a story and even if it's not even remotely emotional, I'll choke up. I will cry over commercials, FB posts, lost dogs, abused animals, sweet stories, sad stories - pretty much anything. @Lala9414 I'm the same way - I'm either crying or trying not to cry.

nerdwife · February 2016

So sorry about the job thing, @spockforprez! I went through the same thing during my last year of law school - after three rounds of interviews, I was sure I had my dream job locked up, and then suddenly I did not. Super brutal. I totally cried and was kinda paralyzed like you described. Sucks

As for crying, I actually just read the entire Harry Potter series for the first time, and I cried like a baby when Dumbledore died (can there still be spoilers almost ten years later? hope not!). I was also sad when other characters died, particularly at the end (why make Teddy an orphan?!). I do most of my reading during my commute, but when I got to a part like that that I knew would devastate me, I made sure to read it at home and then cry all over FI. I tried to remind myself that it's fictional, but all I could think is WHY DOES ALL THIS HAPPEN TO POOR HARRY, WHY GOD WHY. (I suppose in that scenario, god = JK Rowling... and perhaps in all scenarios).

I am also a crier when being yelled at/confronting someone, which ordinarily has the opposite effect that I am going for. Le sigh.

kvruns · February 2016

ThxSugar said:

I cried the other day. I am having a health scare which I can deal with but tell me I have find another doctor, schedule appt., tell my boss I need another day off work and I get overwhelmed. Just the thought of having to use the insurance website (even though it is incredibly easy) causes my throat to tighten. The first place I called wasn't accepting new patients, cue waterworks.

I also cry when yelled at. It is just the shock I think. But it is super embarassing when I am trying to act tough.

hugs on the health scare!

if your company has an EAP program they likely have a service where they will help you find a doctor for free. So you tell them you need X kind of specialist in Y area who is accepting new patients and they can help find it for you. Saves you time and stress.

emmaaa · February 2016

@cupcait927 YES! That show gets me through my 1 hour commute every morning. Did you happen to hear them replay the in studio performance of Darius Rucker's "So I Sang" this morning. That made me tear up too. Mainly because it reminded me of my FIL's funeral less than a month ago.

cupcait927 · February 2016

@emmaa I missed the Darius Rucker song! It must've been when I was on the phone with H. I love listening to them in the morning - it's the perfect mix of talk and music, plus it's super positive and upbeat without any drama.

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