i sent my almost-estranged parents an invite because I felt obligated to. My mother won't communicate with me--my messages go unanswered and her response is always "I'll get back to you." They don't agree with my marriage and that's their issue, not mine. But I didn't want to deal with the "why aren't your parents here?" Questions and have it come back to me. If I didn't invite them--then they wouldn't be there bc of my choice. If I invite them and they don't show, then that's their choice. But my mother threw a wrench into the machine--sending the RSVP back with "tentatively attending." That wasn't even an option. She stapled a piece of paper where she printed in bold black font. SHE WENT TO THAT KIND OF EFFORT.
She said she's going because she loves me, but my partner and I (and lots of others) think she's going so she could save face in front of my supportive family members. Should I just be ok with them showing up the day of? Did anyone else have this issue with their parents? They aren't staying for the reception and that's fine. I doubt I'll even see them in the sea of people. Whatever. I've decided that after the wedding, if they don't make an effort to get to know my partner and see why I love her so much, then I'm done. Emotional emancipation is already happening, but I will never let them meet our child (which we hope to have next year)