First question I post, I have been on this site since I got engaged and I've been lurking, but this time I need help. I know the title is a mess but let me explain.
I'm getting the wedding I want June 17, it's not at church, it's at a beautiful venue, ceremony and reception are at the same location. I was born in church but my wedding is very modern and non traditional and most church members (aside from family) are not invited (for they are very orthodox and would be unhappy at my wedding and we can't afford the extra 120 guests).
Nevertheless I do feel awful at not making any of the people who have seen me grow up part of this important day. So my mother came up with a genius plan but I'm not sure if that is inappropriate. In California you pick up the wedding license up to 90 days before the wedding, sign it and the day of the ceremony the officiant validates it and you are married! (at least as far as we understand, thats how it is)
So, if a week before the wedding we have a very simple dinner for church members, the pastor reads a few scriptures (the pastor is not the officiant at our wedding nor is he ordained to do so because of legalities...), we sign the papers there and we all eat and enjoy cake as the elder ladies give us marriage advise, would that be wrong? would it make my wedding day any less real?
I don't want a "fake" wedding on my actual day, or a "pretty day" or "renewal of vows" We will be legally married the day of the ceremony... I just want to make others feel special on MY special day
(or the happening of it)
Please help me.
Thoughts?