I'm experiencing a power struggle between my maid of honor and one of my other bridesmaids. The MOH has been my best friend forever, and we're really really close. She also has a very dominant personality. She's super excited to be my MOH and wants to do things her way, but she's never been in a wedding before and tends to be a bit disorganised and procrastinate.
My other bridesmaid is a professional planner and has done the MOH role quite a few times and could be really useful to her -- if she would let her help! Unfortunately, my MOH is having none of it. She made a Facebook group for the bridesmaids, but she made herself the moderator and won't even approve posts from my other bridesmaid with ideas to be contributed and ignores all of her texts and calls.
My idea was that she would be fine as MOH because she has a whole team of bridesmaids behind her, but she's floundering trying to do everything alongside an extremely demanding school and work schedule and being really stubborn about letting go of any of the control. My planner bridesmaid is nervous because they're behind on planning and not getting things done, but my MOH still won't accept help.
I had a heart to heart with my MOH begging her to be a team leader by including everyone and cooperating with others, but she's still not budging. What can I do? I don't want her to feel like I'm taking sides, but I need to reign her in.