Dear Prudence,
I’m a 20-year-old lesbian (no girlfriend, yet). Last month I came out to my parents, who were totally supportive. My grandparents are a different story. They’re very religious, and when my older cousin came out to them, they cut her and even her parents out of their will and stopped speaking to them. If it were just me, I’d be fine dealing with their hatred, and I’d prefer not to have to hide all my future girlfriends, but I don’t want to hurt my parents financially and emotionally by doing that. They’ve said the decision of whether or not to tell my grandparents is up to me. Which is the best decision, morally?