Ceremony-Reception Time Gaps

holyguacamole79 · May 2016

I didn't read the others. I had a 2:00Mass and a 4:00 cocktail hour. Our reception went until 9. Easy peasy.

ETA: We didn't do a first look & did pictures after Mass. Most churches won't allow you much time for pictures anyway. We took more pictures during dinner.

thisismynickname2 · May 2016

Chiming in. I come from a "Catholic gap" area too and when I finally saw the light, now I know why I fucking hate gaps. I've even attended a wedding that wasn't in a house of worship that had a gap, because pictures.

Here's what people really do during gaps, aka what I've done (while dressed in my fancy clothes, mind you), sorted by individual weddings---
a) Re-did my hair at a hotel after a ceremony in summer in Orlando. Now THAT was "freshening up." Yuck, humidity. Then stood around awkwardly, barely knowing anyone, waiting for cocktail hour to start.
b) Got drunk with friends in the hotel on our own dimes.
c) Got drunk at a bar next to a venue after running some errands, on our own dimes.
d) Twiddled my thumbs and ate ice cream at a Wendys, before twiddling my thumbs some more in the lobby of the venue, waiting for cocktail hour to start.
e) Sat in horrific Saturday afternoon traffic going from some church to some far away trendy venue. Then twiddled my thumbs in the lobby, awkwardly waiting for cocktail hour, knowing barely anyone.
f) Repeat e, above, different wedding.
g) As a bridesmaid, sat in traffic going from one picture location to another, only to show up at cocktail hour noticing twice as many guests at the reception venue than were at the ceremony, because half the population obviously refused to fight Saturday traffic driving all over creation.

But please, tell me more about how all your guests are fine with gaps and it's expected.

ahyatt87 · May 2016

Ugh. I hate gaps. DH and I are attending a family member's wedding next month with a huge gap. They are not Catholic, but the ceremony starts at 1:00 pm and the reception is at 6:30 pm.

OP we would not appreciate a deck of cards. We are annoyed. DH and I live a 2 hour drive away. We will not be staying in a hotel. We are thinking about going out for lunch and/or to a movie between, which should be fun in formal wear. I honestly would not even appreciate a list of your recommendations for things to do because I've already invested quite a bit of time and money into your wedding and this isn't a vacation. I don't want to go around acting like a tourist especially in a dress and heels.

DH and I are honestly upset that we are being treated so poorly. If you are inviting guests, your wedding is no longer just about you and vision. Treat people with respect and host them properly.

[Deleted User] · May 2016

ahyatt87 said:

Ugh. I hate gaps. DH and I are attending a family member's wedding next month with a huge gap. They are not Catholic, but the ceremony starts at 1:00 pm and the reception is at 6:30 pm.

OP we would not appreciate a deck of cards. We are annoyed. DH and I live a 2 hour drive away. We will not be staying in a hotel. We are thinking about going out for lunch and/or to a movie between, which should be fun in formal wear. I honestly would not even appreciate a list of your recommendations for things to do because I've already invested quite a bit of time and money into your wedding and this isn't a vacation. I don't want to go around acting like a tourist especially in a dress and heels.

DH and I are honestly upset that we are being treated so poorly. If you are inviting guests, your wedding is no longer just about you and vision. Treat people with respect and host them properly.

Honestly, if I were you, I'd skip the ceremony. I know it's rude to attend the reception and not ceremony, but that's what you get if you expect me to entertain myself for five hours in the middle of the day.

ShesSoCold · May 2016

I skipped a ceremony when there was a gap.

It was a 1:00 ceremony and a 6:30 reception. On a Friday. B&G apparently expected a lot of people to skip the ceremony because the RSVP had a spot for both the ceremony and the reception.

MairePoppy · May 2016

ahyatt87 said:

Ugh. I hate gaps. DH and I are attending a family member's wedding next month with a huge gap. They are not Catholic, but the ceremony starts at 1:00 pm and the reception is at 6:30 pm.

OP we would not appreciate a deck of cards. We are annoyed. DH and I live a 2 hour drive away. We will not be staying in a hotel. We are thinking about going out for lunch and/or to a movie between, which should be fun in formal wear. I honestly would not even appreciate a list of your recommendations for things to do because I've already invested quite a bit of time and money into your wedding and this isn't a vacation. I don't want to go around acting like a tourist especially in a dress and heels.

DH and I are honestly upset that we are being treated so poorly. If you are inviting guests, your wedding is no longer just about you and vision. Treat people with respect and host them properly.

I'd attend either the ceremony or the reception and skip the other. If your presence at both was important to the couple, they wouldn't make it so inconvenient.

SP29 · May 2016

MairePoppy said:

ahyatt87 said:

Ugh. I hate gaps. DH and I are attending a family member's wedding next month with a huge gap. They are not Catholic, but the ceremony starts at 1:00 pm and the reception is at 6:30 pm.

OP we would not appreciate a deck of cards. We are annoyed. DH and I live a 2 hour drive away. We will not be staying in a hotel. We are thinking about going out for lunch and/or to a movie between, which should be fun in formal wear. I honestly would not even appreciate a list of your recommendations for things to do because I've already invested quite a bit of time and money into your wedding and this isn't a vacation. I don't want to go around acting like a tourist especially in a dress and heels.

DH and I are honestly upset that we are being treated so poorly. If you are inviting guests, your wedding is no longer just about you and vision. Treat people with respect and host them properly.

I'd attend either the ceremony or the reception and skip the other. If your presence at both was important to the couple, they wouldn't make it so inconvenient.

While I think it is less than ideal to not attend the ceremony, I agree that it is the hosts who put the guest in a bad position and shouldn't be upset that a guest chooses one over the other. However, it still annoys me as a guest because I honestly really enjoy ceremonies. Yes, one could say then don't attend the reception, but the reception is the time where interaction between the B&G and guests occurs.

Our venue also required the bar to closed during dinner. I should say more than required- there was no other option- I asked! There was water and wine on the tables. I asked what about guests who don't drink wine or who want more than water and the venue's response was, "they'll have to grab something from the bar before dinner". So we spread by WOM that the bar would be closed for dinner. The venue said it was because they wanted to keep traffic down so that guests were not in the way of wait staff bringing out meals, and less people up/down means the courses would progress faster (I guess?).

ahyatt87 · May 2016

adk19 said:

ahyatt87 said:

Ugh. I hate gaps. DH and I are attending a family member's wedding next month with a huge gap. They are not Catholic, but the ceremony starts at 1:00 pm and the reception is at 6:30 pm.

OP we would not appreciate a deck of cards. We are annoyed. DH and I live a 2 hour drive away. We will not be staying in a hotel. We are thinking about going out for lunch and/or to a movie between, which should be fun in formal wear. I honestly would not even appreciate a list of your recommendations for things to do because I've already invested quite a bit of time and money into your wedding and this isn't a vacation. I don't want to go around acting like a tourist especially in a dress and heels.

DH and I are honestly upset that we are being treated so poorly. If you are inviting guests, your wedding is no longer just about you and vision. Treat people with respect and host them properly.

Honestly, if I were you, I'd skip the ceremony. I know it's rude to attend the reception and not ceremony, but that's what you get if you expect me to entertain myself for five hours in the middle of the day.

If it were up to me, we'd be declining all together. Unfortunately this is a family member's wedding so DH's parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, etc. will all be in attendance and our absence from the ceremony would not go unnoticed. *sigh*

debbeau · May 2016

Welcome bag - condoms, bottle of wine, lubricant and chocolate sauce. I can kill a couple of hours with that.

AddieCake · May 2016

I would most likely skip the reception if there was a gap.

[Deleted User] · May 2016

All these comments are so funny. The girl never asked about anyone's opinion on gaps. You all sound like desperate women who need to have their opinions heard because I'm sure in "real life" you are irrelevant. I mean you want to talk about rude, why don't you reread your own comments. sheesh, all you ladies #bitterpartyof1

glasgowtolondon · May 2016

Knottie1462220777 said:

All these comments are so funny. The girl never asked about anyone's opinion on gaps. You all sound like desperate women who need to have their opinions heard because I'm sure in "real life" you are irrelevant. I mean you want to talk about rude, why don't you reread your own comments. sheesh, all you ladies #bitterpartyof1

You forgot to tell everyone that you feel sorry for their husbands. If you must tell people off can you make sure to do it right? Thanks!!!!!!!

thisismynickname2 · May 2016

glasgowtolondon said:

Knottie1462220777 said:

All these comments are so funny. The girl never asked about anyone's opinion on gaps. You all sound like desperate women who need to have their opinions heard because I'm sure in "real life" you are irrelevant. I mean you want to talk about rude, why don't you reread your own comments. sheesh, all you ladies #bitterpartyof1

You forgot to tell everyone that you feel sorry for their husbands. If you must tell people off can you make sure to do it right? Thanks!!!!!!!

BOX

The vast majority of us are engaged or married. Try #bitterpartyof2.

OurWildKingdom · May 2016

Knottie1462220777 said:

All these comments are so funny. The girl never asked about anyone's opinion on gaps. You all sound like desperate women who need to have their opinions heard because I'm sure in "real life" you are irrelevant. I mean you want to talk about rude, why don't you reread your own comments. sheesh, all you ladies #bitterpartyof1

1. Since when do we need anyone's permission to post our opinions?

2. Even if previous posters were being rude (we weren't), does that make being rude right back to us OK?

Get over yourself.

[Deleted User] · May 2016

haha! Bridal shaming is Real. Relax hunny- no one said you needed permission, I was just pointing out the obvious and its my opinion. Also- if you only have 2 points to make, numbering them by bullet point isn't really necessary OK?

[Deleted User] · May 2016

thisismynickname said:

glasgowtolondon said:

Knottie1462220777 said:

All these comments are so funny. The girl never asked about anyone's opinion on gaps. You all sound like desperate women who need to have their opinions heard because I'm sure in "real life" you are irrelevant. I mean you want to talk about rude, why don't you reread your own comments. sheesh, all you ladies #bitterpartyof1

You forgot to tell everyone that you feel sorry for their husbands. If you must tell people off can you make sure to do it right? Thanks!!!!!!!

BOX

The vast majority of us are engaged or married. Try #bitterpartyof2.

You did it just fine for me. Yes, happily I'm sure

justsie · May 2016

Knottie1462220777 said:

haha! Bridal shaming is Real. Relax hunny- no one said you needed permission, I was just pointing out the obvious and its my opinion. Also- if you only have 2 points to make, numbering them by bullet point isn't really necessary OK?

This comment is so funny. The girl never asked about anyone's opinion on her responses she got to this question. You sound like a desperate woman who needs to have their opinion heard because I'm sure in "real life" you are irrelevant.

[Deleted User] · May 2016

Aww...i see what you did there. cute

madamerwin · May 2016

Knottie1462220777 said:

haha! Bridal shaming is Real. Relax hunny- no one said you needed permission, I was just pointing out the obvious and its my opinion. Also- if you only have 2 points to make, numbering them by bullet point isn't really necessary OK?

Something tells me you are also having a gap, and probably a honeyfund to boot. Or, you are the OP and just set up an alias to defends yourself. Which is against the rules, by the way...

[Deleted User] · May 2016

hahahah...I'm sorry I have no idea what you just said. Congrats on the 10 months, 2 weeks, and 5 days. Probably your biggest accomplishment yet! And with no gap TO BOOT!

madamerwin · May 2016

Knottie1462220777 said:

hahahah...I'm sorry I have no idea what you just said. Congrats on the 10 months, 2 weeks, and 5 days. Probably your biggest accomplishment yet! And with no gap TO BOOT!

I see reading comprehension is not your strong suit.

[Deleted User] · May 2016

OR maybe I just don't speak bitchy bride. Being the full time knot forum police must take up most of your day, I just don't know how you do it ALL!

banana468 · May 2016

Knottie1462220777 said:

OR maybe I just don't speak bitchy bride. Being the full time knot forum police must take up most of your day, I just don't know how you do it ALL!

Are you sure?

madamerwin · May 2016

Knottie1462220777 said:

OR maybe I just don't speak bitchy bride. Being the full time knot forum police must take up most of your day, I just don't know how you do it ALL!

[Deleted User] · May 2016

There you go again! Now adding memes of an adolescent movie. Genius.

holyguacamole79 · May 2016

[Deleted User] · May 2016

yes..SUPER obvious!! And you- 3 years married!? Holy guacamole is right! Keep working on those comments ladies and you'll get those badges. The sky is the limit

madamerwin · May 2016

Knottie1462220777 said:

yes..SUPER obvious!! And you- 3 years married!? Holy guacamole is right! Keep working on those comments ladies and you'll get those badges. The sky is the limit

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kimmiinthemitten · May 2016

So I'm guessing the troll is either Hot Chocolate Reception or the Wall Harasser who is still bitter and came back to remind us all how awful we are.

[Deleted User] · May 2016

wait, question.....do the memes get you extra points? You ladies are doing great work, really.

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