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"Plan to stand, or get wet."

bleve0821bleve0821 member
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edited June 2016 in Chit Chat
....I feel like most of this is terrible, horrible, no-good, very bad advice.  I would feel zero "camaraderie amongst" the other guests when we all had to "traipse out to [the] ceremony site holding umbrellas."  Most assuredly, I would not be "laughing at the rain."

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  • charlotte989875charlotte989875 member
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    So much no here no, I would not be ok standing the whole time or getting a wet ass. No, if I was a BM would I be OK standing around taking around taking pictures just because you bought me cute wellies from DSW. And I'd be especially passed if I paid to get my hair and makeup done to have them ruined as soon as I went outside. Also if I was a guest I'd probably be wearing a long dress and H would be wearing a suit which from the looks of it would be dirty and wet walking out to the ceremony site. Yah no I wouldn't be cool with anyone of this. 
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    No way.  Just a big ol pile of nope.

    I just attended an outdoor wedding at the beach.  It was gorgeous.   But I trust that the couple would have moved it inside if the weather didn't hold up.

    Maybe it's just me but if I see you refusing to compromise on a vision for your wedding day then I don't have high hopes for how you're going to enter into the marriage.   
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  • thisismynickname2thisismynickname2 member
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    Her attitude is terrible. I'm glad she ran around getting wellies and umbrellas for her bridal party, but the "stand or get a wet ass" attitude is disgusting. She should have added 1 clear poncho per guest so people could wear it and sit, or, I don't know, rented a fucking tent. 
    Drizzle is one thing, rain, I might stand outside for a bit, but pouring rain? I'm missing your ceremony. See ya inside by the bar. 
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  • OurWildKingdomOurWildKingdom member
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    Heffalump said:
    How...how do you not plan for this ahead of time?  Who are these people who go through life trusting that they'll just be lucky, and shrugging (and putting the burden on others) when they're not?

    DH and I were married outside.  It was beautiful.  The indoor space used as a backup was beautiful, too.  I think that was my second question when we met with the coordinator:  1. How many people will it hold, and 2. What is the backup plan in case of rain?

    I mean, my daughter has a summer birthday and usually wants a pool party, and I still have a plan in case of rain, even for handful of kids.  So not having a Plan B for a freaking wedding boggles my mind.  Rain isn't some weird, random thing like an earthquake.  This is Earth.  It rains sometimes.  And standing in the rain =/= a backup plan.

    ETA:  "This is the one time in your life you can tell a huge group of people that they have to stand in the rain and they will be happy to do so!"

    Uh, no.  I can guaran-damn-tee that they were not "happy to do so."
    Know what I'd be happy to do? Buy them a black velvet painting of a spooky-looking big-eyed kid.
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  • ei34ei34 member
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    I was annoyed that she kept reiterating "This is YOUR day.  Everyone will be happy to do what YOU want!".  Then she had the nerve to lump guests and vendors together.  Yes, the vendors are professionals and have a job to do and are getting paid and (hopefully) tipped accordingly, so the rain isn't the end of the world.  You can't say the same for guests, aka the people important enough to you to have been invited to such a special event.  Way to treat them :s
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  • lnixon8lnixon8 member
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    eileenrob said:
    I was annoyed that she kept reiterating "This is YOUR day.  Everyone will be happy to do what YOU want!".  Then she had the nerve to lump guests and vendors together.  Yes, the vendors are professionals and have a job to do and are getting paid and (hopefully) tipped accordingly, so the rain isn't the end of the world.  You can't say the same for guests, aka the people important enough to you to have been invited to such a special event.  Way to treat them :s
    If she would have stopped at photographer than I would have understood. But everything else (besides the officiant that will have their hands full with the added umbrella) has to do with the reception, which sounds like it will still be outside in the rain.

    Your florist should know how to make centerpieces that still look great after being rained on for hours? First of all no and if your reception is still in the rain people will not notice droopy centerpieces.


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  • ei34ei34 member
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    lnixon8 said:
    If she would have stopped at photographer than I would have understood. But everything else (besides the officiant that will have their hands full with the added umbrella) has to do with the reception, which sounds like it will still be outside in the rain.

    Your florist should know how to make centerpieces that still look great after being rained on for hours? First of all no and if your reception is still in the rain people will not notice droopy centerpieces.
    If she didn't care about her guests' comfort, I don't think she was worried about what they thought of the centerpieces.  The florist drops the centerpieces at the venue and leaves, so I don't think the florist was terribly thrown off.  I imagine the DJ brings some sort of tent to protect his or her equipment.  And speaking from my waitressing days (my restaurant had an outdoor area, and sometimes patrons "didn't mind" the rain and wanted to sit out on the patio), servers can technically do there job in the rain.  The three examples I just provided totally suck, and the bride was being selfish.  But my original comment was that there's a difference between professionals working in the rain for you and guests volunteering their time to be out in the rain for you.
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  • CharmedPamCharmedPam member
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    I do like that picture of them kissing in the rain, or them on the staircase, and hopefully their guests were inside enjoying cocktail hour while only the two were getting those shots done.

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  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    edited May 2016
    You'd have to be real asshole to think it's okay to march your guests through muck in their dress shoes and tell them to get their asses wet or stand. Oh wait, I know such an asshole.

    H and I attended a rainy garden in the park wedding. It had already been raining 12 solid hours, with predictions of another 12. We drove to the site, expecting to be redirected to the plan b site. Nope, the bride was insisting on her super special garden wedding. The bride and her bm were having drinks at a local bar, hoping for a break in the rain. The groom was angry and would have saved himself the cost of a divorce had he just left and not married her. That was one horrible wedding. 
                       
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  • CharmedPamCharmedPam member
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    @MairePoppy, even reading through that, I'm like 'how much fun is this even for the bride????'  WHO wants to sit in that?

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  • OurWildKingdomOurWildKingdom member
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    CharmedPam said:
    @MairePoppy, even reading through that, I'm like 'how much fun is this even for the bride????'  WHO wants to sit in that?
    Right???? You spend hundreds of dollars on a dress and are OK with getting it rained on?

    FW wants an outdoor ceremony in the park, but we're going to rent or borrow chairs, and if there's even a threat of rain or it's crazy hot, the ceremony will be inside.
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  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    CharmedPam said:
    @MairePoppy, even reading through that, I'm like 'how much fun is this even for the bride????'  WHO wants to sit in that?
    Sit? Why are you assuming there were chairs? Silly woman. This was one of those standing ceremonies.

    I believe the bride thought the clouds would magically part as she stepped out of the bar. She had to hike her white dress high to make it to the tiny gazebo, ruining her shoes. Her dad shielded her with an umbrella, but still, she got wet. It was so stupid because the reception was in a banquet room of a steakhouse. They could have gotten married there.

    Also, this was the only cash bar wedding in CT that I've ever attended. No champagne toast, no wine at the table. The FOB didn't want people getting drunk on his dime. The POG offered to host an open bar and the offer was declined. Cash bar didn't stop people from getting drunk. I'll always remember that wedding, but for all the wrong reasons.

                       
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  • levioosalevioosa member
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    How has no one commented on the picture of the B&G walking back down the aisle, with the groom only holding the umbrella over himself?

    This is selfish as hell.  If I am spending the time, effort, and money to come see you get married, the least thing you can fucking do is to make sure I at least stay dry.  This isn't a splash zone water show at Sea World.  


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  • MissKittyDangerMissKittyDanger member
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    We joked about the weather, and would have probably taken a few photos in the rain {my rain boots are pink with silhouettes of cats} as a joke, but making everyone go out in the rain? No thanks. Our wedding was Aug 1st and we had old family members to concern about.
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    edited June 2016
    kmmssg said:
    So many replies at the bottom of the blog about how wonderful this is. You can't tell me she hasn't deleted a boatload of negative comments. If I was invited to an outdoor wedding and it was raining I would be in the car waiting for cocktail hour.
    Hi there! I am the bride and blogger, and yes I *can* tell you I have not deleted a "boatload of negative comments." This is actually the first negative thing I've *ever* seen or heard of about my wedding.

    Typically, I see things like this:  *link edited out by mod*

    Or this *edited link out by mod*

    Most people struggle(d) with an indoor/outdoor decision and stock-looking photos don't really convey the reality and stress of having to choose. For me, it was easy. For my guests - it was even easier. They just had to show up and stand in place for 15 minutes and then party like rockstars til midnight.

    Of course my guests were welcome to wait anywhere they wished. All of them chose to stand in the rain and watch my husband and I have a super fun, albeit slightly wet, ceremony.  My older Uncle still pings me when he see's the Land Rover commercial because it reminds him of our day and how much fun we had.

    Hope this context and perspective helps you!

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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    thisismynickname said:
    Her attitude is terrible. I'm glad she ran around getting wellies and umbrellas for her bridal party, but the "stand or get a wet ass" attitude is disgusting. She should have added 1 clear poncho per guest so people could wear it and sit, or, I don't know, rented a fucking tent. 
    Drizzle is one thing, rain, I might stand outside for a bit, but pouring rain? I'm missing your ceremony. See ya inside by the bar. 

    It was actually more of a drizzle... definitely not a full on thunderstorm. But I'm Floridian (as were 98% of my guests) so my thoughts on rain are probably biased.

    The venue provided umbrellas, btw. :)

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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    levioosa said:
    How has no one commented on the picture of the B&G walking back down the aisle, with the groom only holding the umbrella over himself?

    This is selfish as hell.  If I am spending the time, effort, and money to come see you get married, the least thing you can fucking do is to make sure I at least stay dry.  This isn't a splash zone water show at Sea World.  
    Actually, *I* commented on that to my husband. Personally I think it's hysterical and we joke that he kissed me so silly that I forgot to pick up my umbrella for the walk back. By that point the rain was only the slightest drizzle so it was quite fine. At the end of the isle, my entire wedding party tossed the umbrellas for uncovered group shots and no one got wet.

    I'll have to show my husband this comment! Too funny!
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    eileenrob said:
    I was annoyed that she kept reiterating "This is YOUR day.  Everyone will be happy to do what YOU want!".  Then she had the nerve to lump guests and vendors together.  Yes, the vendors are professionals and have a job to do and are getting paid and (hopefully) tipped accordingly, so the rain isn't the end of the world.  You can't say the same for guests, aka the people important enough to you to have been invited to such a special event.  Way to treat them :s

    Interesting perspective. Ultimately, it was my day, and I did pay for, well, everything. (Parent's didn't help, it was all us).  So, yeah we had the day we wanted which included a 15 minute ceremony in the rain. :)

    For what it's worth: My friends and family still reference my wedding as the best they've been to. The reception was indoors and absurdly fun. I fed everyone well and had an open bar - no complaints, rain and all.
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    CharmedPam said:
    I do like that picture of them kissing in the rain, or them on the staircase, and hopefully their guests were inside enjoying cocktail hour while only the two were getting those shots done.
    Thank you! Yes, everyone was inside drinking while we took those photos. It was only the ceremony that was outside and we don't regret a second of it (and neither do our guests).
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