I have been to weddings before where, instead of a traditional registry, they ask for money to put towards a new home or a honeymoon. I honestly always really liked that idea and didn't think anything of it. My FH and I both had our own fully furnished apartments when we met and when we moved in together ended up having to get rid of quite a bit of it due to not having the room for it all. We plan on staying in our current home for several more years at least, and honestly hardly have room for the belongings that we have already. When I get something new for my kitchen I have to rearrange the whole thing just to find room! (I know, first world problems right?) When we attend other weddings we always just give cash or write a check anyway instead of buying a gift from the couple's registry. To me at least, this has always seemed easier than having to carry around a gift and make sure it gets in the right spot and hoping they like it etc etc. The weddings that we have gone to where the couple specifically makes a request for money to go towards a goal of theirs (ie: honeymoon, new house, etc) always seemed like a great idea and was something that we are planning on doing as well. That all being said...I've been reading discussions on the different boards on here and people seem to have a much different opinion from me that this is incredibly rude and tacky. Is asking for money not something that is socially acceptable?
This is what I put on the Registry portion of our website and I thought it was appropriate but now am not sure at all!
"We can't wait to get married and are so honored to have you at our wedding! If you would like to help us start our new life together, in lieu of a normal registry we would ask for a money gift to help us on our way to our dream honeymoon! We are lucky enough to have all of the physical things we could possibly need and are very much looking forward to the experience of a lifetime on our honeymoon."
The last thing I want is for people to feel like we're being rude but at the same time, any gifts we get will honestly go right back to the store for credit until we buy a house in 5 years or so. That makes no sense to me, but if it's either that or have people think we're rude and tacky then should we reconsider our "registry?"