I'm going to indulge in a vent somewhere that my mother will probably never see so bear with me.
Background: My mom has always been "meh" towards any of my milestones past high school graduation. College graduation? "Thanks for fucking up my taxes by graduating at the end of December. Now I can't claim you next year." Moving out to my own place? "You better find time to move without intruding on MY time (aka when I expect you to be doing chores). And now I have to rework the family budget since you're fucking me over by not paying rent and utilities anymore." Got engaged? "That was quick. I hope you're not expecting me to contribute anything for the wedding."
So somehow I shouldn't be surprised that she's treating my wedding like an inconvenience, but it still irritates me. So far she's gotten an attitude when I invite her to come along for any wedding related stuff except for the caterer tasting. The appointments she does deign to come along to, she complains the entire time. But when I don't invite her to things she throws a fit about being left out. My bachelorette party was this past weekend, being thrown by some mutual friends of FI and I. She hates these friends and had a craft show all day on Saturday, so I didn't invite her. She threw a bitch fit, even after admitting that she wouldn't have come anyways. She hates my stepdad (still married to and living with him though) and got pissed when I told her that I would have him walk me partway down the aisle, then she could walk me the rest of the way. Is it horrible that I'm hoping she does one of her "I'm not talking to you" spats right before the wedding?
I know I can't change her, just how I react to her. But seriously, I'm getting so tired of her shit. Vent over - now I'm going to drink a margarita and eat some ice cream.