So I found the perfect photography company that I wanted to shoot the wedding, and I told my mom about it right after the initial consultation. She and her boyfriend offered to pay for said photographer. That was back in April, and it is now July. I have asked her about the deposit a few times, maybe once or twice a month since then, and she's always saying "oh, i'll let you know I have to check my finances," which i totally understand, to an extent. However, me and FH went to visit yesterday and both my mom and her boyfriend proceeded to gloat over all the lego sets, amazon firesticks, dvds, and xbox one games they bought for themselves over the last few months, and made no mention of when they were going to make the deposit for us.
So, this obviously upset both me and my FH because this isn't the first time they've said that they would buy or pay for something for us (or other family members) and they never follow through. It feels like they aren't taking this wedding or their contribution seriously.
In my mom's eyes she considers her boyfriend "my dad/father" which is he far from in any aspect, even if they have been together for like 12 years, and she never fails to call him "your dad" to me, which is annoying beyond all belief. And i've explained that to her many times but she doesn't listen. She's very opinionated, and almost immature sometimes when I or FI talk to her. She even went as far as saying that I had to include him in the wedding somehow, which wasn't on my agenda at all; like, he is being invited, that is more than enough, and that was like pulling teeth because I didn't want him invited, but my mom is petty about everything and wouldn't have showed up if he wasn't invited.
Also, she can be condescending, and fully believes i won't be able to lose weight by the time the wedding comes around (Sept 2017), and she makes fun of me about it all the time. And she acts like she is smarter than anyone, including FI, like she almost belittles him in a joking way, if that makes sense. She treats him like a little boy and i find it offensive, because she doesn't give him the respect a man deserves, IMO, but her boyfriend is like the perfect dude and he's SO HORRIBLE. no one in my family likes him even!
So idk, if i'm just ranting or if there's anyone who experiences mom's being rude or unreliable and has any advice.