FI and I are getting married on 10/14/16 and his aunt and uncle just told us this week that they are wanting to have a party for us. Great! We're looking at the calendar right now for a free Saturday. This is insane...
7/30 - too soon. That's this weekend.
8/6 - We're going to a concert
8/13 - Friend's birthday party
8/20 - Out of town
8/27 - Free
9/3 - My parents are throwing us basically the exact same party for both families and the wedding party and their families. I don't want to have the same party 2 weeks in a row, especially since my parents have been planning theirs for 2 months and if their party is 2nd, I'm worried that'll be the one that people skip or are irritated by since they're back to back shindigs.
9/10 - Pre-marriage classes all weekend
9/17 - Free but FI said no because it's a huge rivalry football game and no one will want to come. (I agree with him....huge football state)
9/24 - MOH (parents are the ones wanting to have the party) is a bridesmaid in another wedding
10/1 - Free
10/8 - Bachelorette Party
10/15 - We got married yesterday.
WHERE HAS THE LAST YEAR GONE SINCE THE ENGAGEMENT??????? Is it rude to expect the same people to do back to back parties? We're not asking for gifts or doing a registry so that's ok. It's more of a time commitment. Is 10/1 too close to the actual wedding? Is it ok to say no to someone offering to have a party for us??
Re: Too Many Parties, not enough weekends left.
Formerly martha1818
"Thank you so much for offering to host a party for us, we greatly appreciate all of your love and support. We are so excited about the big day and it is coming up so quickly! FI and I have had a good look at the calendar and there aren't any available weekends that could work for a party like the one you are proposing. I know, it is too bad since your offer sounded so great. But you know how busy the last few months leading up to a wedding can be! And I need to make sure there is some spare time left in there to take care of all of the last minute details. How about a family dinner one night next week instead? Just you guys, FI and I and MOH? This would be a much better opportunity for us to actually talk instead anyways! Please let me know what you think."
And if she insists..."no, I'm sorry that just won't work for us." And repeat.
It just seems like a lot of parties for one person. By the time the engagement party your parents are throwing, bachelorette party, any showers, and wedding are over, it's pretty overkill to have yet another "celebrate me!" event after your wedding. Is the aunt wanting to invite anyone not invited to your wedding to this party as well? Because that really wouldn't be cool either.
This isn't just directed at you, but this board seems full of posts that think saying "no thank you" is a four letter word, which it's really not.
Formerly martha1818
Also, after the wedding and honeymoon, I was looking forward to just getting back to normal. I wouldn't have wanted to attend/host another event.
I don't see a problem with having a bach party the weekend before, so long as the date works for you and the host.